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My mother thinks my dad’s clothes are too skimpy

51 replies

Notcontent · 04/07/2020 14:04

This is something I never thought I would be posting about...

My other is in her 60s but has always been young for her age, in that she has always had younger friends and looks and behaves like someone younger. She considers herself to be someone who has liberal views, etc. This is why I am so surprised by her views all of a sudden!

Dd is 14 and very sensible. When she first entered the tween/teen phase, she was very uncomfortable with the changes to her body and just wanted to wear trousers and baggy jumpers. In the last few months she seems to have finally become more comfortable with herself and not feel ,ike she has to hide. Today she wore a new top, which is quite fitted but with some loose mum style jeans and trainers. She sent a photo to my mother and my mother actually called her and asked her if I knew she was wearing that as it was inappropriate!!! I had a conversation with my mother and my mother seems to think 14 year olds should not wear anything that is slightly revealing. The thing is that dd just dresses to please herself - no one else - and she is not even curvy so does not look like she is trying to look sexy or anything... the top was a bit like this:

cdn.tobi.com/product_images/lg/1/multi-anne-puff-sleeve-crop-top.jpg

Thoughts? Am I an irresponsible parent?

OP posts:

Chickychickydodah · 04/07/2020 14:31

I think the top is lovely and age appropriate ...

TheDogsMother · 04/07/2020 14:31

I'm cracking up here. Thanks for the laugh OP even if it wasn't intentional. The top looks lovely BTW and just fine for a 14 year old.

CucumberTree · 04/07/2020 14:32

Also disappointed after the thread title!

But your mother has no say in what your daughter wears. Top looks fine and you want to encourage your daughter to love her body not be dictated to by others

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iklboo · 04/07/2020 14:51

I'll admit I thought your dad was in budgie smugglers or something

RuddyP · 04/07/2020 14:56

We have a 13 year old and that too would be deemed inappropriate here. If your mum disagrees with you but it doesn't sound like she was awful about it. A lot of people would think that top wasn't ok on a 14 year old. Or on anyone really!

passthemustard · 04/07/2020 15:00

It's a lovely top. My 3 girls all wear similar and I think they look lovely.

People do tend to get more conservative as they get older but I wouldn't worry too much. You are not a terrible parent.

LunaNorth · 04/07/2020 15:06

Is this your dad, OP?

lurker69 · 04/07/2020 15:15

i only clicked on this to see wtf your dad has been wearing i am so disappointed.
Anyway.. i have a 15 year old and i just let her wear what she wants, i don't want her to feel like she has to dress in any way except how she feels comfortable.

SeagoingSexpot · 04/07/2020 15:20

Also gutted it wasn't your dad. I was hoping for a highly amusing parental exposure wrangle

I think the top is fine and absolutely the kind of thing I'd expect a girl of that age to be wearing.

HaudMaDug · 04/07/2020 15:27

Thought this was maybe about my ex and his Daisy Dukes that I refused to let him wear in my company.

iklboo · 04/07/2020 15:29

Are you going overseas? That's a pretty top and not very revealing but totally get that in some countries it might not be appropriate (not that I agree women should be told how they're allowed to dress but that's for that country / culture to decide not me).

draughtycatflap · 04/07/2020 15:32

So disappointed not to be reading about ‘moose knuckle’ of the hot dad variety...

BogRollBOGOF · 04/07/2020 15:37

DD's top is gorgeous.
Don't let her lend it to your dad though

I used to wear a lot of cropped tops in the 90s so nothing new there. I'm glad I did as I had a lovely build. Saying that, I will still strip to a running bra/ cropped top now. High waisted leggings hide most of the crimes that pregnancy/ birth committed against my abdomen, and most of what's above my tummy button is vaguely passable. I'm more comfortable keeping cool in that state so the world can like it or lump it.

TenThousandSpoons · 04/07/2020 15:42

I’m sure that top looks lovely on your dad 😆

IncrediblySadToo · 04/07/2020 15:48

I'm disappointed it's not about your Dad too. I was very curious as to what your Dad could possibly have just started wearing that your mum would think was 'too skimpy'. It's not a normal description of men's clothing 🤣🙄

It's a lovely top on a young teen. Tell your mother to wind her head in, tell her she's starting to sound 'out of touch'. That should shut her up 🤣

Fred578 · 04/07/2020 15:50

That thread title mistake is hilarious. I came on here wondering what on earth OP’s dad was wearing 😂

ChickenDrumstick · 04/07/2020 16:04

Do you think maybe she is being overprotective? My grandparents used to be obsessed with what I wore. I remember they were staying when I was a teen and I was going out in the middle of the day. It was summer and a hundred degrees. They got very upset that I didn’t take a coat!!!

I would just have a quiet word with her and ask why she is feeling this way. Make it clear that your DD isn’t dressing inappropriately and you don’t want her GM do give her a complex and could she just keep her opinions to herself please?

billy1966 · 04/07/2020 16:33

Funny thread...I too was curious about your dad's attire.

The top is just gorgeous.

I think your mum should mind her own business and I wouldn't hesitate to tell her so!

Toilenstripes · 04/07/2020 16:38

I clicked on this thread feeling so hopeful....

But yeah, your DM is quite wrong.

taybert · 04/07/2020 16:38

I think it’s a really nice top and styled the way you describe is fun, pretty and age appropriate. I wouldn’t consider it sexy.

Livedandlearned · 04/07/2020 16:39

This thread really cheered me up, the comments have had me crying 🤣

TeamLannister · 04/07/2020 16:53

Your ma's went back to the 1850's...ignore her. Your DD's outfit sounds lovely.
Also disappointed it's not about your da flaunting himself in a pair of 80' footballer shorts...

NoWordForFluffy · 04/07/2020 16:58

@Minniee

That's really really tickled me. Sorry

Me too. Far too much really. I think lockdown has got to me somewhat! 😂😂😂

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 04/07/2020 16:58

and she is not even curvy so does not look like she is trying to look sexy or anything

So if she was curvy it would be inappropriate, because curvy girls are obviously trying to look sexy but a slim girl wearing a top like that isn't?
There is nothing wrong with the top.

NC4Now · 04/07/2020 17:01

That’s a lovely top. I’m picturing your dad in it though...

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