Wolf whistling harmless or degrading

[CambsAlways]

Having a conversation with a couple of friends, both in thirties, we got talking about men wolf whistling etc, though it doesn’t happen quite so much now, both my friends had dif view one would welcome being whistled at, the other horrified and disgusted what do you all think

I hate it more when they are in a car and beep at you to make you jump, they then find that hilarious.

It’s harmless and a bit of fun. I’ve never been offended by it and I really don’t see how anyone could be.

@TimeWastingButFun

Totally harmless

How is it totally harmless for a man to think they have an entitlement to pass judgement over a woman for her looks?

Degrading. It's a rank example of male entitlement and makes me feel exposed and vulnerable. I hate it, and think any man that does it is a complete cunt.

Correction, I find it totally harmless.

Harmless. It's never bothered me.

Hate it. Hate it.

For me it started at 11 years old. Interestingly it doesn't happen now I'm in my 40's. That's a bit fucked up.

I've always hated it. When I was younger it made me feel intimidated and now I'm older I know they are just taking the piss.

I particular hate the 'alright darlin'' type behaviour when they're walking towards you and if you say something you get the 'take it as a compliment' 'I'm just being friendly' Oh just fuck off

Sexist and objectifying in whatever form it takes.

Hate it. Why should I give a fuck what any random man thinks of my physical appearance?

I hated it as a teen and found it frightening at night. It always came from loud, unattractive and ill educated men, who if I ignored them proceeded to tell me either that I was a snob or that they’d like to do xxx to me. I was 10 the first time it happened. Walking home with DM. Gross!

As a teenage girl I found it really intimidating, embarrassing and irritating. In 2020 I really would not think it is acceptable. As a teenage I would walk a mile round the block to avoid walking past a building site. It’s usually the really repulsive men that do it nowadays that I really don’t need their affirmation.

And yes when I ignore these repulsive ugly dirty men I usually get “smile babe it could be worse”. Actually i will not smile for you thanks.

Horrible.
Intimidated me when I was a teen, pushed me off as a young adult. Why should some male stranger see fit to publicly judge me based on his fuckability scale?

Male entitlement, female objectification.
Never ok.

I once ignored a bloke who was cat calling me. He loudly shouted across the street ‘nice legs shame about the face”. 35 years later that still knocks my confidence when I think about it.

Degrading. Doesn't make me feel unsafe but I think what on earth gives them the right to make these comments to women? I tend to say something too when it happens.

God, I use to hate cars honking and wolf whistles, especially when I was on my own. It did feel threatening.

@Coffeeandbeans

And yes when I ignore these repulsive ugly dirty men I usually get “smile babe it could be worse”. Actually i will not smile for you thanks.

Ugh I detest it when a man sees fit to tell me to smile, if I wanted to smile then I would. Still happens very occasionally in my 50's, it's just revolting.

I’m not bothered by it. Haven’t heard it for a long time though, but im aware of being looked at when out and about.

I find it threatening. What motivation do they have for doing it? Even worse when they're in a car and you can't get away.

I used to get it at least once a day walking to and from work, made me furious. I should be able to travel to work without being harassed and intimidated ffs. I drive now.

I hate it, I'm not an object to be commented on.

There have been a few times where I've been whistled at/ had comments made and when I've ignored them they decided to shout that I must be a slag and a whore .

Watching random people passing to decide what judgement to give? Rude and weird.

Commenting out loud on random people passing? Rude and intrusive.

Whistling at random people? Rude and intrusive.

Something catches your eye and you think 'wow that's nice!' Mention it to them if you get the opportunity. (Lady in Iceland who admired my jumper).

I have to admit that it doesn't bother me, but then it really hasn't happened that much at all. Perhaps I move in the wrong/right circles, or there is some other reason.

Think it's really rude, why do I need to know what a stranger thinks of me. Keep your opinions to yourself!

I usually just said f off or deployed a to anyone who whistled or made remarks. Now I get more 'cheer up' type remarks and I respond same way.

This makes me sound grumpier than I really am! I feel a bit the same when women comment on my clothes or hair etc. but try not to swear then, usually just say 'oh'.

That was awful Coffee.No excuse for that What a pathetic little man.