ADs predict wine and rioting before 6.30pm (but only if the sun's out)

[Dowser]

Over here peeps.

Not much sun today..so plenty of wine it is

My mum was another 'take me to a field and shoot me' one. She had RA, and was in constant chronic pain and that combined with bronchiolitis was what she died of. She passed quietly - went to sleep and didn't awake. I thought then it was a relief. She didn't suffer, and was suffering anymore. My dad also died suddenly (coronary embolism). Again, no suffering. It felt very unfair, as he was relatively fit, (he was early 70s) and had even managed to give up the dreaded fags! FIL had cancer, 6 weeks from diagnosis to death. It was horrible, even for that relatively short time. The last week particularly was 'lingering' and he was ready to go. DH was 1 year from diagnosis. He was very up and down, as the disease progressed and was treated. But the last few weeks particularly were very difficult. Chatting to friends who have lost close relatives, we have all said the same - a quick/sudden death is much 'better' (wrong word, but you know what I mean) for the person. And in many ways for the ones left behind too. It might jot have been 'their time', they may have been 'taken to soon' (my lovely bil who died 2 months back), but we console ourselves by knowing their suffering was minimal.

Apologies, for the waffle, and the morbid nature. God help me if a dementor finds me!

Does anyone besides me miss dressing up to go somewhere? I'd like to wear slightly uncomfortable shoes and get my hair done and just feel glamorous for a bit.

SO MUCH!

I look like a bloody bag lady in jeans and stupid Robert Plant hair.

However I have just booked a hair appointment! Thank God.

@HesterShaw1

Does anyone besides me miss dressing up to go somewhere? I'd like to wear slightly uncomfortable shoes and get my hair done and just feel glamorous for a bit.

SO MUCH!

I look like a bloody bag lady in jeans and stupid Robert Plant hair.

However I have just booked a hair appointment! Thank God.

I miss going out for food and not having to clear up after

My dad has Alzheimer’s. ‘Middle’ stage at the moment, and he still has a good quality of life at home, but what he’s able to enjoy is becoming more limited. He’s otherwise in good health (and only 71) so his decline is likely to be long. If Covid took him out this winter and spared him that, I’d actually prefer that so none of us have to go through what is ahead.

Oh god the cooking. Yes. I am utterly shit at uninterested in cooking anyway, but save for the odd takeaway, I have made every single meal for myself since March. Boyf and I don't live together and he is a single dad with commitments so we don't see loads of each other. He can cook, and I am very much looking forward to him doing it for me. A lot.

Does anyone besides me miss dressing up to go somewhere? I'd like to wear slightly uncomfortable shoes and get my hair done and just feel glamorous for a bit.

Yes! Can’t wait to go and sit somewhere swanky and few glamorous whilst drinking a very expensive glass of wine (expensive wine helps me limit my intake 😎)

@Librarybooksandacoconut

My dad has Alzheimer’s. ‘Middle’ stage at the moment, and he still has a good quality of life at home, but what he’s able to enjoy is becoming more limited. He’s otherwise in good health (and only 71) so his decline is likely to be long. If Covid took him out this winter and spared him that, I’d actually prefer that so none of us have to go through what is ahead.

Sorry for the clusterposting

@Librarybooksandacoconut, it's tough. Wishing you every strength and hoping you will be spared the worst it can bring. Lots of people are. I hope you can make the most of this "middle" time - it can bring surprising amounts of laughter. Treasure them.

My dad also was young to get Alzheimer's - he was only 68 when diagnosed. It's a bitch of a disease

I actually like cooking but I can't manage much at the moment. So we live on what DH puts in the oven. Even the DC have started to take the piss out of him. "Dad should be on masterchef! So we're having pizza. The trick is the take it out of the box before you put it in the oven..."

DH does all the cooking in our house, and he’s good at it, but I still desperately want to eat at a restaurant!

Wow! Just read the new wedding guidelines. Obviously written by Dementor Central.

Couples should wash hands before exchanging rings..... is it April 1st?

@Cattermole sympathies re alcoholic DM. Mine was alcoholic for the last 20+ years, died suddenly last October (I haven't really had chance to grieve properly as other life shit hit then bloody covid) and I felt so guilty for not having seen her often or called her much, but she was so often drunk and I found that hard to deal with.
I've been drinking more in lockdown, but very rarely get drunk. Never around my DCs. DM and DstepF both drank too kcuh and he still does. It's a thing in his family, they are all pissheads (plus drugs) so I tend to avoid the lot of them.

Re family deaths, DMIL died a month before lockdown (we got the funeral but not the wake as that was planned for April), technically of a chest infection but she had inflammatory breast cancer than kept spreading. If she'd died a month later they'd have assumed the chest infection was covid and she'd be another statistic.

DM died very suddenly at the end of last October, age 56. Had been a little poorly, getting better then died in her sleep. PM found tumours, we were all really grateful that she went quickly in her sleep because she hated hospitals, people, buildings (lived on a boat, brought me up in caravans!) and would never have had treatment. She could have been diagnosed, gone through horrible treatment involving loads of stressful hospital visits and then if she survived probabaly look forward to dementia and a nursing home which she'd have hated.
Yes, I was devastated to lose my mum so young. But she would have HATED any of that and will have been grateful to die in her sleep, on her boat, clutching her reading glasses, book and favourite cuddly tiger!

We all die, it sucks for those left behind when we feel it was too soon, but old age with ill health and/or dementia for years sucks more.
As a nurse I'm probably more pragmatic than most, but I've no desire to live beyond my usefulness and if I get dementia I'd really rather be dead. Sorry.

Seriously dementor patient at work today, can't give details by oh my god, if that's their life I'm just sorry for them and angry at the world for creating the conditions that mean people feel this way. So sad.

I read jane plaidY/ anya seton / Catherine holt/ Catherine Cookson while growing up
I loved historical fiction also
Read phillipa Gregory more recently . Sadly never got to meet her but she was instrumental in setting up an education centre in town where you could go and learn something new and there was a creche for the kids.
It’s where I met a marvelous woman who took us for assertiveness training, then introduced to co counselling and why I decided to train to be a counsellor at Cruse and relate
That was a long , long time ago. My youngest went to the crèche and he was about 2 or three

35 years ago.

I don’t read much now..too busy ipadding and learning about stuff to keep me and mr Dowser well.

@Worldgonecrazy

Wow! Just read the new wedding guidelines. Obviously written by Dementor Central.

Couples should wash hands before exchanging rings..... is it April 1st?

I just saw that! How ridiculous considering most couples will live together anyway. Christ on a bike.

Monday sadly death numbers have basically doubled, dementors will love this!

I had a great day at first today, went to IKEA (which was empty) and spent a frightening amount of money but made our bedroom look lovely again. Then DH and I went for Macdonald's and watched star wars until it was time to get the kids from school.

However then after over a month I read that my town has had an outbreak related to a nursery, 20 cases. We've gone from weeks and weeks of none to 20! Then saw the uk sadly death figure was higher, I think secretly I'd been hoping it may go into single figures today. 😞

Feels like 2 steps forward 1 step back at the moment. I NEED some fucking positive news!!!

God I hate cooking too
Hate it.
I'd give DH takeout and freezer food every night if i could but can't do that to the kids.
It's so tedious.
I don't understand how people enjoy it
DH cooks on the weekends

I keep thinking of the lovely prunella scales who has entertained so well over the years.
Such a horrible diseas

@SpnBaby1967 now, now no hyperbole. Todays total is 25 last Mondays was 15 thats not double! Sigh numbers at this level are very volatile thats why we look at the 7 day trend...

DH is a software guy, @dowser and now he's mid 40s it's hitting him how much brighter and quicker many new graduates are. Only a few years ago, he was the go to code monkey and someone would drop him a task and he'd bang it out but now he's the one dropping the tasks! He does worry about becoming obsolete, even though many of the guys he works with are older and dies worry about treading that fine line between being too much of a generalist and too narrowly specialised.

[quote BakewellTarts]@SpnBaby1967 now, now no hyperbole. Todays total is 25 last Mondays was 15 thats not double! Sigh numbers at this level are very volatile thats why we look at the 7 day trend...[/quote]
2 is double 1... you can imagine how it'll be spun when we hit that level.

The lower the numbers are, the more the fluctuations. The overall trend is the only thing that really matters.
Plus remember that the (sadly) deaths we’re seeing now are from people infected weeks and weeks ago. The new cases are on a downward trend.

@Drivingdownthe101

The lower the numbers are, the more the fluctuations. The overall trend is the only thing that really matters. Plus remember that the (sadly) deaths we’re seeing now are from people infected weeks and weeks ago. The new cases are on a downward trend.

Yep. Double 15 isn't really like double 200.

Monday sadly death numbers have basically doubled, dementors will love this!

No they haven’t. PHE discovered some people prior to last Monday had actually sadly died twice. Therefore the additional deaths were negative. So 21 hospital deaths and 6 people were reincarnated giving 15. Last Monday was a freak number.

Oh my God I lost my shit on another thread
[Hyperventilates into a paper bag]
I'm just sick of being told I'm thick, dumb or selfish for wanting to do something I am allowed to do.

These people want to lock themselves in their homes forever, fine, do what you want BUT STOP TRYING TO TAKE MY CHOICE!

@Worldgonecrazy

Wow! Just read the new wedding guidelines. Obviously written by Dementor Central.

Couples should wash hands before exchanging rings..... is it April 1st?

And what a fun wedding night that would be!

These people want to lock themselves in their homes forever, fine, do what you want BUT STOP TRYING TO TAKE MY CHOICE!

They are twats. Stop engaging it achieves nothing other than getting wound up. Ultimately when people start going on holiday etc FOMO will bring them back into reality. In the meantime it’s utterly pointless.