My boyfriend's child

[Tree2020]

My boyfriend's child doesn't want to meet me and we have been together for a while.
It isn't easy for any of us. Any advice?

Could arrange to bump into each other in the street 'unexpectedly' and have a quick chat and say hello then go your separate ways?!?

How old is the child?
How long have you been together?

How old is the child? Maybe respect his decision?

How old is the child and how long have you been together?

How old is the child and how long have u been with ur partner

Same questions as everyone else.

Agree how long has he been split for the mum, how long have you been together and how old is the child?

Sadly, our first encounter did not go well, practically ignored me. A teenager and I respect his wish yet I see how upset his Dad is for not wanting to know of me

Give it more time

So much more context would be useful. How old? Teenager but 13 or 19? How long have you been together ('a while' means different things to different people) How long since his parents separated? As a child of divorced parents I sympathise with him but the above info would help me advise/ ascertain whether he is reasonable!

I’m going to have to ask it. We’re you the ‘other woman’ or did you get together shortly after his parents broke up?

My boyfriend and the child's Mum were separated about 2 years before we met. We've been together nearly 3 years and the child is 18 yrs old.

She’s an adult. I’d respect her wishes. She might want to know you eventually or maybe she never will but it’s her decision to make, you can’t force a relationship with her

He's legally an adult now and I'm afraid you have to accept it if he doesn't want to meet anyone for whatever reasons tight now. Hopefully, he might change his mind in time.

So he’s not a child then really is he? I think at the age of 18 he’s perfectly capable of making his own decisions

At that age he doesn't have to pander to him.
OP is my partner now. She is apart of my life. I will not leave her because you refuse to accept her. I will not tolerate you speaking badly of her. Etc etc.

However he can have a relationship with his son independently of you. Do you live together?

Right now, not tight now!

No idea why I assumed ‘she’, sorry!

the child is 18 yrs old

Not a child then but an adult who has made a decision not to meet you. Not a lot you can do.

maybe because you refer to them as a child. At 18 I wouldnt have appreciated that.

At 18 they really don't need to have anything to do with you. Your bf should accept that.

He is old enough to know his own mind. You need to accept that and stop pushing.

He is 18 and therefore an adult. There is nothing you can do to force him to meet you. Just let it go and give it time.

Well to be fair to the OP he is her boyfriend’s child even if he isn’t a child in his own right iyswim.

OP what went wrong the first time you met?

Fact is that he is an adult and is under no obligation to meet you or even to have any relationship with you. Your BF can have a relationship with him which is independent of you.

From the fact you refer to him as your boyfriend after three years I am wondering though, are you very young? b