My boyfriend's child

[Tree2020]

My boyfriend's child doesn't want to meet me and we have been together for a while.
It isn't easy for any of us. Any advice?

Could you go out so the boy can see his dad at his house?

It seems a bit weird he just randomly doesn't like you.. does he feel left out?

I believe it's their house. I think the OP lives there.

Your boyfriend needs to stop pushing the issue with his son

Of course he felt left out at first. Although when you meet someone you go out on date, getting to know each other see if you like them want to have a relationship with them. Then few months later we have tried to include him in our plans or include me in some of their plants but sadly by that time he disliked me already and bluntly refused to have anything to do with me. At the time he told his Dad that he hated me.
Even if I am not at home he still doesn't want to come.
Must be hard for a child to accept someone new in their parents life. Such shame

The boy leaves with his Mum. We have our own house

I must admit as a late teen I very much decided that whowever my Mum dated was nothing to do with me.

Previously she'd tried to include me on dates and such and frankly it was awful.

Has your Dp had a partner in the past that his Ds has been attached to and hurt when the relationship ended?

Or was their breakup really rough? The Ds may simply not be willing to risk opening themselves up to more hurt.

Not much you can do really. Your Dp will just have to respect their wishes.

18 is the sort of age where they may prefer their own peers and to have some space from family. You could be a blood aunt or cousin and he may still not want to know. Let this go, let him mature and maybe things will get better.

Your partner needs to respect his wishes. If he keeps going on at him, he's only going to be more reluctant. It's not a nice situation, but hopefully his son will grow up and get over it eventually.