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Anti dementors are going to hit the shops. Who wants to come?

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Shodan · 16/06/2020 10:22

This'll be thread number 13, I think.

Let's hope it's a lucky one Grin

(Sorry about the feeble title)

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Cattermole · 17/06/2020 13:02

There must be velvet at a winter wedding. Cherry-red, impractical, ridiculous red velvet. With big skirts.
(We'd intended to get married last month. A child, a house, a number of cats and two vehicles together, and we'd finally got round to bookin a date. Pffft.)

psychomath · 17/06/2020 13:03

presumably now he's finished being a social justice warrior on social media, which is also seriously giving me the pip

I've had to hide every remotely social justice-y thing I follow on social media atm, as well as several friends who often post links to that sort of thing. Not that I don't support them in their general intentions, but now that even clothes shopping has been turned into some kind of political statement, I can't bear to get sucked into yet another interminable debate on actual politics as well. It just feels like a lot of people arguing in circles, where no-one ever changes their mind Sad

Cattermole · 17/06/2020 13:06

Oh Christ yes @psychomath!!!
Am hoping that eventually he will have out-worthied all his FB friends and will have been unfriended by everyone.

AnxiousElephant77 · 17/06/2020 13:10

@Cattermole Sorry to hear that, total shit show!!

Dd has brought her mate into the house and now I'm conflicted. I don't want to shoo them out but should I be asking her Mum?

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Willow2017 · 17/06/2020 13:17

[quote poisson428]Best chair ever for a geek? amzn.to/2UKzvBI[/quote]
Why are you posting on random threads about gaming stuff?

OhFuckOffWithTheBubbleBollocks · 17/06/2020 13:19

That's useful about the cost of The Times subscription thank you - I am a FWR MNer under a NC so would prefer to give them the money than anywhere else at the moment (although atm I am trying not to spend any money at all )

Thanks to all suffering and snuffling - it seems to be a bad week for a lot of people in RL - does anyone else sense we are finally starting to reach a tipping point with RL people wanting their life back as much as possible and not the new fucking normal? I'm not on social media though (banned due to aforementioned FWR activities where common sense cannot be spoken, pretty much like RL today Hmm) so maybe I'm misreading it the general opinion by knowing too many people with common sense

I am waiting to see what amazingly sensible and realistic (Hmm face again) the government announce about shielding this week. I feel so tense all the time at the moment. It's not helped by the continual message that my family are literally murdering me by going to school and work and college and I am being told things like (And I quote) Keep 2 metres (3 steps) away from people you live with and encourage them to sleep in a different bed where possible" and "If you share a kitchen with others, avoid using it while they’re present. If you can, take your meals back to your room to eat"

It really fucking baffles me that they expect people (and their families including DC) to be able to live like that for an extended period of time. I know I can't (and don't) and I also know I am old enough to make my own informed decisions - but it's still the constant bombardment of these messages are making me so anxious and worried and weighed down - the expectation of them all over the news announcing an extension but congratulating themselves on how well they are supporting us...

The news is total bollocks on that too - I have had NO contact other than my initial shielding letter (3 of!), no supermarket priority slots, no food boxes, DH/DC have to go to work in "high risk" areas and will be sacked if they don't, their guidance is your employers "could" furlough you Hmm but there is no employment/financial protection AT ALL, no support offered, I can't even register on the website and the phone line is automated and disconnects if it doesn't recognise you - not one phone call or text or letter which they keep going on about - their amazing unprecedented support of shielding people FUCK OFF.

They are basically telling me constantly that I am going to die if I go near anyone else and possibly going to die if my family are within 3 steps of me and expect me to remain compliant and fucking grateful to them for looking after me so well. It infuriates me, I also did big snuffly sobs on my own in my local park yesterday - which did have the benefit of everyone keeping well over The Safe Distance away from me and not murdering me...

MooChops89 · 17/06/2020 13:21

I've just come back from seeing my midwife - a colleague of mine, as I'm a midwife myself. Apparently our trust have decided that all pregnant staff are to be non patient facing at any gestation. Now, when yesterday's update showed one death reported in the preceding 24h across all trusts in our county, and when I was expected to work in my normal role on labour ward during April until 28 weeks. Like many trusts, every member of staff including admin now have to wear face masks as of this week. Talk about stable doors and bolting horses, it's a bloody farce!

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MooChops89 · 17/06/2020 13:24

Oh and the GP surgery she does her clinic from have deemed that it's not "safe" for one woman at a time to wait in the waiting room, alone, wearing a mask. Who the frick is she going to spread Covid to, if she even has it in the first place?!

Cattermole · 17/06/2020 13:28

Oh bloody hell @OhFuckOffWithTheBubbleBollocks that is so....bollocks, isn't it?

Oh mate. I am so sorry.
One of the things that has pissed me off so much about the reaction to the not allowing children into shops thread - this is relevant, this is not just me going it's all about meeeeeeee!!! - is the message it's giving to our children, all the time, everywhere, is you are dirty, you are unclean, you are not welcome
I took Junior Mole into HBs a week or two back and he was actually scared. He was frightened that people would be angry with him for being in a place.

It's like fucking segregation, isn't it? Children, older people, people with health conditions - back of the bus, please. With the added joy of "but it's for your own good, dear!"

psychomath · 17/06/2020 13:32

OhFuckOff that sounds awful Flowers I really feel for anyone who's shielding at the moment - it's hard enough for the rest of us.

AnxiousElephant77 · 17/06/2020 13:33

OhFuckOff that's bloody terrible, it's no wonder you're at your wits end.

Willow2017 · 17/06/2020 13:33

OhFuckOffWithTheBubbleBollocks

Its shit isnt it? How they expect people who dont live in mansions to do all that is beyond me. Nobody can live like that for months on end without it getting to them.

I got a letter just because I had been on the chemo ward for immunoglobulins in the last year and after talking to my Dr they agreed that I didnt need to. I had just started a new job, no way was I going to get any £ from them to stay at home for months. How do they expect people to live? I got the initial phone call and I said I was going to talk to my Dr because I didnt think it applied to me at all but would check and they said they would be back in touch to check up on me. Well other than yet another letter the other day - nada. Obviously I didnt look into the food boxes they offered nor the other help as I didnt need any of it.

A good ol cry does do you good, been there done that, you cant keep all that frustration pushed down forever. Hope having a good rant on here helps just a tiny bit. This isnt the new normal, it never will be normal, getting back to how it was before is 'normal' why anyone would want this crap excuse for living forever I have no idea.

NellyLongarms · 17/06/2020 13:35

Cattermole I've though from the start the language used about everything, not just the kids, has been so negative and divisive - which I guess is maybe what they wanted to feed into the fear - and it made everyone look at everyone else with suspicion and I really don't think it was needed.

psychomath · 17/06/2020 13:44

Actually - and I know this is me being completely irrational and doesn't make any logical sense - one of the things that's really annoying me about the healthy dementors at the moment is that they have so many opportunities to do stuff that other people can't, and they're not making the most of them. E.g. I would love to go to the beach or to somewhere a bit more countryside-y for a walk, but I don't have a car so I can't. And I'm sure most people who are shielding or live in more remote places would love to meet up with friends or go on a shopping trip, but they can't. It makes me mad to think that there are people out there who can do all those things just fine but would rather sit at home panicking about how they're going to die if they step outside.

Logically I suppose I should be glad, because fewer people going out means transmission rates will drop faster - even if community transmission is low, there is surely still some risk from those of us who are going out - and the rest of us can get back to normality sooner. But I am a bitter and resentful person and my brain doesn't work that way Grin

Pleasedontdothat · 17/06/2020 13:47

@trappedsincesundaymorn I feel your pain ... I got summoned to a teams meeting this morning where we got told that our team will cease to exist, probably by October but they’re not sure ... we might all be redundant but we might not be, we might be able to apply for similar roles in the rest of the organisation ... but then again possibly not... but hey ho, our director is ‘here for us’.

I’m in my mid-50s, working in a predominantly young field - it took me a year to get this job and I was only in my late 40s then so I have a horrible feeling that this will be the end of any kind of career - and it’s directly caused by the lockdown going for ever and bloody ever for no sodding reason

ProfessorRadcliffeEmerson · 17/06/2020 13:49

Sorry, OhFuckOff: that sounds really rubbish.

Today is a bad day. Letter from DD's head teacher- two pages of sanctimonious bollocks and hand-wringing, amounting to 'we CBA to try to get any more kids into school at all, even very briefly or on a rota'. So upset for DD.

Nihiloxica · 17/06/2020 13:52

Oh that's shit, Pleasedont. Sad

Fingers crossed you will get to apply for those other roles.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 17/06/2020 13:55

Pleasedontdothat

I'm mid 50's as well and my job is generally viewed as "unskilled". I'm hoping something else will turn up soon, but my redundancy payout should see us through until April (I've worked there for a far few years and feel sorry for those that were taken on during a recruitment drive back in September). The call was supposed to happen at 12.30 but it's now almost 2pm and I haven't heard a peep. No call, email, nothing. Although I love my job I am so done with the company and management so part of me is not sorry to be going. I hope things work out for you, it's a shit time all round. Flowers

Orangeblossom78 · 17/06/2020 13:59

DH got one of the sheilding letters well into the lockdown, but when we looked into it it is due to some meds and it seems could be moderate rather that very vulnerable, anyway he just does his own things and is back at work now. He's self employed so needs to be

We did get the boxes after registering online and delivery slots but I share that with elderly neighbour as she seems more needy really

Oddly those meds now seem be trialled for treating the virus so it seems sometimes they don't know and just think some might be more vulnerable and might not be.

I'm kind of relieved he is not a dementor but sometimes think he is a bit too not bothered about the whole thing, anyway there we go, he goes running most days and is into keeping fit which will probably help him way more than staying in.

Been for a walk and gangs of wild toddlers picnicking and climbing trees in the botanicals has cheered me up

CarrotPuff · 17/06/2020 14:04

@OhFuckOffWithTheBubbleBollocks that's really tough, hang on in there...

@Pleasedontdothat that's really shit. 🤞🏻common sense takes over soon and it won't come to that.

@AnxiousElephant77 hurrah for your wedding. Crossing everything it happens for you.

We too had to cancel ours. Thankfully it was only going to be a small one, so we haven't really paid for anything apart from notices and my dress. But we have a complication in that my family are from abroad so I've no idea when they'd be able to come over without the need to quarantine at either end... not to mention that you can't even get the basic legal bit with two witnesses because it's clearly too bloody difficult to find a room big enough for 5 or 6 people 🙄🙄🙄

We are going to NI in August and I'm tempted to just get married there. Apparently you can just post your notices, but we need to decide soonish and I need to lose some weight do that I can actually fit into the dress

TuckMyWin · 17/06/2020 14:05

@Orangeblosson78 is it dexomethasone he's on? I wondered that when I heard about it, because some people were advised to shield because they were on steroids, and it's one of the most common first line steroid treatments, I thought? It's what they give children with croup so I was also bit surprised they weren't already using it!

LivinLaVidaLoki · 17/06/2020 14:26

@AnxiousElephant77

Listen everyone, I'm getting married on the 27th of December and that's the bloody end of it.
Yes you are. And I shall be having a small toast to you in my home. Not that I have now reached the point of finding any excuse for a drink ohhhh noooo

:)