Anti dementors are going to hit the shops. Who wants to come?

[Shodan]

This'll be thread number 13, I think.

Let's hope it's a lucky one

(Sorry about the feeble title)

cattermole yep. Solidarity!

Thank you dowser - right now pain under control - and when it’s not active, I mostly forget about it. I’m a huge fan of kicking problems down the road until they need to be dealt with.

Yes, I know the feeling. It feels like no escape at times. I have Dh working at home, (listened to ages about his tax bill today) younger DS at kitchen table with me and older teen in his room, all in our flat. been to the co-op for milk which was going on the tannoy about keeping us safe etc, first thing which has been the only escape today. Hmm.

Trying to sort out the shopping for elderly neighbour for end of the week and sort the recycling as well, just goes on doesn't it, snacks then lunch then more scrolling finally going into Minecraft and dinner. Repeat.

schooling,

Exactly that. I am fed up with misery.
Here, shall we do a Thelma and Louise @Drivingdownthe101?

There is just nothing to look forward to. Anything good or nice or exciting is either subverted or risk-assessed to within an inch of its life.
It can aaaaalllllll fuck off, and then it can fuck off some more, and when it's finished fucking off it can get back here and fuck off backwards.
DH has just spoken to me for the first time in three hours - presumably now he's finished being a social justice warrior on social media, which is also seriously giving me the pip - and asked me what I like for lunch. Am tempted to tell him I want something from Rowe's pasty shop just so he has to go out and get it....
(PS I am also due on and that always makes me teasy as a snake. Can you tell?)

As soon as it's up and running again, I'm going to the ballet every week. Seriously!

We also chose to live in London with less space because of the cultural life. DC get so many arts and culture-y trips through school, museums all there if you just jump on the tube, etc. But yeah, at the moment, a garden seems like a good trade-in.

I worked on a project a couple of years ago where I had a few meetings with Tamara Rojo (ENB director) and my God, she takes no prisoners. She is as scary as a petite, beautiful and charming lady can possibly be. It is good news that she is on this consultation panel!

Re NHS services... I work for a charity, but a lot of our work is connected with NHS services (think, very specific healthcare area). All the f2f had to stop in lockdown and it really was an absolute disaster for the people we work with. It's all very confidential, so apologies that I'm being super vague, but there were people I saw who were in such a positive stage in their recovery back in February who are now back at step 1, apparently. It is just so sad. I'm not in work at the moment, but I know they restarted f2f last week and it was not a moment too soon.

Despite being on sick leave, I've just been asked to take a role in an internal enquiry into how the situation has affected service provision and I think it will be very interesting. If all is going to plan I'm hopefully going to be wfh part time from the w/c 29/6...

@Cattermole Get on that bus

Ds1 was a dreadfully histrionic actor-type when he was young. I remember walking home from school with him one day, when he tripped and fell over. When I went to help him up, he literally flinched away from me and shrieked "No don't hurt me Mummy!" There were many evil stares from passers-by.

He also used to like threatening me with Childline. Then I got a mobile phone and pulled it out and pretended to dial them .

They do get a tiny bit better.

@Cattermole

Exactly that. I am fed up with misery. Here, shall we do a Thelma and Louise *@Drivingdownthe101*?

There is just nothing to look forward to. Anything good or nice or exciting is either subverted or risk-assessed to within an inch of its life.
It can aaaaalllllll fuck off, and then it can fuck off some more, and when it's finished fucking off it can get back here and fuck off backwards.
DH has just spoken to me for the first time in three hours - presumably now he's finished being a social justice warrior on social media, which is also seriously giving me the pip - and asked me what I like for lunch. Am tempted to tell him I want something from Rowe's pasty shop just so he has to go out and get it....
(PS I am also due on and that always makes me teasy as a snake. Can you tell?)

Aww, hugs. I haven't had a period for two months (not sure if it's chemo fertility issues or I've just lost too much weight) and I know it is a unfeminist to say this, but there is NOTHING about it that I miss.

Oh I had excellent news this morning.

One of our karate classes has been given the green light to start again. I don't know how, but it's happening.

I can train again!

Sounds exhausting Cattermole can I come with you?

Off to post office so will murder a few there and then off pay the garage bill (so much for saving money not going anywhere! Took out a 2nd mortgage to get food shopping for 2 6' teens with hollow legs yesterday)
Got a txt from my dentist to say my checkup appoint next month is cancelled. Have been on the phone to say get me on the 'to be considered first list' please as I have had a broken tooth since the first week of lockdown and now a broken filling!!! Cant get through to local HC to make blood test appoint, will try again later. Is it wine o clock yet?

I keep forgetting to go to the bank as I have a cheque to pay in for the pricely sum of 99p!!! Opened an online Very account to try to get new bras a year ago and ended up sending them all back and never got another thing but apparently they are owe me 99p By the time I cash it it will be out of date!

Suns shining for a bloody change but it rained at somepoint overnight. Need to muster up the energy to attack the hallway and back of the front door to repaint....help...

@Shodan DD2 frequently does this when I won't buy her favourite foods. Pre-lockdown in the supermarket:

DD2. If you don't get them I won't eat. I'll starve!
Me. Oh well.
DD. YOU DON'T CARE IF I LIVE OR DIE!!!

We got some seriously alarmed looks from passers by.

99p @Willow2017 - don't spend it all at once!!!

Where can you try on bras? I thought it was forbidden and,having a minimal stock of bras I'm having to wear a holey one. I just can't bring myself to talk to my boss, even on the phone, without a bra on

@dowser would you recommend anything for my jaw? Its still stuck closed and has been for months. Your posts really interest me!

Going on about inflation now. (BBC) this is just going to go on now isn't it to prepare us for changes to the 2m I reckon. Getting cynical with them

Going on a bus sounds strangely exciting. Or a train. I saw an article about a woman riding the empty trains and she wanted to keep going too.

Well having just written about how I fixed my own toothache, I’ve just lost another a chunk from another tootH on the other side. , so I lost the plot, had a complete sobbing meltdown. I’ve just let go of the pain and tension I’ve carried around for the last few weeks with great big, horrible snotty sobs.
I’ve taken a fear remedy and arnica for shock.

I can’t fix this, will have to contact the dentist and see what’s out there.
My teeth are like timebombs waiting to go off.

And breathe.
Have a good day ladies. Going to take my very miserable self out for the day weather permitting.

M&S are quite good with bras and returns if you wanted to order online and return- could measure yourself and then get a few to try perhaps.

Dowser - so are mine. Mine were being done before lockdown and temporarily they had composite in, which all crumbled during lockdown and now they're fucked; and will be twice as expensive.

M&S bras never fit me, I just seem to be the wrong shape. Bras and footwear are the 2 things I hate buying on line.

I'm currently up a fire station drill tower, and I can see a local playground. Kids all over it. Makes me happy :-) I can also see a golf course, nice and busy... 🙄

The swings haven't been removed either, lots of shrieking and happy noises.

@countrygirl99

Where can you try on bras? I thought it was forbidden and,having a minimal stock of bras I'm having to wear a holey one. I just can't bring myself to talk to my boss, even on the phone, without a bra on

If you have Amazon Prime (I know, I know, Evil Corp) they do a Prime Wardrobe thing where you can order eligible items, 6 at a time, they deliver them you keep what you want and send the rest back. They then charge you for the ones you keep.

I was having bra issues (none fit now as I'm lockdown lard plus the vaguely OK one has a hole in) and I usually have to go to M&S and try loads on. I had 6 delivered Monday, different styles and sizes, am keeping two - one posh Triumph one that I have decided to keep despite being nearly £40 which is extravagant for me! Plus a cheap t shirt bra for work. Just need to drop the others at the post office later.

This may be how I shop for clothes forever more, I hate clothes shopping!

@Dowser and @AnxiousElephant77 am so sorry about your toothaches. I think toothache is the most miserable crappy pain in the world, isn't it? It's unrelenting.

And in other news, Judgy Cat has just eaten a goodly part of a fish pie destined for supper tonight that was cooling on the worktop, and is now moistly licking his bottom at me.

You know when things hit peak awful and start to get blackly funny after that?

Morning all. I've got the joy of a redundancy consultation meeting by phone this afternoon. Not something to look forward to at the best of times but the manager ringing me has graduated from the School of Boris Waffle. I can picture it now.

"Hello Trapped, waffle, waffle, blah, blah, difficult decisions, waffle waffle waffle , blah, blah waffle waffle, any questions"
"Nope"
Call ends.

Is it to early for wine??

Morning all and especially @Cattermole, you do have an excellent way with words, even when you're fed up you make me laugh.

I too love the Times, I find them very balanced. Sometimes two of the comment pieces will be directly contradictory and so the informed debate is excellent. They're not at all sensationalist. For any of you with older kids their student subscription rate is excellent, think I pay about £2 a month. You just need a valid student email address. My son is actually at uni abroad and they still accepted his.

Gene genie
I’ll always help where I can, but would need to know more.
Like what caused this, how does it affect you.
Is there a name for it, I can read up about.
Was it infection related or is it mechanical?
It might be right outside my experience but if I don’t know, I’m in touch with a lot of healers worldwide who may be able to shed some light on it.
As the lovely Raymon grace says
If you do nothing , nothing happens
If you do something, something might happen.

I’m the sort of person who when something like this happens, I have to get rid of the shock and fear first. Today’s incident was the straw that broke the camels back and I’ve cried, sobbed, blew my nose, cried again, till I’ve got the shock and fear out of my system.
If I don’t do that. I can’t think straight.

Tears are like the valve on a pressure cooker , letting it all out. All the weeks of frustration, fear for the future, sadness , grief , depression.
In fact I think I’ll take a remedy for grief and depression after I’ve finished my drink.

Our minds and bodies are so connected.
I saw a lovely homeopath in Manchester once. A bit far for me to travel, but he believed with any illness , you have to treat the shock of the diagnosis first.
Dr Bach was the same. He developed his 38 remedies to treat various different mind states.
They are great for treating long term health conditions where lots of different thoughts and feelings come up. You need to take them for about 3 weeks to let them really get into your system.
They are gentle and soothing, calming and relaxing.
They do all of this without making you feel zombiefied , they bring you back to point zero when you feel like your mind is all over the place.

Everyone should have their own bottle of ainsworths rescue remedy, 4 drops in a glass of water sipped slowly brings a lot of calm to a shocked situation .

Some people just let things bounce off them...im not like that. Or maybe I do, till the one that broke the camels back comes along..like today.

I’d love to ring my dd and tell her, but I’ll end up sobbing down the phone, so not a good idea.

Mr Dowser is very good. He’s done counselling as well.
In fact when he had his stroke, I went to pieces. I was dealing with mums late stage dementia at the time, so all in all it was a shitty time.

So, let’s squeeze every drop of joy out of today, that’s all we have for certain.