I want sexual conversion therapy to convert me to lesbianism

[alittlelower]

Because all the men I meet are sexist gits. Probably because I am middle aged and all the decent functioning men are married. I feel like I should just give up and wait for the widowers to appear.

Anyway, here is my recent experience in total:
No1 Called me 'babe' (I hate that), called me sweetheart when I disagreed with him. Not interested in foreplay - just sticking his dick.
No 2 Bigged himself up as a marxist - feminist - facebook feed full of feminist stuff like reposting the 'rapist is you' protests - hit me on the arse with a wooden spoon, pinned me down with my wrists during sex, when I struggled to get free, held me down harder.
No 3 - never touched me during sex, just stuck his dick in then asked me if I wanted to be his sex slave.
No 4 - chatting online to guy who seemed nice but then called me babe and talked about hitting me over the head and dragging me to bed.
Needless to say of the above they were very short lived, or ended immediately after terrible sex experiences. I'm fucking fed up. I wish sexual conversion therapy were a thing. I'd be paying to convert to lesbianism.

Much easier to fall in live with a woman. I know plenty of women who thought they were straight until falling in live with it having amazing sex with a woman.

I wish that were me. I don't actually even know any lesbians anyway.

I've always wondered if I'm 100% straight but much as I've 'admired' women, the thought of sleeping with one does nothing for me. I hear you though.

Posts like this make me glad I’m a lesbian, actually most of the posts on mumsnet about men and relationships make me glad I’m a lesbian, not to say women are perfect by any means, but I’ve never had to put up with this kind of sexually selfish and abusive behaviour you describe from women.

I'm so sorry, but that made me laugh. Wooden spoon?!

Men can be such twats can't they? Why do they do stuff like that?

I think he thought it was 'playful' but I just found it degrading and humiliating. Like a fucking reminder that he's bigger and stronger than me and I need to be 'grateful' he's a decent guy who doesn't hit me for real. Marxist-feminist my arse.

Elsiebear - I really wish I was lesbian. I have an Aunt who became a political lesbian in the 70's and remained one. I'm jealous. I bet I'd prefer the sex too.

I understand the point you are trying to make, but I wouldn’t post lightly about SCT.
It was forced upon some people, even as recently as the 60s, and was often barbaric and harmful.

OP not sure if you meant it humours, but you made me chuckle. Where did you find these gems? Also, hate to break it to you, but there are loads of sexist women too 😁

Do lesbians ever send unsolicited genital pics?

I didn't mean to cause offence Samtsirch I know it was terrible.

Christ, why do you even get into bed with men like that?

They all sound ghastly!

Where did you find these gems?

Just out and about really. No 4 was online. All the decent guys I meet are married. Unsurprisingly.

Christ, why do you even get into bed with men like that?

Oh FFS, why do posts about shit experiences with men always end up with blaming crap like this? Maybe women aren't better after all...

Christ, why do you even get into bed with men like that?

Have you never heard the term suck it and see?

Oh my question was just meant to be funny, really hope it didn't sond as blaming. If so, I do apologise. I've had my share of weirdos in my days.

Just reading over my OP - three of those guys were acting out or referencing rape-y scenarios weren't they? How can that be so fucking common in straight relationships? These guys weren't even brought up on misogynistic internet porn.
To those who chuckled, I did write that post to be darkly humorous I suppose - but actually it's not funny is it? Jesus Christ.

Yep, they all sound fucking bonkers. I mean, in a longvterm relationship, talking about role playing about one or the other being a sexual slave for one of the romps, fair enough if discussed in advance and both partners are willing, but all the rest is demented. 13 years with hubs, and if he is holding my hands during a romp, and i am showing signs of struggling and he wont let go, I would go nuclear on him.

three of those guys were acting out or referencing rape-y scenarios weren't they? How can that be so fucking common in straight relationships?

Porn.

Yes, Just C - I mean the self-proclaimed Marxist-Feminist was the worst, the hypocrisy! Bigging himself up on Facebook with his solemn the 'the rapist is you' posts. Then he holds me down and tightens when I struggle? Yeah, the rapist is fucking you!

Porn

It's depressing. These guys are too old to have been indoctrinated into this stuff from the age of 11. That means as adults they have actually sought that rape-y crap to masturbate over.

What's stopping you from taking your own plea seriously, and looking for a relationship with another bi-curious woman OP?
I speak as a 65 year old bisexual with (ahem) extensive experience both ways. Now happily living with a man though.

Yep, over the years I have learned to disregard when a guy claims they are feminist, and just judge for myself overtine. Those who seem quite vehement they are, from the very beggining made me question if they are doing it to score points.

You know, me and hubs once talked about how part of us misses the younger years, the dating. But we also remembered how many weirdos there are out there, and quickly got over our nostalgia 😄

It's the 'I'm a nice guy' scenario. If they have to say it, they probably arent.

Mr outspoken anti rapey 'feminist' really should have been a red flag from the offset.

There are a shit load of creepers out there and it certainly isn't a woman's fault for attracting them. But it sounds like you need to do some boundary work too...because I bet there were red flags from all of them before they went all major creepy on you.

What's stopping you from taking your own plea seriously, and looking for a relationship with another bi-curious woman OP?

I wouldn't even know where to go about looking for such a woman!