I want sexual conversion therapy to convert me to lesbianism

[alittlelower]

Because all the men I meet are sexist gits. Probably because I am middle aged and all the decent functioning men are married. I feel like I should just give up and wait for the widowers to appear.

Anyway, here is my recent experience in total:
No1 Called me 'babe' (I hate that), called me sweetheart when I disagreed with him. Not interested in foreplay - just sticking his dick.
No 2 Bigged himself up as a marxist - feminist - facebook feed full of feminist stuff like reposting the 'rapist is you' protests - hit me on the arse with a wooden spoon, pinned me down with my wrists during sex, when I struggled to get free, held me down harder.
No 3 - never touched me during sex, just stuck his dick in then asked me if I wanted to be his sex slave.
No 4 - chatting online to guy who seemed nice but then called me babe and talked about hitting me over the head and dragging me to bed.
Needless to say of the above they were very short lived, or ended immediately after terrible sex experiences. I'm fucking fed up. I wish sexual conversion therapy were a thing. I'd be paying to convert to lesbianism.

OP, if you think you have even the slightest inclination, its worth exploring. But seriously, there are just as many horrid women out there as there are men. Just try not to create false expectations just because they are women. There are good and bad sorts on each side really.

@alittlelower

Do you know what, I did start this thread as a bit tongue in cheek, but upon reflection, I don't think I do like men that much - at least not emotionally/ romantically: just sexually. But I've always had sexual fantasies involving women. Maybe I should think about this more seriously.

Why not give it a go and see. Once lockdown is over, you could try a few sites as bicurious and see where it goes. I just used sex sites or fwb type but only for women (you get a lot of men pretending to be women!) Whilst this might seem full on, you could also go as an observer (or more) to women only nights at sex clubs or events like killing kittens. They are pretty good fun with burlesque dance demos, photoshoots (lingerie), relaxing massage etc - so like a kind of hen party - and then one or two rooms for more raunchy action. Observers are always welcomed, and you could dip your toe in the water, euphemistically speaking. It's a very safe and nurturing environment.

How do they keep men out of those nights?

Depends on the venue but there's always a guest list and they just refuse them entry. Private parties and private members clubs make their own rules. It's usually guest list, then locked door/bouncer. There's never any problem or trouble. It's a really safe environment. Killing kittens has some men. Skirt club is another one that runs upmarket women only events, I think they do an online vetting process first.

I hear you. I was thinking about this earlier. I spent most of my 20s saying 'I'm done with men!' and now I'm mid thirties thinking, actually, I am.

yes im hoping to wake up as a lesbian one morning too.

@madcatladyforever

yes im hoping to wake up as a lesbian one morning too.

You already have the cats

@alittlelower

Do you know what, I did start this thread as a bit tongue in cheek, but upon reflection, I don't think I do like men that much - at least not emotionally/ romantically: just sexually. But I've always had sexual fantasies involving women. Maybe I should think about this more seriously.

Sexuality wise, you sound a lot like me. I dont beleive i fit any labels to describe my sexuality. Where I differ is that I feel incapable of a relationship with anyone and find trusting on a deep level very difficult.

I am also from a religious faith that would probably frown on me experiementing anyway. My pastor would have a fit!

"There are just as many horrible people who are woman as there are horrible people who are men."

I just dont think this is true sadly. Do you know anything about prison stats or how many men kill women as opposed to vice versa?

If I became single for any reason I'm really not sure I'd bother with sexual relationships again. My husband is pretty nice (not perfect but then I'm certainly not) but OP is right, many men seem to be a bit sexist/a bit entitled/a bit creepy etc.
Couldn't be arsed.

Why not have a friendly female flatmate and a vibrator and avoid the therapy altogether. Sex is overrated anyway.

I always tell my husband that if he dies I'll never shack up with a man again. Men kind of gross me out now, I don't want any around underfoot. I'd rather have pets frankly.

@alittlelower Tinder has quite a few women who are bicurious :)

I don't think I do like men that much - at least not emotionally/ romantically: just sexually.

Same here: also sometimes wish I could be a lesbian. I've tried to be bi-curious but it goes nowhere. Think I am one of the 100% heterosexual ones.

Oh same here. Never say never though. At the moment it is cats and fun dc only.

Later maybe. I have not seen an interestingman in YEARS. Gross me out too be fair. Not as friends mind, but trying to get close to one and face that disappointment again because they never want to go deep?

Naaa thank you. I can’t even imagine them getting better with age.

Of course I’d love to be proven wrong.

I don't get posters saying this post is funny? Did you miss the bit where the OP was raped?!

I'm sorry OP. I've not dated anyone for a good 10 years and don't care a bit. Even the best men I've known have turned out to have really nasty streaks, so I'm not going to waste my life looking for a Prince Charming who doesn't exist. Honestly, in 2020 there's very little need for relationships!

I wasn't raped. We were actually having consensual sex when he decided to hold me down. I guess when I struggled and he held me down tighter you could argue it became rape? I don't know. I didn't actually say ' get the fuck off me', though in retrospect I wish I had.
I was a bit shocked by it to be honest. I'm not traumatised though, just pissed off. I don't want to minimise the experiences of women who really have been traumatised by rape to claim that experience as mine.

I can kinda relate a bit tbh.

I've always assumed I'm straight because I've found men attractive however I can count on one hand the number of men I've actually enjoyed sex with and it's a small percentage of the men I've slept with over all. For most of it it was just something I did because i thought it was what you were meant to do.

I've met my fair share of dodgy guys and honestly I do think of I became single tomorrow I couldn't face another man.

Course i also know it wouldn't be fair to any women to string them along in the hope i feel something. They probably been far to much shit as it is without having to be some kind of experiment for a mid life crisis

Tbh I'm probably just fed up of men who dont get it and too exhausted of shutting down how I really feel to try and overlook that they dont get it. Dp isnt anything I never knew he was.

Op you have terrible taste in men, yes there are lots of weirdos out there but when I was ‘a courting’ I met some lovely ones and had some good relationships and experiences including hot one night stands.

@muminabun - how old were you when courting? Believe me, in middle age the pool is pretty small.

I see your point op. I am 41 and these days I only get eyed up by octogenarians or Pervy younger men with mother issues. 😂

I think it became rape when he pinned you down. I’m really sorry that happened to you. Sometimes it’s years before you realise what happened was rape. I’m still realising incident from years ago were abusive and other people are so confused by how brain washed I became. Hope you get some real life support for what happened to you.