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The Anti Dementors, danger-buffooning their way through life!

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Drivingdownthe101 · 30/05/2020 09:25

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heroku · 01/06/2020 22:16

To be fair to teachers, I think most of them feel immense pressure to meet these crazy targets and so a lot of the obsessive charts and analysis is because of that. The primary teachers I know would love to have more time to do creative, relaxed, outdoorsy type activities with the kids and not the constant maths and english drills.

Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy · 01/06/2020 22:20

@heroku - don’t worry I blame the welsh Government, but I still wish teachers would speak out if they disagree.

MagdaS · 01/06/2020 22:25

The dementor who told me it was worth me losing my job to save 'thousands of lives' has sent me a message asking how I am. I am ignoring him. Nearly 30 years, I've known him and got on very well, but I have no desire whatsoever to engage again. I'm not normally like this, I'm probably too forgiving if anything.

Bollss · 01/06/2020 22:26

Apparently education is a want nowadays.

Fucking ridiculous.

And if I hear "not until it's safe" one more time I'll scream.

Nobody can actually define safe though somehow.

TheAdventuresoftheWishingChair · 01/06/2020 22:31

Pinkflipflop that is so lovely.

HauntedGoatFart do it! It's such a great thread and I bet some of the parents would be so grateful to you.

Shodan · 01/06/2020 22:34

@fartingsparkles Thank you for the hug Smile Have one from me in return. Not as good as your friend's I know.

@JassyRadlett That is outrageous! I don't even know how they can get away with it.

It does seem that times of global crisis bring out the absolute worst in some circles Sad

fartingsparkles · 01/06/2020 22:38

Thanks @shodan

RubberDinghyRapids · 01/06/2020 22:42

I sat in the garden of my mum's house today and I could weep at the familiarity and comfort I gained from it. We brought our own lunch but couldn't refuse homemade ginger biscuits. DD played with a bowl of water and the bath toys in the shade. Bliss for a few hours.

Nursery opens to 50% tomorrow so her keyworker will be back from furlough. Looking forward to watching her face when she sees DD walk in, as she's only started walking during lockdown/her absence. Grin

heroku · 01/06/2020 22:44

@MagdaS your friend sounds like a knob. If he wants to save thousands of lives why doesn't he donate his salary to Oxfam who are rapidly running out of money (partly due to all the charity shops being forced to close). You can tell him if he gets out his chequebook I'll even lend him my pen. I won't hold my breath though...

littlbrowndog · 01/06/2020 22:52

I have had best few days since this lockdown started. Seeing family see friends.

It’s been like for me and my kids life has restarted for us

I never relaised how much it mattered.

Just seeing my 4 year olds face when she saw her auntie.

My soul and their wee souls were like not so sore anymore for a bit.

Gawd. So,emotional which I never am but that’s how’s it’s felt

Weedsnseeds1 · 01/06/2020 22:56

I gave the neighbours some tomato plants today.
They have access through my garden to the passage between my house and the other neighbours, so there is a gate between us. The wife has been fairly gung-ho throughout, as she is the one stuck at home 24/7 with two kids, one of whom is disabled.
The husband has been a bit more... reserved.
I popped through the gate with the plants, he invited me to let myself in, whenever I liked, to help myself to cabbages!
It's all collapsed into a foetid swamp of common sense here.
It only took about a week or so since lockdown for the cracks to show, to be honest.
Then the fence fraternising started and it was all downhill from then in.

AgentCooper · 01/06/2020 23:01

@littlbrowndog Flowers that’s so lovely. I’m so glad you could get so much comfort from that wee visit. These moments of connection are so important, aren’t they?

My mum and dad have been at our back fence a few times since all this started and one time my 2.5 year old DS managed to wriggle past me out the gate and ran up to his granny. Me and my mum both burst into tears because she was so desperate to hug him.

On Sunday there we had my mum, dad and sister in the garden and they were all going to try to avoid contact with DS but he just chucked himself at them all. They’re all pretty young and low risk and none of us have seen anyone else since this kicked off so I felt comfortable saying fuck it, just let him hug you. He was so happy. And my mum texted later to say best morning ever. I’m honestly greeting just remembering it now.

littlbrowndog · 01/06/2020 23:04

They are agent. So much. Gawd it’s been grim but getting better. Never usually cry but now it’s eased a bit I might just be bubbling a bit. 🤦‍♀️😎

Mascotte · 01/06/2020 23:04

I like these happy stories 😊

My good news is that dc thinks I'm great for trying so hard to put the point for him getting back to school AND is going to meet a friend tomorrow 😊

MagdaS · 01/06/2020 23:05

@heroku you're right. He doesn't see anything beyond Covid deaths, like so many of the dementors. I suspect actually given his circumstances he's someone else for whom years of bitterness are spilling out into vitriol. It's sad.

SudokuBook · 01/06/2020 23:08

That dementor nonsense will finally kill Waterstones. What a stupid idea. I’ll just buy all my books online, the big pleasure of a bookshop is to get to pick up and browse the books

PickAChew · 01/06/2020 23:30

Ds2 has become so obsessed with the minibuses at the school around the corner that he practically ran there, ahead of me, this morning. He's basically got his telly, his tablet (which he's developed a habit of dropping behind furniture when not in use, so it's screen is now cracked and all his skirting boards dented and chipped) and his ruddy minibuses. One green, one white, but no blue one, currently. On the upside, he's getting more proficient at helping me make his bed. Life skills and all that.

From the 8th, at the earliest, his special school are taking in a few more children of key workers and pupils deemed vulnerable. If a severely autistic teenager isn't vulnerable, then that word has lost all its meaning.

On a lighter note, the demtors appear to have spooked the local jackdaws. The past couple of years, we've had the most amazing murmurstiins at dusk, with up to 100 jackdaws flying overhead, all together. Just a big, squeaky cloud of them. It might just be a bit way, since the babies are only just beginning to fledge, but we've been hearing them, but they're just flying in their family groups, at the moment. Social distancing gawn mad!

PickAChew · 01/06/2020 23:32

Murmurations

PickAChew · 01/06/2020 23:35

Just read waterstones plans. Bonkers idea to quarantine books for 3 days.

Willitneverend · 01/06/2020 23:37

@MagdaS some folk have really been total dicks through this. I had folk commenting on my FB when a close family member died of a non covid issue then within hours sharing those dreadful "If you want to go outside, choose a family member to DIE". It was horrendous. I think they think we wont remember afterwards.

Some of my muted dementors are popping back up. One of them has earlier having a big rant about people going out unnecessarily, face masks, staying at home etc, and now has posted about how delighted he is he can go golfing. It seems that only activities other people enjoy cause death, not his own hobbies.

Khione · 01/06/2020 23:48

@PickAChew

Ds2 has become so obsessed with the minibuses at the school around the corner that he practically ran there, ahead of me, this morning. He's basically got his telly, his tablet (which he's developed a habit of dropping behind furniture when not in use, so it's screen is now cracked and all his skirting boards dented and chipped) and his ruddy minibuses. One green, one white, but no blue one, currently. On the upside, he's getting more proficient at helping me make his bed. Life skills and all that.

From the 8th, at the earliest, his special school are taking in a few more children of key workers and pupils deemed vulnerable. If a severely autistic teenager isn't vulnerable, then that word has lost all its meaning.

On a lighter note, the demtors appear to have spooked the local jackdaws. The past couple of years, we've had the most amazing murmurstiins at dusk, with up to 100 jackdaws flying overhead, all together. Just a big, squeaky cloud of them. It might just be a bit way, since the babies are only just beginning to fledge, but we've been hearing them, but they're just flying in their family groups, at the moment. Social distancing gawn mad!

The blackbird juveniles in my garden are being (stereo)typical adolescents. Despite being as big as their parents, they just keep sitting around and squawking with open beaks whilst both mum and dad run round picking up mealworm and raisins and sticking them in their gobs. 'Muuuummm, I'm huuuunnnngggggrrrrryyyyyyyyy'
Weedsnseeds1 · 01/06/2020 23:55

Willitneverend my whateveryoucallyourpartnersmotherifyouarentmarried died 3 weeks ago.
Endless Covid commiserations, she's been in a care home with advanced dementia, clinging on by a thread for 6 years. Nothing to do with coronavirus.
No funeral, direct cremation, by the husband and adult children's wishes.
How terrible you couldn't be there due to COVID19, families can't grieve...
They did that bit about 5 years ago when she stopped recognising them and got excited about foil balloons rather than books, needlework and political debate.

Willitneverend · 02/06/2020 00:13

@weedsnseeds1 at least she's at peace now. A few thread ago we found out that a lot of people on here in the anti dementor had experienced "out of order" type bereavements or illnesses.

There's a new term on Twitter called #coronakaren. I'm not sure how I feel about the Karen thing but it seems to be mostly being used as another term for dementors.

FiveFootTwoEyesOfBlue · 02/06/2020 00:19

Hello. I agree with you all about schools. I have a Y10 DS, and got an email from his school on the Thursday before half term saying they couldn't say when or what provision they would offer, as they hadn't had the government guidance yet, but once they do they then need to 'consult' with staff. I was swearing at my computer, I can tell you. They've had three bloody weeks to 'consult' with staff. My son is falling further and further behind compared to independent and other schools that offer actual online teaching, and I have to hope that they might, after 'consult'ing with staff, offer him a quarter of 4 weeks of school before the summer holidays. Angry Of course the bloody council have already announced that they don't agree with the public health experts, and don't get me started on the unions (one of which I'm a member of!) thinking they know better than epidemiologists and behavioural scientists about how 'safe' it is.

On the cheerful side, I saw it reported today that today's figures show the lowest level of people in hospital with CV-19 since mid-March.

Weedsnseeds1 · 02/06/2020 00:21

Willitneverend all three children view it as a relief as their mother had been a living shell of the woman they knew.
Their father died, unexpectedly of a heart attack a couple of years ago and he had already arranged direct cremation for both of them.