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The Anti Dementors, danger-buffooning their way through life!

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Drivingdownthe101 · 30/05/2020 09:25

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AgentCooper · 31/05/2020 23:46

@MaxNormal I think you might be right - I’m sure there’s an element of folk being scared/unwilling to go back to normal life. My friend who has been very freaked out by the virus (but not dementory or unkind) has been a SAHM for years and never that keen on going out due to social anxiety. She’s very worried about lockdown ending and her DH going back to work (DD1 won’t be back at school until Aug as in Scotland and her other DD is a toddler). I think having her husband and older daughter at home has probably made her feel reassured that they’re safe, and if everyone has to stay at home it doesn’t make her feel bad if that’s what she generally wants to do. She’s a lovely friend and I do feel for her, despite being desperate for lockdown to end myself.

On the other side of the coin I reckon there are loads of prime dementors who don’t want it to end because they won’t get to feel like the star of their own personal apocalypse movie anymore.

TheGreatWave · 01/06/2020 00:08

I popped out to the shop earlier and driving back my thoughts turned to mileage (I still need to do a mileage submission for work) I will have been out the office for 3 months on the current return plan, and have therefore not put the best part of 4500 miles on the clock. And suddenly I felt a whole wave of mixed emotions about going back, including anger at myself for not achieving anything, but also a slight fear of life returning to normal.

I agree with Agent for some people this time has been great, perhaps both furloughed on full pay or one with a SAHP, young children that are easy to entertain and sending to school is with some reluctance anyway.

If I am truly honest, if it wasn't for DS (ASD) and just the girls (even though the 8 year old is more teenage like than the actual teenager) and even working at home, I think it could have been enjoyable (to a certain extent)

TheGreatWave · 01/06/2020 00:11

That sounds awful, I don't want to wish him away, but his needs and the troublesome interaction between him and dd2 means that life is never particularly straight forward.

RobinHobb · 01/06/2020 06:24

Morning
School run today! Let's see how this goes. DD1 has been so bored this last week - I'm really glad she's going.
Thanks for everyone on this thread. I was getting tired of the judgement and the fear on other threads and this has helped so much to realise I'm not going crazy!

Orangeblossom78 · 01/06/2020 06:42

We'll done to those doing school run today and hope it goes well. Another week to go here and it will be us as well.

BBC is warning us to be aware that the children may be anxious.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 01/06/2020 07:14

Good luck to everyone going back to school today!

ExpletiveDelighted · 01/06/2020 07:23

Yes, hoping it goes well at school. I waked past my DCs old primary yesterday and there were cones and lots of red and white tape on the footpath and playground. It's close to our house, I have a note in my diary on the last day of full school that this might be the last time I hear a playground full of happy squealing at lunchtime for a long time, maybe today I'll hear some again.

Orangeblossom78 · 01/06/2020 07:33

It seems to be something about stopping traffic and cars around the schools, might help pollution (just reading in Times)

Pootle40 · 01/06/2020 07:39

@MrsArchchancellorRidcully

I can relate. My eldest has spent endless hours on Fortnite. This is not the life I chose for him. I also don't understand the lack of noise about education. It baffles me.

In my region of 400k people we had 2 infections and 4 deaths in the week ending 24th May..........utter madness.

Pootle40 · 01/06/2020 07:42

Good luck with the school run everyone - I really hope the kids have a fab day at school and are not too freaked out by any of the OTT measures in place !

TooManyButtons · 01/06/2020 07:44

A nice bit of early morning dementoring on the FB Covid Frontline Support Group...

You have just infected your father who is now on a ventilator helping him breathe, but don't worry you have a great tan. You have just given Covid to your elderly neighbour she is in an ambulance on the way to hospital but don't worry just think about the nice icecream you ate at the beach. You have just passed on Covid to the shopkeeper down the road but don't worry you had a nice time when you met with all your friends they other day. You have just infected your husband who is high risk and shielding but dont worry it was nice to see him the other day. You have just infected the ITU nurse that was on the way home from a horrific 12 hour shift but dont worry you had to get out of the house or you will go mad.
People when are we going to start thinking it's not just about you. Think about others. Be kind. Be aware.

MaudesMum · 01/06/2020 07:52

Very sensible and calm headmaster on R4 just now - saying he's opening his school having done risk assessments, and "there are risks in everything we do". Not so sensible bloke from Brighton & Hove Council, blaming their decision not to open theirs on the packed beaches. Hey ho. I'm off for a very socially distanced picnic later - we're in the country, have flexible work (or no work) and have access to a private field. All those are advantages that the people who went to the beaches in Brighton or the parks of London at the weekend don't have, so I'd feel rather hypocritical condemning them. Doesn't seem to be stopping most people tbh..

BarkandCheese · 01/06/2020 08:01

@TooManyButtons

A nice bit of early morning dementoring on the FB Covid Frontline Support Group...

You have just infected your father who is now on a ventilator helping him breathe, but don't worry you have a great tan. You have just given Covid to your elderly neighbour she is in an ambulance on the way to hospital but don't worry just think about the nice icecream you ate at the beach. You have just passed on Covid to the shopkeeper down the road but don't worry you had a nice time when you met with all your friends they other day. You have just infected your husband who is high risk and shielding but dont worry it was nice to see him the other day. You have just infected the ITU nurse that was on the way home from a horrific 12 hour shift but dont worry you had to get out of the house or you will go mad.
People when are we going to start thinking it's not just about you. Think about others. Be kind. Be aware.

If I’ve understood the meaning of the R number correctly the “you” in that charming little story has a personal R number of five. From that I can only conclude they’ve been licking everyone they meet.
SomewhereEast · 01/06/2020 08:04

Agreeing with someone upthread questioning the teaching unions' longterm strategy. I"m generally very supportive of teachers because I consider them 'key workers' and realise that good schools are essential for our whole society, especially the most vulnerable. I'd happily see teachers better paid & schools better funded and would pay more tax to achieve that. But if you are a 'key worker' and schools are essential, then you don't get to sit this one out? And if you push the government for better funding by playing the supporting vulnerable children card, you don't get to drop those vulnerable children like a stone when it suits you. I'm now incredibly cynical about the NEU...and I'm a Guardian-reader Lab voter.

DominaShantotto · 01/06/2020 08:07

Good morning, both my kids are full of hell this morning- they’re anxious about going back into school and acting out as a result. There are going to be a lot of very unsettled older kids in September not wanting to go back - I could see one of dd’s friends, who doesn’t like school at the best of times, being tipped into total school refusal after this long out of education to be honest.

BarkandCheese · 01/06/2020 08:15

DominaShantotto I hope once your children get to school they enjoy their first day back. I think you’re right about school refusal, fortunately for me my DD is firmly in the desperate to go back camp but when I think about myself at twelve I would have really struggled with going back. The ramifications of disruption to education is going to be a very long term thing.

countrygirl99 · 01/06/2020 08:18

I've just been very naughty on the preparing for a 2nd wave thread.😈Hopefully it will drum up business for some chimney sweeps. Not that I have a vested interest at all 😁

AnotherEmma · 01/06/2020 08:19

Congratulations to those of you who are taking children back to school today! Hope they enjoy it.

I am feeling sad this week that DS won't be going back to nursery just yet but trying to count myself lucky that it will be weeks, not months, as it will be for some children.

Orangeblossom78 · 01/06/2020 08:19

It says in the news over half are going back but sadly less deprived / pooper backgrounds.

Oh Domina fingers crossed it improves after they have been back, hope you get a break today, Flowers

AnotherEmma · 01/06/2020 08:21

PS totally agree with this:
"you dont want to send your child to school because its not safe? Fine. Just don't try and force me to not be able to send mine."
The FB friend who's been pissing me off has been endlessly sharing petitions and other posts to insist that schools should stay closed and children should keep their children at home, there was a particularly bossy and morally superior post that made me really want to tell him to fuck off.

AnotherEmma · 01/06/2020 08:21

children parents should keep their children at home

heroku · 01/06/2020 08:22

Exactly Domina - I can't understand why people can't see this coming.

I was chatting to a lecturer friend the other day who said "well some students who are very anxious and introverted are much preferring remote learning from home". So it's a good idea for someone who is anxious and introverted to spend months alone indoors? How are they going to cope going back to uni? How are they going to get a job? All this isolation will make people like that ten times worse.

Pertella · 01/06/2020 08:31

Well, that's DD dropped of at the slaughterhouse nursery.

Now I'm actually going to have to do some work today Grin

SomewhereEast · 01/06/2020 08:35

My youngest goes back on Friday (Reception) and is soooo excited...trying not to take this personally Wink

glotterbug · 01/06/2020 08:35

Good luck for all returning to school today!