Shielding chat continues - thread 2

[AuntieSocia1]

Shiny new thread for anyone shielding.

You can vent/moan/cry/chat/lurk whatever you need.

Hi name is Majima haha

He is beautiful and soo cute!

Lovely dog! He's really sweet.

hes settled so well! slept all night last night and only came to get me when he needed to go do his business, hes been out for a walk and now hes entertaining himself with a tennis ball :)

Lovely name for a lovely dog!

we also have a nearly 11 year old black lab, they seem to be getting on fine, just have to feed them apart as the lab will muscle him out for food because shes so so greedy, she'll do anythign to get extra food! shes not interested in playing with him but shes like that with all other dogs, she'd much rather just bumble about doing her own thing and technically, shes housemates mums dog, majima is mine :) (i live with my housemate and his mum, it might sound a strange set up but it works for us, shes been very ill over the last couple of years so we've helped care for her and now shes much better she helps me haha)

@OneNight he is adorable! Enjoy. What a way to cheer yourself up during lockdown.

Sorry to hear some of you have had to go A&E, hope everything is sorted for you all.

Me and the children managed to get out for a walk, was lovely and only saw 2 people and able to keep plenty of distance. Think it did all 3 of us good. My husband is currently living away as he is a keyworker and we didn't want to risk him brin9the virus home, but it's getting so hard now that I think end of June he will move in and will have to try to work something out (we are in a 2 bed flat, had just accepted an offer before sheilding started, and reserved our new house, but had to pull out as couldn't risk moving in sheilding especially as my employer furloughed me.) hoping for better guidance shortly so we can put plans in place

Just received this text from Scot Gov. I imagine we'll be advised we can go for a walk now too to be in line with England and perhaps there will be some info on timescales but no idea really. Been a bit quiet as been under the weather with my condition but thinking about you all. Happy to log in and see a cute dog pic too but will catch up properly today as feeing a lot brighter.

GOV.SCOT
We know what a huge impact shielding will be having on your life. We know how difficult it can be - physically, mentally and emotionally - to follow the guidance. We're learning more about the virus and the level of risk, so want to make sure we keep you up to date. This is to protect both your health and your quality of life. Today at 12:30, the First Minister will be giving an update on the future of shielding in Scotland. You can watch live on BBC Scotland or on Twitter @scotgov or you can listen on the BBC Scotland radio station.

Had a lovely phone call at the weekend from a colleague who said I was “lucky my boss is being so understanding about my shielding” but that it’s “optional and I can’t keep doing it”. I did of course stress to her that my boss is not “being good” - we are legally protected - and that it’s not really optional if the alternative is very unsafe, but this fell on deaf ears and she ended the call. I know she probably didn’t mean badly but it’s stayed with me and left me low-level annoyed all weekend. Grr...

Glad you are feeling brighter @AuntieSocia1.

Name changed as about to say something about work.

Love the new dog.

I'm in a grievance with work now, I said I was going to quit on Thursday and it's gone to the top and I need to write out a grievance. TBH it's been a long time coming but most of the notes relating to the issues are in work, or, on my work email none of which I can access due to furlough and lockdown.

For those who are furloughed, has it been explained to you why you are furloughed? I was originally furloughed due to being ill (probably covid) and was due to go back a couple of weeks ago, having been told it will be reviewed after three weeks. The first three week mark I was OK to WFH - I wasn't a hundred percent but could have done it, the six week mark I was definitely ready to go back and by then knew that other people were doing my job and costing more money. So I asked on Thursday but my line manager said he didn't want to give me the reason for me being furloughed as he didn't want to say the wrong thing. Apparently he's been the sole decision maker into my furlough whereas everyone else has had a team / committee to make the decisions. I feel really uneasy about it all.

Fingers crossed Scotland update their advice for shielding in a positive way!

@Egghead68 colleagues can be shit sometimes. I am really lucky with most of mine thankfully - they've been really good. Unfortunately it's the one's who matter who haven't been (actually only 2 out of 70 people!)

sorry to hear youve got work troubles ocean really not a good time for it, though theres never really a good time for it. I hope things get resolved in a way thats good for you

egghead she doesnt sound very understanding at all. Its hardly like you asked to be shielded for no good reason ( which i have heard theres been some people demanding to be put on the shielding list like its a special superior club to be in)

I've no idea why England are taking so long to review shielding, we have lives to plan!

I had a long cry to my counsellor today, we decided that I should try and work on one or two things I am in control of and that I can actually do. I think I'm going to set my alarm for an hour earlier than the kids and spend an hour with a cuppa on the front doorstep to start my day with peace and quiet and calm and fresh air. That fish out my 1ltr water bottle and aim to drink it every day.

At the moment I wake up groggy and in chaos and then spend all day wallowing, I don't sleep until the early hours of the morning and I feel crappy. I need to start taking some control.
I took the car out today to put fuel in it and took it through the car wash (all with necessary precautions) and then took it for a 1/2 he drive down the country roads. Tomorrow I will do the same with my little banger.

Sorry to hear of all the work troubles, that's the last thing we all need Thankfully so far my work are being great but I don't know how they'll take the news if shielding is extended.

After Scotland and Wales updating the shielding time I really, really want (need) to know what England plans to do. Whether we are released or not it's the not knowing that is getting me down.

Cute pupper!

I wish they'd just say what's going to happen for shielders. My work are nagging me about whether I can go back or not or when I can - erm I don't know that 🤷🏻‍♀️

I shouldn’t feel cynical but the daily death total is generally lower on a Monday and I realise how bloody awful that sounds and that hearing ‘daily deaths’ has become our ‘new normal’!

Shielded in England are due to hear an update on the 15th June, when figures will again possibly be lower (fingers crossed) but will this give us a clear picture of the virus?

I’m just hoping whatever the Government decide, they will do it with every shred of opinion from all of the scientists.

I feel worried about the thought of going back to work but know that it does need to happen. I just don’t want to go back before I know it really is ok to do so.

I live in an area where over the weekend the R rate was over 1, now it’s magically not so? I hope they’re right!

Went for my first solo walk today ... surprisingly anxious. Went at a quiet time and nowhere scenic. Did not touch anything or get near anyone.

Lovely dog onenight.

I thought what a great time to get a puppy as at home to enjoy one!

Well we can go for a walk from next week but no meeting up with anyone from another household even at a distance. Sounds awful to say but I actually felt relieved they made it clear because it meant I wouldn't have to feel guilty about being reluctant to meet up. I also realise I am in the fortunate position of shielding with my family though and understand how tough that might be.

Scotland's official shielding date has now to run until the 31st of July with more personalised advice to follow from clinicians. I'm mainly thinking about my dc starting school in August and wondering how likely it will be. I know there are no firm answers but I'm wondering if I should be preparing him for a delayed start. So nothing really new that I haven't been worrying about all along!

Hope everyone is managing ok. It is a bit of a strange transition time for us all

@OceanPotion sorry about your work situation. It sounds really stressful.

@AuntieSocia1 I am glad you have a bit of clarity at least.

Hi all. Big hugs to all who are struggling. I've just had to report a post on MN here this morning in which the OP states they are sick of protecting the vulnerable and don't give a fuck about us anymore if it means their kids can go back to school.

I had my say before reporting. Said that we had all been feeling pretty shit anyway thanks, but now lovely to know we were actually hated. What shocked me most is that there were a fair few fold agreeing with this toxicity. (As evident by AIBU % and comments)

I know some of you are actively avoiding the dementors threads etc so please don't look it up if you fear for your sanity. With a bit if luck it will be deleted soon - I am putting my faith in MN massively here. But I just needed to vent as yet again, we are getting the blame for everyone else's 'pain'

Sorry. As you were. Hugs all round.

Hey everyone. Sorry haven’t been replying to anything. Have had to have a few days off absolutely everything to give myself a good talking to. Worrying is making me ill and I need to get my breathing back under control or I’m going to end up in hospital. Felt a bit better yesterday. Woke up to the school news and felt even better - I teach primary age and so far it’s been fine but the pressure of ‘the return’ was there - that took the pressure off a bit. Then I saw that thread. It’s not just the thread that has shocked me, it’s the amount of people agreeing. Thanks for reporting it @FuckThisWind. Hugs everyone.

I saw that thread too - so aggressive. I know there is such a thing as 'compassion fatigue' but that poster took it to a whole new level! Where has compassion and empathy gone in society - generally?

I know people are struggling at home with children and worried about their lack of education, but ranting at the vulnerable is not the answer... it's the government everybody should be livid with.

I think many of the posters agreeing on there are the same people who were convinced a few weeks ago that schools would open 'properly' on May 11th after the half term holidays. There were so many threads at the time about schools re-opening, it was like an echo chamber where everyone had convinced themselves it was going to happen.
So while headteachers and unions have been saying for weeks that it can't work safely, they have only been hearing what they want to hear and now it has come as a shock. We are the easy target I'm afraid.

Thank you for reporting it @FuckThisWind - there should be no place for such vitriol and bile on MN

I think I know which thread. I couldn’t sleep last night and had the misfortune to have stumbled on it when it didn’t appear too dangerous at first glance. It didn’t help the anxiety insomnia.

I actually read the anti dementors thread, I find them very reassuring against the hysteria and throwing us under the bus, they give a sense of normality. I’m not sure if I’m alone in that 😳

It’s my husbands birthday tomorrow, trying to motivate a plan but he’s not big on birthdays unless we’re out for food with friends so he’s been no help but I think making it a celebration day and making a fuss would be good for the groundhog syndrome seeping into the house right now for all 4 of us. The weather is uncertain which is a pain because we had intended to make his favourite pub lunch and eat in the garden with a few drinks and music.

I hope you are all well and coping as much as possible. I don’t normally join long running threads as I am useless at keeping up!

Does it not occur to posters that many people shielding also have dc? I have children with disabilities and a stressed out year ten.