Anyones partner still live with their ex?

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What it says in the title really. Anyones partner still live with their ex? How do you handle it?

I wouldn’t go out with anyone who still lived with their ex! Mega messy. I’d expect someone to be sorted in their own home and living apart from an ex for a long ish time before they began dating again.!

When we met early last year he wasn't living there he was with his parents. Since lockdown he went back to live there as his ex refused to let him round to see the kids. He's in the spare room.

Id be jealous and insecure but these are unusual times and when you have a partner who has kids with an ex then there will always be that nagging jealous feeling because they have kids and their kids should always come first.
Maybe all the time together brought them closer or maybe it reminded them why they arent together.

Many couples separate and still live together due to money or covid or becausd its the best option for them genuinely. But of course some are liars and are still very much a couple.
What matters is how you see it and what you want to do about it?

I do feel a little insecure but its nothing to do with him I trust him completely. It doesn't help the fact that I know she wants him back, he ended the relationship towards the end of 2018 he tells me he's got no interest in her whatsoever in that side of things but wants to remain amicable for the sake of the kids.
We call and text daily and as time has gone on, ive come round to the idea more as I know its important for him to keep his relationship with his children, i would never want to get in the way of that. Never.

I suppose its because I've never been in this situation before. I find some days harder than others.

Thanks for the replies 😊

They might have had sex..sorry.
Guys usually take it when offered and if she wants him.....sorry!

She hadn't wanted sex with him for years that was one of the many reasons why he ended it so I highly doubt it.

I could not be doing with that!

I'd be running for the hills. Their his kids too, he needs to stand up for himself. He has a right to see them without her controlling him. He needs a court order in place and to grow a backbone.

I'm not running, we love eachother bits.
When it concerns his DC I can only advise, and I have mentioned about the legal route if his ex continues to be funny about contact.

I wouldn't be willing to stay in this relationship if it were a long term thing, though I appreciate it might not be. Personally, I couldn't do it regardless, you're clearly more understanding than me. With lockdown rules starting to ease, does he have a plan to move out?

Yes, he planning on moving out he was saving up for his own place before lockdown hit. He's said once the lockdown is completely over he will be going back to his parents to continue saving.

I've been fairly understanding, it upset me when he said what was happening but I trust him completely and he's the same with me. We know how we feel about eachother and as I've said further up, hes only done it so he could see his children.
I know I wouldnt like to be kept away from my DC for god knows how long.

My exh did that
Lived with me while seeing two other women
Drove them bonkers
The first one was so eaten up with jealousy, she dumped him while we all went to Florida together.
He told her he was in Dubai looking for a job , when all the time he was in Disney with me kids, and grandkids 😁😂

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My ex told his ow we weren’t having sex either...lol

Nah.

Too much temptation.

Not currently but historically yes. Both my partner and I were living with our spouses when we started dating!
We both had plans to move out that hadn’t come to fruition yet.
It wasn’t an easy few months but it was all worth it in the end!

You do know that he would tell you he isn’t having sex with her, he’s going to move out soon.....

He’s had plenty opportunity to move in with his parents just now and help them, while still seeing his kids, so presumably he chose not to because the prefers to be with her?

I think he could be playing you. Sorry.

Theres no wonder so many women on here crack up and end up losing it. So because he's gone back there to see his kids they're automatically sleeping together?
I'm not the OW, weve been together just under a year now. If that was the case wouldn't he be ghosting me? Or being distant with me?
I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be telling me how much he loves me and how much he misses me if there was anything going off between them. The entire time he's been there we've been making plans for our future.
Theres absolutely no need for your negative comments so thanks but no thanks.

Freedombird - Thats the kind of input I needed so thanks for your comment.

Does he live with her or has he moved back in for lockdown? That's two totally different scenarios

Either way it doesn't look good. He either could have seen the children while living away but chose to live with her or he has a controlling ex who jumps through hoops for.

Moved back in for lockdown. I suppose it depends how you look at it really. Its only for the short term but he is living there, paying her X amount a month the same as what he was doing at his parents.

God you’re naive.

He didn't want to go back but its the only way he could see his children. I'm not about to start commenting on his ex, that's not my style.
He had said he would take the legal route if push came to shove but hoping she will come to her senses before it gets that far.

Why doesn't he live with you?

Have you seen him ?

Have you been round there and seen the dynamics between the two of them ?

It's not looking good.