Anyones partner still live with their ex?

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What it says in the title really. Anyones partner still live with their ex? How do you handle it?

This is the first time ive posted about this.

I know they're not sleeping together. He wouldn't come near me if that was the case. He's just there to be with the DC during lockdown.

I think too many women on here are quick to jump to hes cheating or leave him.

Thanks for your input @Qwerty543 I appreciate the genuine reply.

So his ex doesn't believe him to be responsible enough to isolate himself so he can still visit his children? She has to keep tabs on him the whole time to make sure he hasn't come in to contact with anyone? He couldn't manage to do that without her supervision? Huge red flag.

OP if his relationship with his ex is anything like mine ^see above^ he is definitely not sleeping with her or anywhere near her! They're exes for a reason.

He is a good dad, thats one thing about him that I love. I'm not about to up and leave him for wanting to be in his kids lives.

My post wasn't about whether they're sleeping together or not. So I'm not even sure why that's come into it.

To those of you who have added practical comments, thank-you 😊 I appreciate it.

Yes, its not an ideal situation but the one I'm in and I'm trying to deal with it as best I can. I trust him. He isn't a bad person.

Lockdown is boring as hell. I imagine if I was temporarily living with an ex through it I'd be sleeping with them 🤷🏻‍♀️

@lunar1 you'd sleep with someone you're not attracted to anymore out of boredom?

He's not your partner.

OP, I hope you don't start overthinking all this shit any more than you already were. Not every bloke takes sex at every opportunity at all. Does his ex know about you?

@borntohula, I've never left a relationship on truly bad terms, we've either grown apart or my first husband passed away when we were young.

They were obviously attracted to each other once, lockdown days and nights are long, there's only so much tv you can watch.

Did they start the divorce or separate finances?

I would want to know why he hasn't got the divorce underway.

I think people are just advising you to keep your eyes open. Stranger things have happened than someone who an op trusted 'completely' announcing he and his wife are making another to of it, sorry. A year you've been together - it's really not that long.

Hopefully our fears are unfounded, he's totally into you and there is a happy future for the both of you for years to come. But better forewarned than blindsided, eh?

I cant even believe some of the comments I am reading.
I came here for support and advice, now I'm realising I was wrong to do that.
I suppose if he was living with me and not seeing his kids you'd jump on me for that too.
This will be my last post on this site.

Lunar, I was once attracted to my ex. I'm in another relationship now and despite living with said ex for reasons I've already mentioned, I don't want sex with anyone except my bf. And my ex sure as hell isn't interested in me. I don't get the whole 'they must be shagging' thing.

You both sound like great parents, putting your children first and not rushing into introducing them to the new partners.
He could be shagging his ex, but just as much as anyone else's partner could be having an affair. Some people just like to pick at everything!

I wouldn't even care if he's having sex with her or not. Him being at her beck and call and not having the backbone to say they are his kids too and he can manage to isolate himself but still see them without living with their mother would be bad enough. He sounds like he's controlled by the ex which is a very bad situation to be part of.

He might not be sleeping with her, though I think there's a good chance he is. But either way, he's not going to commit to you and be the partner you want while he's in this situation. I wouldn't put up with this and I doubt most women would.

I’m sorry you feel that way OP. It can be a helpful forum.

There are many poster who post questions, get replies they don’t like about issues they didn’t ask about. You aren’t alone.

It’s not that people are trying to be nasty, they are trying to be honest about what may be happening. It’s up to you to consider the advice or not as you see fit.

There’s no need to flounce off in a strop.

Support & advice for what?
If you’re so sure he’s not doing anything wrong, why are you worried?
Why do you need support/ advice if they’re basically housemates?

Yes his ex does know about me, they weren't married.

I'm not worried, ive never said that I'm worried. I asked how other people coped or dealt with it.

Ignore all the nasty comments here, OP. They’re from bitter, jealous people with insecurities and trust issues who chose poor partners and think all men are the same lying, cheating scumbags. They’re not.

I haven’t been in your situation so I cannot directly advise, but I would just continue on as you are doing. Lockdown won’t last forever