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What are you supposed to do when your teenager appears in mad getup?

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KahRona · 15/05/2020 18:01

DD is exploring a sense of style Hmm

Today she appeared in a massive jumper, a pair of black cycling shorts and the ugliest frumpiest sandals I have ever seen, with socks, and a scrunchie.

I am one to talk, considering the get up of my teenage years was far more skimpy and I had to sneak out of the house in most of it.

Do you comment? Do you just skip over it?!

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KahRona · 15/05/2020 19:53

Scrunchies functioning as hair accessory and bangles, about four at the one time on one arm and one in her hair.

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PuntoEBasta · 15/05/2020 19:54

‘Morning darling! You look comfy.’

Helenluvsrob · 15/05/2020 20:00

That’s nice dear..

CarlottaValdez · 15/05/2020 20:02

My dad used to say “the circus is in town I see”.

threesenoughthanks · 15/05/2020 20:12

My Dd 14 is full on visco girl. Cycling shorts, hydro flask, metal straws, baggy jumpers, a hundred scrunchies and Carmex lip balm. I quite like it.

ifyoulikepinacolada · 15/05/2020 20:17

whereabouts are you that this has only landed now?! I wouldn’t wear it but I think it looks cute and comfy.

ReturnofSaturn · 15/05/2020 20:19

Oh dear!
Yes photos are a must for hilarity in a few years Grin

woolyrab · 15/05/2020 20:21

Revel in it. My lad is currently rolling his kecks up and pairing with wacky socks and very bright trainers. He knows what he likes

sonjadog · 15/05/2020 20:27

My mother used to talk about "pelmets". In fact, I have never heard the word used since. I wonder where it came from?

lakeswimmer · 15/05/2020 20:35

Another with a VSCO girl teen here.

My DM always used to find something nice to say about my appearance even in my more unconventional clothing phases Smile I was always a bit surprised at the time but as I got older I really appreciated it. I'm not self-conscious about my appearance and think it's partly because my parents were always positive about me when I was growing up.

catinb0oots · 15/05/2020 20:39

DH (now 53) still talks about the time he had to meet his mum at a hospital - wearing purple dungarees, wallabies and a plaited top-knot. Apparently his mum nearly died on the spot.

amber763 · 15/05/2020 20:53

Haha I think the frilly bit that my gran had along the curtain rail might have been a pelmet? My mum used to say that about my skirts too. Not thought about that for years! Thanks for the laugh

Chillipeanuts · 15/05/2020 20:54

Nothing. You don’t have to wear it 🤷‍♀️

Chillipeanuts · 15/05/2020 20:55

Ps: I am not known for my sartorial elegance 😁

TheGinGenie · 15/05/2020 20:55

Leave her to it, lots of people laughed at David Bowie's outfits then they wanted to be him.

dementedma · 15/05/2020 20:57

Just tell her she looks pretty. She will hate you

AmICrazyorWhat2 · 15/05/2020 21:04

Count yourself lucky, OP. My DD (14) doesn't like the Visco girl look, unfortunately she prefers tight dresses, small shorts and T-shirts.

She's curvy and looks about 18/19 in some outfits, which really bothers me and makes DH apoplectic. I usually get her to put on a larger T-shirt/ sweatshirt. I'm just hoping she develops better taste at some point!

Bflatmajorsharp · 15/05/2020 21:13

Ah! So this is why dd13 - who has been spending A LOT of time on Tik Tok during lock down - has been wearing her dad's jumpers!

Looks quite sweet Smile. Check metal straws, eco concerns but no Birkenstocks as yet.

user1471565182 · 15/05/2020 21:34

Call her a bomberclaat

borntohula · 15/05/2020 23:03

I only know about 'VSCO' because I have a teenage DD but she lives in sportswear, huge hoodies and leggings so maybe I'd rather she had a more distinctive style! Her choice though, obviously.

PullUpsAreTricky · 15/05/2020 23:07

just make sure you take photos so you can embarrass them later on!

StillMedusa · 15/05/2020 23:17

I remember going to Easter Sunday church service with my Mum and my best friend circa 1982... peak dayglo leg warmers, batwing sweatshirts time, and my Mum commenting that we were the only ones there dressed more luridly than the Bishop Grin

Enjoy.. it will pass :) My girls are in their twenties and did their teens with the ironed hair and the MAJOR eyeliner phase...with no eyebrows....

CatOnLaptop · 16/05/2020 00:21

Let her crack on. I was pretty wild as a teen trying out different looks. Mostly my parents let me, although my mum used to encourage me to think about the impression I would make and what that meant - why did I want to make that impression? What could I learn about people from their reactions to me? Etc. The only time she intervened was when she felt it was selfish (it's not about you being noticed for who you are, this event is about x so tone it down a bit). These days I am boringly conventional. Being a teen and trying out different looks is a form of expression and important to self development.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 16/05/2020 00:33

I used to do a bit of faux outrage; let them enjoy a little mild rebellion. It’s all part of being a teenager. (I was much wilder at that age than any of my kids seem to be.)

Gingaaarghpussy · 16/05/2020 00:47

Socks with sandles! English man abroad moment.

I'd only say "why socks with sandles?" And leave it at that.

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