Mother-in-law wearing white at the wedding

[Sweetener12]

Yesterday I saw an article about the photographer being told to re-color MIL's dress in the wedding pictures because this lady wore white. While the photographer did a good job repainting it, I thought of what would I do if my future MIL would wear something like that. I'd probably had a good talk with her after all... but I appreciate the idea of re-painting the dress in the photos, haha! What would you do?

I think I'd ask her to go home and change in she showed up in a white dress.
She couldn't accuse of being rude for that as she'd already have broken the no.1 etiquette rule of dressing up for someone elses wedding.

My sister in law wore a white dress to my wedding. She probably got the shock of her life when I walked up the aisle wearing a wedding dress that wasn't white.

I actually didn't notice on the day, it was about 15 years later that someone looking at a photo pointed out that it was rude to wear white to a wedding. I'd never heard of that before, although that's probably just because people usually instinctively don't do it so it doesn't tend to come up.

Hugely unflattering dress too! All the other guests would have felt for the bride, what an awful petty thing to do. Why would you want it to look like you’re marrying your son??

My mother in law wore white for my wedding. She was also miffed when one of the guests turned up IN THE SAME DRESS 🤦🏻‍♀️

Mine wore white/ cream the same sort of colour as mine
I was very hurt
But everyone thought she was rude 😐

My MIL wore a very pale cream/off-white dress to my wedding. I didn't say anything to her as I didn't see it until I got to the front of the church but everyone was staring at her and giving filthy looks. She may have been after a reaction (we didn't have the best relationship early on) but I decided my best reaction was to not give her one.

I would never wear white (or black) to a wedding but this unwritten rule doesn't seem to apply in the US and I wonder whether it is changing here as a result.

Actually it's not precisely rude to wear white to a wedding. It's rude to upstage the bride. So an over the top white dress that stands out is a no-no. Wearing something nice with a white jacket is fine.

Mil wasn't invited to our wedding!!.

That's not a very flattering dress for the MIL, I'm guessing no mates, no mirrors!

I would never wear white (or black) to a wedding but this unwritten rule doesn't seem to apply in the US and I wonder whether it is changing here as a result.

I must admit I had never heard of it being rude to wear black to a wedding until I read it on Mumsnet. I've worn black to loads of weddings, and have seen other guests wear black too.

I remember a poster saying a few years ago that if she had turned up at her wedding and saw a guest wearing black, she wouldn't have gone through with the wedding.

One of my DH friends wore a white dress with black appliqué flowers to my wedding. It didn’t bother me at the time but looking back at the pictures she stands out more than I do. 🙄

I am a MIL. I would no more have worn white than turned up stark bollock naked.

I'd never wear white to a wedding, because white doesn't suit me. But it's difficult to know whether you'll upstage the bride or not. What are you meant to do if the bride looks rough - pop home and change?

Why is her hand so dark?

I've been married forever but I can't imagine caring if someone had worn white to my wedding - maybe they did.

I've never heard of this before! If my MIL turned up in white to my wedding I wouldn't even think twice!

It wouldn’t occur to me to care

I went to a wedding once where the Mother of the Bride wore a long white dress with a veil.

My MIL said she was going to wear a full-length white dress to our wedding. She showed us the dress. It was basically a wedding dress. DH had a word. She turned up on the day in head-to-toe black with a thumping hangover

We actually get on very well now, 20 years later.

Wow, that's like super rude. I'd never thought of asking the photographer to change the colors but it really sounds like a great idea. Or I'd do it myself via Photodiva. Idk why would any woman do this to the bride, the wedding is not a fashion contest, after all!

@cultkid my sister did the same to me! I had a lovely gold number with beads (second wedding) she wore an identical colour dress, similar style with beads and a massive hat. Afterwards my SiL asked me whether it was planned as the outfits were so similar and asked me why we hadn’t included my other sisters.

My friend’s best man wore a white suit and a pink shirt to his wedding. He REALLY stood out. The bride was furious and ripped him a new one.

I did read one wedding story where it was anticipated that the MIL would were white. Luckily the chief bridesmaid had an “unfortunate accident” with a large glass of red wine right before the ceremony!

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