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Neighbours painting our fence?

148 replies

CherryStoneTree · 02/05/2020 12:14

We are in a new build, fence is ours and marked on both deeds as such. Neighbours are aware it’s ours. Both owners.

They’ve started painting their side today. I know the law states they should have asked our permission first, but we can’t exactly go and speak to them/go near the fence today. Do we let them do it in spirit of keeping things civil/haven’t had an issue with them before. And as long as the paint doesn’t bleed through it’s protecting the fence?

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PhoneLock · 02/05/2020 20:11

We have mostly just over waist height stone walls. They don't need painting and they are great for chatting to our (nice) neighbours over. Smile

ilikebigbuttsandicannotlie · 02/05/2020 20:16

Op, in the nicest possible way, get a f life! It’s their side of the fence. You must be a delight to live next to.

Mammaaof · 02/05/2020 20:20

I think the reaction is your being pathetic and petty! Grow up OP for god sake!! Lockdown is really bringing out the weird people!

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Itwasntme1 · 02/05/2020 20:29

Why do Hess threads always get so nasty? I always wonder how the people who start h throwing insults and names about survive in the real world. How can they hold normal conversations - do they have the emotional intelligence to manage a conversation civilly when they don’t agree? Or do they just call the other person pathetic and run away😂😂😂

longtimecomin · 02/05/2020 20:32

How very petty, you must have very little else to Moan about at the moment

Itwasntme1 · 02/05/2020 20:40

I think everyone should stop the pile on. There really is no need to be nasty. We are all having a tough time. It’s okay to disagree but no need to be mean. Let’s try and be grown ups

MaddieElla · 02/05/2020 20:43

We painted our fence (to protect it, not just to look nice) and DH painted the neighbours side too.

Belongs to us but we thought it was the right thing to do. Normal fence colour, not pink or anything.

fronttoback · 02/05/2020 20:53

In the normal real world outside of MN it is quite usual for your neighbour to paint their side of the fence, and nobody gives two shits. Most of us attempt to get along with our neighbours rather than go out of our way to antagonise them over something so trivial.

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Ilets · 02/05/2020 20:54

We've had houses where both neighbours had that the fence was theirs on their deeds. They might be thinking the same as you, that the fence is their responsibility

Neighbours are a pain in the arse. I still can't believe how uptight people get over fences. We've always just painted the inside panels on ours and neighbours did their side. That's the usual procedure as far as I've ever seen it. It's when fences need replacing that the deeds come out.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 02/05/2020 21:14

I wouldn't mind if it didn't end up on my side. It if ended up in my side we'd be having words. I chose a fence I liked the look of as it is, I don't want to paint/stain it and I certainly don't want dribbles on my side.

But right now, with things as they are, they could paint it mustard & purple stripes and I don't think I could find it in me to care.

mollibu · 02/05/2020 21:16

If you would've said yes to them painting it anyway, is there any point having a moan to them about it? Waste of energy IMO.

myangelalex · 02/05/2020 21:20

They probably should have asked as they must have seen you have it put up. I'm sure they painted it to match their other fences

MrsWhites · 02/05/2020 21:33

Why do people get so territorial over fences?? I’ve painted all of my fences, would dream that I would need to ask my neighbours permission! Why would you care what colour their side is? Even if you wanted to turn it around at some point surely you could just paint it to your preferred colour or jet wash the paint off!

StoorieHoose · 03/05/2020 12:12

Why do people get so territorial over fences??

Probably because they have paid quite a lot of money to have them installed?

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CherryStoneTree · 03/05/2020 13:32

People are so lovely here today.
You’re probably all the same people telling people to “stay the fuck at home” and then posting pictures of yourself and your family on your daily walk no the beach, but want those living in London flats to not even open a window for 2 months.

No I didn’t say anything to them, yes I asked on here an anonymous forum instead to see what the general consensus was, as you know, bit of nationwide stress so not being able to judge what’s normal or not.

Apart from them driving over our front garden and leaving big tyre snapped grooves, haven’t done anything to annoy us.

Glad you all have me pegged as a wonderful neighbour.

Yes again, fence is ours, told at point of sale who’s is who’s fence, you’re not allowed to touch them/attach anything without permission. So they were also told this and decided not to check first.

Have a good day lovely people.

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lifestooshort123 · 03/05/2020 14:17

They should have asked you. My daughter's fence blew down in the wind and neighbour said it was his fence and he'd replace it. He put in a 6' one which she prefers but she's very aware it's HIS fence - she will mention to him that she'd like to put the hanging basket bracket up and see what he says. It's polite to ask.

Windyatthebeach · 03/05/2020 14:23

The thing is (to me anyway) is say they now start to add planters to the fence, their dc start using it a a goal, and the fence deteriates, who had or replace it when it is fooked??
THE OP!
Tell the Cfers it needs to be left alone!

madcatladyforever · 03/05/2020 14:28

Why are people being so aggressive to the OP? My new fence in my old house was really good quality and cost almost £2k because it was a 200 foot garden. I had to save up for two years to buy that fence and have it put up and I've been fucked off if a neighbour had slapped some shit all over it and dragged it down with ivy or whatever.
I can only assume that all the people slagging OP off are chavs who have no respect for anybody elses property and don't believe in ASKING before defacing it.

madcatladyforever · 03/05/2020 14:34

AND....legally if anyone defaces your property you are entitled to take them to the small claims court and get compensation so those of you bent on this kind of vandalism you will be laughing on the other side of your faces when you have to cough up for a new fence. I most certainly would have them prosecuted if they defaced my property because there are far tooo many people around with zero manners who think they can destroy what is not theirs.

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CherryStoneTree · 03/05/2020 14:39

Thanks @madcatladyforever Smile

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Itwasntme1 · 03/05/2020 14:41

My fence came down in the storm last year. It’s a good 6 foot fence and gives me and my neighbours privacy. The section that came down backs onto a garden that has a much lower hedge behind it. The fence is 100% mine, it’s on my land and I have always maintained it.

It took a couple of weeks to get it repaired. I was standing int he garden quietly admiring it once it was finished and heard my neighbour say loudly ‘about fucking time she sorted that, I was about to go round and have to it out with her.’

W. T. A. F.

Louise0701 · 03/05/2020 14:43

young FTB problems

Bertucci · 03/05/2020 14:44

How utterly petty and small-minded of you.

It wouldn't occur to us to even raise an eyebrow.

Oldestchild90s · 03/05/2020 14:55

@madcatladyforever
@CherryStoneTree

People are being horrible and rude because it's what they always do on here, oh and the fact they don't understand the meaning of 'deeds' and 'laws'

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CherryStoneTree · 03/05/2020 14:59

@Louise0701 I’m sorry? Nope. Not a first time buyer.
@Bertucci thank you for judging my character. As I’ve said, we and the neighbours were told about the fence and asking permission, so I was asking more about the judgement of them for not asking us when they were told not to touch it at point of sale.

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