Do you dote on your nephews/nieces?

[teatree123]

I have a two-year old who is much loved by both sets of grandparents and my siblings. My husband's brother and his wife, on the other hand, are just not bothered with her at all. My husband isn't especially close with his brother, and I get some people don't like children, but is the following behaviour normal?

• a very basic birthday card (to x, from y), no presents
• never ask after her in messages
• no response to photos of her shared in family WhatsApp (we share one maybe once a month max)

My siblings love my daughter. My friends who have nephews and nieces also love them to bits. So this is really odd to me. I can't help but feel hurt, and let this colour my relationship with my brother in law, particularly as they seem very fond of my brother in law's wife's (older) nephew and niece, and spend time with them.

Can someone help me make sense of this?

They are my world. My reason for living.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

Thank you! Yes, it is sad. I feel very sorry for her. She clearly has a lot of issues, has cut many people out of her life and lives alone in isolation. She's certainly a worry to the family.

@HoldMyLobster

I couldn't even name all my nephews and nieces. I think there's 21 of them but I struggle to keep up.

curious how many siblings do you have to have 21 nieces/nephews?

I dont think theres 21 people in my whole modern family branch lol

I do think it's bad form sending just a basic card and not even a small token present on her birthday

Ah, so it's not the thought that counts then. It's the present.

And to not respond at all on the rare occasions we share a photo

Some people aren't into looking at pictures of kids.

My husband and I have quite a few siblings between us (9) and none of them have ever bothered with our 3, in the 13 years we have had children none have ever sent a card for a birthday or Christmas let alone a gift, as sad as it is it is quite common. Enjoy the people that do care and make her feel loved :)