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Would you report someone for breach of Covid-19 rules?

74 replies

user1474724638 · 26/04/2020 22:53

I moved in with a relative four weeks ago to look after them during the virus.

My relative's neighbour lives alone. He had a friend visit his flat today. The friend went inside then they both left to do sport (could tell the way they were dressed). They both returned later and spent hours in the flat together till the friend left. I don't think this is the first visitor the neighbour's had visit over the last few weeks.

This is breaking the rules which is bad enough but the neighbour works as a medic in the nhs.

I know I could report them on the police website but I'm nervous about giving my details as my relative has had a lot of problems with this neighbour, eg selfish behaviour, so I know what they can be like and I'm worried they might find out who reported them.

The other option is Crimestoppers.

It just seems awful to me with them working in the nhs and so unfair on people who are following the rules. I've even wondered if I've got the rules wrong!

What would you do?

OP posts:
ArrabellaAM · 26/04/2020 23:04

I would and I have. I was reporting a very large public gathering though so it wouldn't be obvious it was me.

Rules are rules and we all want this to be over as quickly as possible.
Hes obviously not a very intelligent medic if hes doing that.

RoryGilmoree · 26/04/2020 23:06

Theoretically it might be a colleague he sees. They can't social distance in the workplace so perhaps there's not much difference outside of work...

Kasabian23 · 26/04/2020 23:07

Absolutely you should, rule breakers put the rest of us in danger. Report to the police and your local neighbourhood watch if you can, people need to know that you can't be selfish at a time like this.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 26/04/2020 23:09

They probably work together, probably both been tested.

FreckledLeopard · 26/04/2020 23:11

No I wouldn't. Worry about yourself and mind your own business.

lljkk · 26/04/2020 23:12

Over my dead body.

lljkk · 26/04/2020 23:12

*yes I realise that's not inconceivable; I am still sticking by it.

MakeLemonade · 26/04/2020 23:13

No I wouldn’t, what a waste of police time.

teapotstorm · 26/04/2020 23:15

No I wouldn’t

dementedpixie · 26/04/2020 23:16

I would silently judge but do nothing

Sunshine1239 · 26/04/2020 23:18

Of course not

A dr may mix with 30-40 colleagues a day in one to one close contact

Could be anyone of those

Seriously take a look at yourself for even considering

seltaeb · 26/04/2020 23:19

No, just MYOB and do what you need to yourself.

PineappleDanish · 26/04/2020 23:20

No. You have no idea what the situation is. Also if the neighbour is an NHS medic, then I dare say he's well aware of risks.

Police are interested in breaking up parties of large numbers of people. Not in your neighbour.

What is it about covid which has turned ordinary people into the secret police?

GivenchyDahhling · 26/04/2020 23:22

The online reporting function only exists to stop people phoning the police and wasting their time. I would be very surprised if there is much action taken as a result of these reports. So no, I wouldn’t report.

Sunshine1239 · 26/04/2020 23:22

Totally agree pineapple

People seem to have turned awful

It’s brought out the worst in people

People I liked have put stuff on Facebook that makes me really question them

picklemewalnuts · 26/04/2020 23:24

No! Supposing that he is exposing the other person to risk (which he may not be), this might be what keeps him well enough to go into work each day.

JellyfishandShells · 26/04/2020 23:34

So you/your relative doesn’t get on with this neighbour, you have had the chance to take a deep, curtain twitching, interest in their movements today and think that - gotcha! - a chance to make things difficult for them in some petty revenge.

Lovely, aren’t you.

If they are a medic ( by which I suppose you mean a doctor ) do you think having someone at their house is going to put them at greater risk of catching it than their actual workplace? ? Or do you think that the friend is going to be at risk - because both of them will be very aware of contagion and they are probably not just a random mate but a colleague who is already equally at risk at work. No net increase in risk to themselves or anyone else.

Have some sense of proportion.

Original poster
user1474724638 · 27/04/2020 00:00

It's nothing to do with revenge, I just wanted opinions which is why I asked. Thanks to everyone that answered. I can see they'd already be mixing at work.

I didn't think households could mix, I haven't seen anyone for ages.

I don't think I've turned awful or into a curtain twitcher. It's quiet here and it was unusual.

Off to mind my own business

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Dowser · 27/04/2020 00:01

No,
What on Earth do you think is going to happen when restrictions are lifted?
Oh yes..of course
It will magically have gone away .
SillY me.

Mimishimi · 27/04/2020 00:03

No

Checkthemeaning · 27/04/2020 00:12

I went to see a friend today. I live alone & my mental health has descended so badly I've been suicidal. Yes I broke the rules but to be honest the alternative could've been a lot worse.

Please don't get involved. You may have no clue what's going on

Chiyo666 · 27/04/2020 00:18

Mind your own business.

Lalala205 · 27/04/2020 00:18

I think the thing with mixing households is to try and prevent massive numbers from potential transfer and then bogging down the NHS at once. One household could still contain a supermarket worker, a care home worker, an NHS worker. So whilst that family maybe isn't mixing with other households they're still all potentially likely to transfer if they become symptomatic. However, in the case of your household that contains a vulnerable shielding person it's far more important you don't mix with others to protect the shielding person. So it might seem very unfair that you're 'following the rules', but the reason for you doing it is different.

thaegumathteth · 27/04/2020 00:35

No I wouldn't and haven't . I very strongly disapprove but I don't want to be part of a Community which encourages snitching because I think it's a slippery slope.

3 of my neighbours have had floor round this week alone!

Kasabian23 · 27/04/2020 00:38

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