Would you report someone for breach of Covid-19 rules?

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I moved in with a relative four weeks ago to look after them during the virus.

My relative's neighbour lives alone. He had a friend visit his flat today. The friend went inside then they both left to do sport (could tell the way they were dressed). They both returned later and spent hours in the flat together till the friend left. I don't think this is the first visitor the neighbour's had visit over the last few weeks.

This is breaking the rules which is bad enough but the neighbour works as a medic in the nhs.

I know I could report them on the police website but I'm nervous about giving my details as my relative has had a lot of problems with this neighbour, eg selfish behaviour, so I know what they can be like and I'm worried they might find out who reported them.

The other option is Crimestoppers.

It just seems awful to me with them working in the nhs and so unfair on people who are following the rules. I've even wondered if I've got the rules wrong!

What would you do?

I thought they were guidelines as opposed to rules. And it's certainly not law.

JFCOAB what have people become?

NO! Fucking hell, what's with all the Stasi wannabes?

I don't think they're breaking the law (as defined in SI 350/2020). Social gatherings of two people are permitted, so is leaving your home for exercise.
The risk to the two people concerned in going out for a run is considerably less than they are likely to encounter at work.
So live and let live.

Don't report, we all have got get through this as best we can. You don't know their circumstances. So back off and leave them alone.

If it was a large gathering, like a party , with lots of people mixing, I'd report that . But this seems innocent enough. As pp's have said, maybe they are work colleagues or maybe one has mental health isuues and are helping each other out.
Who knows ?.
I'm sticking to all the guidelines and finding it damn hard mentally .....we dont know what's going on in peoples lives at the moment.

Let's be kind.

If it's a one-on-one type situation then no. You don't know the circumstances and one of them might be vulnerable or have a need that the other is addressing. I think mental health vulnerabilities are going to become a real and valid thing if this goes on much longer.

Or you might have an opinion on my behaviour. I'm meeting a friend to be 2 metre apart shopping queue buddies (and we wait after paying to meet back up as I drop her groceries to her house while she walks - she opens the boot and I don't touch it). If I didn't she couldn't shop for 7-9 days at a time and would have more contact overall. We don't queue in the shop, or roam the aisles together, but I know one of the supermarket staff has clocked we're not together.

No.

I have a friend who has schizophrenia, and was recently released from being Sectioned. He’s completely alone in a one bed house. Twice a week his best friend (also with severe MH problems, also living alone) walks 1/2 mile to his home and they go on a bike ride together. Rural area, little risk of coming across anyone else. Neither work, neither leave their homes for any other reason. Neither has clapped eyes on another person except the other in weeks. Without that contact I honestly think one or both would be dead.

Tell me what harm that is doing? They are in a closed bubble of two. No increased risk.

If someone called the police on them it would endanger or even kill them. I’m honestly frightened some busybody will spot them and call the police.

@Checkthemeaning I'm glad you did what you needed to do to keep yourself mentally safe. Leaving the house for health reasons isn't breaking the rules.

I'm pregnant with a toddler and suffering from antenatal depression, pregnancy sickness and extreme fatigue. I've been visiting my mum a couple of times a week when I'm really really struggling to take the load of with DD physically and mentally. I am isolating, DM is isolating. It would be the same as her moving in with me during this time in regards to contact with other people. I'm sure if her neighbours saw me they wouldn't know my mental health status and might be wondering what Im doing. Luckily none of them have reported me. You don't know what other people are going through and we're all doing our damndest at keeping sane and safe. Please don't judge.

My entire street (well, 90%) is completely ignoring lockdown. No I haven't reported. No point. They just bolt back into their own gardens (thigh high fences) when the police drive past or they make up some guff about delivering emergency food which of course, they're not and even if they were, they didn't need to go in for a couple of hours to do so. They're all in and out of each others houses all day long, giving each other lifts and lately, 4 houses of kids all playing in one person's huge paddling pool.

I just hope that if when covid flies through their homes it doesn't harm those poor kids nor innocent people they've come in contact with.

Statistically the children are far more likely to die from drowning in the paddling pool than to die of COVID.

No, neighbour to the right has cancer and seems to have 1-2-1 visitors frequently daytime only. Could be for health support for all I know.

Hardly see neighbour to the left, there's been one visitor and that could have been a tradesman for example. I wouldn't have cared if it had been a friend tbh.

Neither of them are stupid and I assume they take some precautions.

If they were having large gatherings in the evening I might think about it but they're not.

I would report a large gathering but not this.

No I wouldn't report anyone and I'm quite alarmed at the self appointed Stasi's making assumptions and reporting all and sundry looking at you Dsis

Maybe they have a reason OP - kind of broken the rules yourself technically haven't you, how would you feel if someone reported that you've mixed households during all of this?

@Kasabian23 wind your fucking neck in - you've just told a suicidal person that they've put someone in danger. Does that make you proud of yourself?

@Kasabian23 what a disgusting response to someone having a hard time with their mental health. Suicide from isolation is a real risk.
Congratulations, you may be the final straw for someone not coping.

@Checkthemeaning Well done on noticing you need help and seeking it. IMO you did nothing wrong
Dont let anyone make you feel bad for seeking help

oh and no, id not report

I agree checkthemeaning with squeekums, no one who isn't a massive prick would object to you seeking help. People with MH needs matter and a great deal of handling lockdown and your health is about balancing risks. Hope you're feeling better

Yes. It's putting lives in danger. It's like drink driving.

It's nothing like drink driving FFS.

Reporting this would be a massive waste of valuable police time and resources. It would entail the police visiting him - how is that any better than the friend visiting him?

No I wouldn't. I'm not at all interested in what others are doing around here.

Yes. It's putting lives in danger. It's like drink driving.

If you've ever been on the receiving end of a drink drivers actions (I have!), you would realise you are talking absolute shit.

@Kasabian23 don’t be a twat.

What is this, Naz Germany? Should we all be snitching on neighbours and colleagues now? If said person is a medic, they are working in close contact with people every day. The visitor is probably a colleague that they have already been in close contact with. Makes no difference at all. Are people really so dense that all they can see is ‘don’t mix households’ and have no critical thinking skills?