Would you report someone for breach of Covid-19 rules?

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I moved in with a relative four weeks ago to look after them during the virus.

My relative's neighbour lives alone. He had a friend visit his flat today. The friend went inside then they both left to do sport (could tell the way they were dressed). They both returned later and spent hours in the flat together till the friend left. I don't think this is the first visitor the neighbour's had visit over the last few weeks.

This is breaking the rules which is bad enough but the neighbour works as a medic in the nhs.

I know I could report them on the police website but I'm nervous about giving my details as my relative has had a lot of problems with this neighbour, eg selfish behaviour, so I know what they can be like and I'm worried they might find out who reported them.

The other option is Crimestoppers.

It just seems awful to me with them working in the nhs and so unfair on people who are following the rules. I've even wondered if I've got the rules wrong!

What would you do?

No.

And I agree that we should be looking after our mental health, and that of others. And not 'informing' on neighbours to the police.

Strange times.

No, I wouldn’t. I mix with a hundred households a day at work. This wouldn’t bother me

No.

I’d imagine a lot of police time is being wasted as well with this sort of thing. I’ve seen police posters reminding people that their neighbours may be going to work every day, may be going out for food/exercise and delivering supplies to the vulnerable... so clearly a lot of people are being unnecessarily reported.

Nope. I am reserving my energy and ire for the government, with their stubborn silence, lack of joined up thinking, unacceptable lateness in paying self employed people whose income has been snatched away (June FFS!), who may now be living hand to mouth. No way am I going to turn informer for them.

Christ .. just ignore it. Keep yourself safe.

Luckily I didn't see kasabians reply but thank you for your support, I really appreciate it.

I was in such a bad way that I needed some human communication rather than over FaceTime which I've been using for weeks & it's not really helping. I took a turn for the worse & plummeted at the weekend.

Folks can give me all the abuse they like - if I didn't have the support of my friend over the weekend, I wouldn't be here. Suicide would get me long before Corona would. I'm grateful to those who have understood & realised life is not black & white. Trust me, I wish it was.

They are guidelines,not rules. So no rules have been 'breached' as you put it.

Mind your own business OP

No.

No I wouldn’t.

Yes, I absolutely would. I don't care if that makes me a 'snitch' or 'uncool' to some people. I'm bored of the Karens telling me what I should do.

A person going into another person apartment - why would you report that? Maybe one person was going to see the other person to have a much needed chat or to offer some support. You don't know what's going on in people lives at the moment.
Now if next door had a party with 10 plus people drinking, shouting ect - yes I ring the police in that situation.
At the moment I think that everyone is dealing with their own issues, worries and some people have a lot to deal with. It not like anyone can make any plans because it depends on what happens with Clovid 19 and what the government are going to do next.

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Yes, I absolutely would. I don't care if that makes me a 'snitch' or 'uncool' to some people. I'm bored of the Karens telling me what I should do.

Why?
Op has absolutely no idea who the other person is nor why they visit. Its nothing to do with anyone else either.

So you would 'report' someone who has a visitor who could be visiting them due to mental health problems that you dont know about and push them further to the edge? Congratulations you must be so proud of yourself.

'Gatherings' of 2 people are actually allowed btw. Nobody is breaking any 'laws' either.

A lot of people should just keep their bloody curtains shut if so many people are giving them the vapours. Hopefully the police would tell you to stop wasting thier time too.

@Willow2017

"Why"

Because I don't want to be in lockdown any longer than we have to be. If you're happy to abide by these regulations indefinitely then that's great, but most people are done, and wanting for it to be over.

Also who would we 'report' them to? The specialised 101 online - 'please don't bother the police with petty bullshit line?' Yes, they're interested in parties/social gatherings. No, they don't care if 'Bob from work went on a run with Simon from work and they've spent 40hrs together this week already'.

Someone meeting up with a friend for support isnt going to prolong lockdown in any way. If they already work together they are probbly together for more hours a day than going for a run would be. Its a bit like shutting the door after the horse has bolted.
And if you are proud to potentially deprive someone of much needed support and cause them harm then good for you, if you can sleep with that on your conscience your a tougher more heartless person than I am.

@Willow2017 I'll assume that's directed at me. My mental health is abysmal, I'm literally suicidal. But hey, if you get to feel like you're superior, then who cares.

I'm not interested in playing the passive aggressive game like you are, so I genuinely hope that you're ok.

Well you have just proved a point, I dont know your circumstances but you dont know the person Op is talking abouts circumstances either. Still you are ready to be judge and jury and you would still potentially deprive someone who needed support because of your determination to 'report' someone?
Your situation has nothing to do with theirs, people with mental health problems are not all alike and need different things as I am sure you already know.

Just because someone has one kind of health problem doesnt mean that potentially hurting someone else with another health problem is ok.

My dude. You clearly have no idea. Do what you want. That's clearly what people like you feel is ok. I'm very used to being ignored.
Do what you want. You clearly have a great deal of privilege. I'm glad for you, since I wouldn't want anyone else to struggle with this.

@Checkthemeaning glad you didnt see it. There no need to explain yourself, you did the right thing, your here, thats what matters.
Glad you seem in a better place today and your friend was there

OP If you’re that concerned why don’t you put a note through the door with your name address & phone number. Maybe they can explain to you the reasons why they are breaking the rules.

Put £200 on a shelf and say "if I am mistaken I'll give this to charity"

Do you feel safe doing that or did the urge go?

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