My friend isn't talking to me because I wouldn't meet up tonight.

[HarrySnotter]

Friend texted earlier to say that since we've all been 'pretty much' isolating for the past three weeks she was just going to pop over for a cuppa.

I said nope and now she's not talking to me and said I was being a 'sheep and a bit pathetic'.

For context - I'm shielding and DD is also vulnerable. Her DH is a front line key worker so is at work every day and in no way isolating due to the nature of his job. I literally have no idea why she would even consider this to be a good idea. I'm not overly fussed; we're friends mostly because of DC's really, but she clearly thinks I'm being precious about this. I just think she's being ridiculous (at best) and no fucking way am I putting my DD at risk. Or myself.

People are really odd sometimes aren't they?

Blimey - better off without

She’s an idiot.

Tell her she’s a selfish moron

She's a dick

No, someone who was a 'sheep and a bit pathetic' would allow her to bully them into letting her visit. What you are is intelligent, realistic and strong minded.

Your "friend" is a daft, selfish fuckwit. Find a new friend. How dare she be so cavalier. Good on you for protecting your family.

She's actually got her DH to message my DH now to ask what my 'problem' is.

What an idiot. Ask her what it is she doesn’t understand about the restrictions and does she need them explaining slower

Your friend is a twat. Hope your DH came up with a good response!

Her husband surely knows better and knows people should not be meeting.

Try and forget about her

I have absolutely read this exact post before.

Bloody hell , is she a bit thick? If it were me I'd just stay that you would love to see her but you don't want to take any risks . Surely no one sane would think badly of that ??

She's no friend of yours! It's idiots like this that will keep us in isolation for even longer 😤

I would ignore any texts from her/her partner to either of your phones.

She is acting like a kid in the playground - the pathetic fool.

She needs to grow up, lockdown is not a game, I’m missing bingo friends and church friends we’ll see each other after.

Say you’ll make a cup of tea and drink it with her via video call! I’ve just had a cheeky gin, or 3, with my uni friends over zoom and it was great!

She sounds a bit dim.

Sorry OP but she would definitely be an ex-friend by even suggesting such a thing.

Bit of nasty cow when she is not getting her own way, isn't she?

I agree you shouldn't meet up

I can see why she might not think so

Her husband is (you said) front line. So he is mixing every day with people who are either CV+ or showing symptoms and hasn't YET caught it - or at least loads of people. Therefore in her mind social isolation^ is a waste of time because, if it was that bad her partner would have got it.

You cannot educate those that believe their own small experience trumps science

Tell her -and her DH- that the reasons we have over 12 THOUSAND deaths (nearly 13 thou) is because people like her and her husband think it’s okay to meet up.

Does she have MH problems? What she requested is completely illogical and sounds quite odd.

However, round here everyone seemed to initially completely comply with lockdown, and most still are, but a small number are starting to not be quite so rigid. I think lockddown boredom has set in for those who are at home - the novelty has worn off. But her attitude is still a bit strange.

If her husband is a front line key worker, he must be experiencing illness and deaths. I cannot comprehend her thinking at all

Are you in the UK? Because if someone messaged me just before 10pm saying they were popping round for a cuppa they would be told to fuck off

OK sorry, just seen you put messaged you earlier