My friend isn't talking to me because I wouldn't meet up tonight.

[HarrySnotter]

Friend texted earlier to say that since we've all been 'pretty much' isolating for the past three weeks she was just going to pop over for a cuppa.

I said nope and now she's not talking to me and said I was being a 'sheep and a bit pathetic'.

For context - I'm shielding and DD is also vulnerable. Her DH is a front line key worker so is at work every day and in no way isolating due to the nature of his job. I literally have no idea why she would even consider this to be a good idea. I'm not overly fussed; we're friends mostly because of DC's really, but she clearly thinks I'm being precious about this. I just think she's being ridiculous (at best) and no fucking way am I putting my DD at risk. Or myself.

People are really odd sometimes aren't they?

Send her this
www.gov.uk/government/publications/coronavirus-covid-19-information-leaflet/coronavirus-stay-at-home-protect-the-nhs-save-lives-web-version
Then tell her to stop being a pillock.

You could reply saying:
"Yes Im a sheep I'm so Baaaaaaaad"

I'd be more inclined to say "grow up" though.

She's actually got her DH to message my DH now to ask what my 'problem' is.

Ah, so the men folk are expected to sort this out now?

And she calls you a sheep.

I could forgive her her stupidity in thinking a drink tonight would be okay rather than her not speaking to me for objecting to it. That's very childish.

shes a twat and her dh is a bigger one-just because hes in contact with people everyday doesnt mean we can all forget it and visit each other

Oooooh, you must be shitting it now the husbands are involved!!!

She's a right knob, OP!!

I can’t believe she got her dad DH to message your dad DH!
Maybe you should tell her he’s not the boss of you and nor is she and blow a giant raspberry, since she functions at the level of a 7 year old.

Her DH is a front line worker yet agrees with her that this is fine??

What does he do as a job??

You might think I'm a sheep but at least I'm not a massive fuckwit. That is all

She’s not your friend.

Given it jumped from bats to humans and from humans to tigers, I'm not sure why she thinks sheep are immune. Or silly cows, for that matter.

I have absolutely read this exact post before.

Not from me @BabbleBee

DH didnt message hers back, we agreed to ignore. So I've woken this morning to 8, yes 8 shitty messages from her. Apparently I'm a crap friend for not wanting to get together as I know how hard she's finding lockdown.

I'm recovering from cancer, I'm not finding any of the last 12 months a walk in the park but hey ho. My DD is immunocom promised too.

Ex friend can fuck right off to be honest. At the moment I just want ignore her messages but I'll probably get more pissed off as the day goes on and find that more tricky..😂

What does he do as a job??

Worryingly @Appuskidu, he works in a care home, but 'we're all fine you know'.

She sounds like an absolute dick and unfortunately you're seeing her true colours. I'd be tempted to block her number but would reply back once saying you don't appreciate the abusive tone of her messages and if she's struggling you're happy to have a call/ video chat, otherwise the friendship has sadly run its course. If she's rude again - block and move on.

She’s no friend.

Your friend is a cunt. HTH. Hope you’re not too upset by this all. This is the last thing you need.

Do you have many mutual friends.?

I actually don't want to have a video chat with her now. We have already done that a couple of times anyway but I think I'm done with her now to be honest. None of us are finding the current situation easy so she's not unusual in that.

@DaphneFanshaw a couple, I work with one of them.

Wow i would have tl say something i would be fuming how rude! And i would tell her!

She's finding lockdown hard? Boo fucking hoo, she's just like the rest of the world.

What a twat. If she's the type to carry on messaging, blocking her might be the best idea, if just to protect your blood pressure!

Good grief, sometimes things on MN leave me utterly speechless. Such stupidity in the first place, to be followed up by many nasty messages. She clearly IS finding lockdown difficult as it has turned her into a nasty bitch (or has it just revealed what was there all along). And her DH too!! Just vile.......

I can’t believe she got her DH to message yours.
Have any of your mutual friends met up with her ?
I wonder if she’s tried the same with them.
I know some people are ignoring the social distancing guidelines, but in my circle everyone is very serious about it. Everyone I know would be extremely if anyone of us suggested meeting.

@HarrySnotter - must be more than one dickish “friend” around... I’m so sure that someone posted exactly this a week or so ago, right down to the DH contacting her DH.

Personally I’d cut her off. Can’t be bothered with that level of drama or selfishness.

What an idiot. The husband messaging would have really made me pissed off.
What does she find hard? If she had said I’m really struggling blah blah you may have made an effort to call/zoom.
I am an introvert so I’m quite enjoying not having to see people tbh.