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Michael Buble and his wife. Shocking video.

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ceejay54321 · 15/04/2020 11:40

m.youtube.com/watch?v=S3taYAeR3sQ

Having watched some of their other videos, I’m concerned for her.

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NarniaBanarnia · 15/04/2020 20:59

I actually can't watch that elbow video again, I find it too unpleasant to watch a second time and I'm not normally a massively sensitive soul.

I may be overstating it (had a glass of wine) but I think it's horrendous.

Obv you can't judge a couple/anyone's relationship on the basis of a 7 second video (can't bring myself to watch the otehr ones which sound ghastly too)

But I am making an exception in this case.

I think his body language, his facial expressions, the fury and the violence in that elbow - it's disturbing in the extreme.

I have never had an opinion on him before except a vaguely positive one because my DH once stopped at a zebra crossing for him in Marylebone (not knowing who he was until he'd actually crossed) and he said a polite thank you.

MrsNoah2020 · 15/04/2020 21:11

The elbowing just by itself, I could believe was a mistake - he is looking ahead, not at her, and might accidentally have elbowed her hard when he meant to touch her lightly, fooling around.

But look at their reactions. He isn't apologetic - instead, he grabs her. She isn't angry - he is. She looks dismayed for a moment, then trapped, then she masks her expression. It's disturbing.

Jenala · 15/04/2020 21:12

Just showed the 2 videos to my husband without context and then asked his thoughts. He saw it immediately, noting it doesn't mean the guy is necessarily physically abusive (though shoulder jab is hard) but certainly comes across at least emotionally abusive and full of rage.

I don't think you need to have been with someone like this to see it. Maybe PPs who can't are either being contrarian or perhaps don't read expression very well.

Barbararara · 15/04/2020 21:17

Even if, for the sake of argument, this is their sense of humour, it seems to me that if more people called him (and men like him) out on his normalising of misogynistic violence, we would go some way to dismantling the acceptance of toxic masculinity.

If his humour was racist or homophobic he’d get a sharp “not funny” from family, friends and followers but DV jibes are still considered acceptable.

And it is massively undermining and scary for a victim when an abuser jokes or displays dominant behaviour or mild violence or insults in front of other people and it’s not pulled up. It can be a massive factor in altering the victim’s world view and sense of self worth. Everyone saw him do X and nobody reacted so it can’t be that bad

In my lifetime I’ve seen the acceptable boundaries of humour shift to exclude racism, homophobia(Friends) , slut shaming (Frasier), fat shaming, transphobia (Little Britain) and on a behavioral level seen drink driving become completely unacceptable. Public attitudes matter.

So regardless of whether Michael Buble is an abuser or just the height of 21st century humour, his videos perpetuate misogynistic violence. That’s not cool, man.

Bubblewings · 15/04/2020 21:26

Nope, no way is that playful banter - I watched the OP video this morning and don’t want to watch it again, makes me feel really uneasy like he is an impatient, irritable parent. The way she is so passive like a compliant child is unsettling.
Surely a normal response would be to “playfully” slap him on the arm (if it was playful) or say WTF/something to that effect.

IfNotNowThenWhenever · 15/04/2020 21:29

I watched both videos knowing nothing at all about either of them. The first time I watched with the sound on, and thought, hmmmm, not sure.
The second time I watched with the sound off. OMG he is an angry man, and she is constantly placating him!
The elbow thing as well..that could be seen to be "playful" but...
My ex husband might have done this, been physical " in jest". He also broke my ribs and left bruises all over me. If anyone is wondering, I didn't leave immediately because it built up through little aggressions and acts of control. I was VERY "feisty", and I fought back, and I was not a woman who saw herself as a victim. By the time I did leave I was a shell of a person and it took me a year to recover and become my self again. It's not always as simple as it looks.
My current DP might be irritated by me, or take the piss out of me in jest, but would never, ever elbow me, not even in "play".
I know nothing about Michael Buble but he is clearly NOT a nice man.

SharonasCorona · 15/04/2020 21:39

Did anyone watch her video defending him? I understand Spanish and it was strangely intense.

thisenglishlife · 15/04/2020 21:39

mobile.twitter.com/dream181920/status/1249196506449612800/video/1

^ Michael ends his live video, but Luisana's live video is still running (unbeknown to him - so he thinks he is not on camera). He tells her that he is going to kill her twice, it does not sound jokey.

He has spoken of being a violent child and how that could come back. He also has said that he has a temper and can barely control himself.

He seems quite angry at times in his videos, whispers unpleasant things and makes negative comments about his wife. When he remembers that he is live after doing something, he quickly regulates his behaviour. Occasionally, she seems like she is trying to look happy or keep him happy.

The video where she slaps him is clearly created content, scripted or pre-agreed.

HarryHarry · 15/04/2020 21:48

I’ve always liked Michael Bublé but I too think there’s something off about these videos. On the surface he kind of seems like he’s joking but there’s just a fraction of a second when you can see real anger and contempt in his eyes. The aggressive way in which he grabs her for hugs seems controlling, like he thinks she’s his plaything, rather than her own person. I don’t know if that makes him an “abuser”, but certainly a bit of a dick.

On another note, I’m baffled as to why anybody wants to watch these self-centred celebrities making these long boring videos just rambling about utter nonsense (and repeating government advice as if it means more coming from them) in an effort to stay relevant?

SickOfLockdown · 15/04/2020 21:49

I’ve just watched the first video a few times. Can I see him do a double take at the camera? Has he forgotten it’s there?

EachandEveryone · 15/04/2020 22:01

Im jusr not seeing it. I dont know what that says about me 😕

Boredbumhead · 15/04/2020 22:09

Wow the slapping thing does not look great on her either. It seems a bit of a toxic dynamic to be honest.

Sunshine1239 · 15/04/2020 22:15

Honestly you lot are literally crazy

This kind of paranoid shit makes a mockery of real abuse

SharonasCorona · 15/04/2020 22:17

Honestly you lot are literally crazy

Could you BE any more cliched?

Katie2017 · 15/04/2020 22:34

Looks like he tries to cover the initial sharp elbow with another tiny nudge and rough play as in to say they have that kind of play fight relationship when he realised how that elbow came across. Think he takes himself way too seriously. I'm really surprised he admitted to being a violent kind of guy before, how come he had such a "nice guy" image with all that out there?

AbsolomChautney · 15/04/2020 22:37

At best, he is hugely inflexible.

And to be honest, there’s a massive overlap between inflexible and controlling.

fascinated · 15/04/2020 22:38

Hmm, indeed.

MakeItThroughTheDay · 15/04/2020 22:45

I think there's also a giveaway in his language and the delivery - suddenly he realises he's been caught out, he flounders. Even making allowances for him being a non-native Spanish speaker, his "mi muy muy linda amiga, y esposa" is weird, clunky and awkward - he's gibbering: "My very very beautiful friend, and wife,...."

I thought he'd be a smoother operator than this.

DariaMorgendorffer · 15/04/2020 22:50

Those clips sent a chill down my spine. Something hugely wrong there. I'm surprised not everyone agrees. Gosh, he's a angry man isn't he?

FreakStar · 15/04/2020 22:57

So it's unanimous then- Michael Buble' is abusing his wife! All the signs are there!

DarkDarkNight · 15/04/2020 22:59

I didn’t like the first 2 videos as I commented earlier. I don’t think he could hide the anger, the micro expressions. But watching the ‘I’m gonna kill you clip’ that does sound more jokey to me, the second ‘oh I’m gonna kill you’ sounds more lighthearted than threatening.

fascinated · 15/04/2020 23:01

He sound massively stressed. Maybe the whole live thing isn’t really for him. He should maybe just stick to singing!

DixieFlatline · 15/04/2020 23:14

Did anyone watch her video defending him? I understand Spanish and it was strangely intense.

Same, and intense is the word I thought of, too. Really intense need to convey the message and be believed. Seemed an abnormally stressed body language for someone genuinely happy and fine and simply grateful for the concern.

simplekindoflife · 15/04/2020 23:15

Wow, that sent shivers down my spine. He's a very angry man who's struggling to control his temper. He's so forceful and rough with her!

The other video he's says "you're so dead" then adds "to me" at the end.

The "I'm going to kill you" is not said in a jokey way.

Shit... v worrying.

fascinated · 15/04/2020 23:17

Well, if she is still living with him and he is an abuser (which we don’t know) she is at massive risk if he thinks people suspect him of being an abuser .magnifies the usual dynamic even more. What else could you do?