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Michael Buble and his wife. Shocking video.

511 replies

ceejay54321 · 15/04/2020 11:40

m.youtube.com/watch?v=S3taYAeR3sQ

Having watched some of their other videos, I’m concerned for her.

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HDDD · 15/04/2020 15:46

Slightly off topic, but goes to character your honour! I saw him about 10 years ago in small studio thing, he came on all smiles and the audience went wild, particularly the small group standing near the front of the stage. He mimicked one of the people clapping/waving and said 'look at you clapping like a spastic'. I was shocked and he's made me squirm ever since. Nicest guy in pop my arse.

OhioOhioOhio · 15/04/2020 15:50

I so hope it's out of context.

WhatTheFuckSusan · 15/04/2020 15:51

Slimy Christmas Bastard!
Yep

Josette77 · 15/04/2020 15:53

At 9:04 in the video in the "you're dead to me" clip you can clearly see they joke like this. She is not scared of him, or sticking up for herself.

JumboSausage · 15/04/2020 15:54

Slimy Christmas Bastard is genius!

Faez · 15/04/2020 15:56

uk.news.yahoo.com/michael-buble-wife-video-073124374.html

He's constantly putting her down in the video in this article and she's just trying to smile and laugh through it. It's a horrible negative atmosphere, not like they're genuinely joking about

HollyBollyBooBoo · 15/04/2020 15:57

Just the way he elbows her then yanks her into him and puts his arm around her, so possessive, she's like a rag doll.

BeetrootRocks · 15/04/2020 16:02

'You pay your money and take your choice, no?'

Erm no. In general, marrying someone rich does not give them the right to abuse you.

Is the suggestion that it's wrong for poor people but not for rich people? You might want to think that through!

(In general as I don't actually know what's going on with this couple).

Felipa · 15/04/2020 16:02

The second video is far worse to me...he just keeps going on and on about it...he's clearly fuming and you can cut the tension like a knife. Very uncomfortable viewing.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 15/04/2020 16:04

Wow. That is the dual Face ID see in my violent father. He could change in an instant from total charm to malevolence.

I don’t like to see this,

Giraffe50 · 15/04/2020 16:09

I’ve never been in an abusive relationship and fully expected to say people are over reacting but I don’t like that first video (assuming it hasn’t been doctored). I’ve been married 20 years and no way would my DH ever elbow me like that or pull me!

MB is very touchy feely with her, I would hate the arm around the neck thing. She is a stunning woman. Coming down on the side of it’s uncomfortable to watch and I think there is more to this than a jokey relationship. Hope she and the kids are ok.

User0987613 · 15/04/2020 16:15

I always wondered why his previous engagement (Debbie Timuss) and relationship with Emily Blunt ended. Surely it must be a dream come true to marry Michael Buble IF he was the same person you imagine him through his songs. Clearly a lot more going on than it appears.

There’s a good book called The Gift Of Fear by Gavin Beaker. One great point is how drivers can easily tell what other cars will do based on barely perceptible signs yet people wilfully ignore or excuse red flags in human behaviour. If you drive you can already guess that a car wants to change lane based on a tiny drop in speed or shift in direction and 99% of the time it’s correct.

Those uncomfortable moments in this video are the same miniscule signals that drivers pick up, though of course it can be easily dismissed as many posters have done here.

TwilightPeace · 15/04/2020 16:19

The second video made me feel sick to my stomach. The simmering rage. If he can do that on camera, what’s he like when it’s off?
Doesn’t bare thinking about.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 15/04/2020 16:24

@Twilight ... indeed. Good description “simmering rage”.

MeganBacon · 15/04/2020 16:26

I think you can't tell. I also think she can leave him if she wants - they are not poor, she is not without means.

Sarahandco · 15/04/2020 16:29

Don't be ridiculous!

Notredamn · 15/04/2020 16:29

He looks like he's trying really hard to suppress a full-blown rage in the second video. He is incandescent for some reason.

TheLadyAnneNeville · 15/04/2020 16:31

@MeganBacon... if only it were as simple as that. People remain in abusive relationships for many reasons.

User0987613 · 15/04/2020 16:33

I think it’s not just a question of money as she can obviously divorce him for a lot and she is (was?) a successful actress in her own right. She has three very young children with the oldest having had a serious illness. Maybe she feels too guilty to uproot them from a solid home or deprive Noah of his time with his father. Not to mention the media circus that will follow. MB has legions of fans and can easily spin the story into him being a victim.

Eggcited · 15/04/2020 16:33

Eh? Even with the best will in the world to want to believe he's a good bloke you can't fail to notice him elbow her in that first video.

Agreed. It's bloody concerning that people willingly choose to ignore what's right in front of them. Hmm

Bananabixfloof · 15/04/2020 16:35

Is she rich? Or in fact does he have all the money? Yes she will be entitled to some of his money in a divorce, but its months down the line to divorce and as he is very obviously abusive theres no way he will give her money to leave him.
She cannot just up and leave, where would she go?

PickAChew · 15/04/2020 16:37

It's no more a jokey relationship than the whole diatribe about her being late was banter. It's really uncomfortable viewing. If it's jokey, why the hell is it so one sided?

If they really are trying to project a fun, jokey image (which I don't believe for one minute) they need to stop and leave that sort of stuff to the Richardsons (look at the difference in power balance - Jon has built his career on taking the piss out of himself and The Richardsons is still largely taking the piss out of him and the staged bickering doesn't feel threatening because we are aware of this) because Buble's version is not entertaining at all. It just looks sinister.

ChristmasFluff · 15/04/2020 16:42

Yikes, that actually triggered me - the way he puts his arm like that around her neck - the abusive ex used to do that. It's one of those 'Sleeping With The Enemy' moments, where to other people it looks ok, maybe a bit possessive, but you know, just KNOW that he's reminding you that when he's no in public he is going to make you pay for whatever you've done.

Sometimes they just do it with no follow up. But it makes you stop in your tracks anyway. Look at how her eyes change.

Yes, it's only a flash of anger from him - but that flash is all it takes to put an abused person in their place, especially with the 'controlling arm' follow-up.

I'm worried for her too.

ChristmasFluff · 15/04/2020 16:45

And for people wondering why she doesn't leave - maybe she loves him? It's why I didn't.

Victims don't always stay out of fear or lack of money. Lots of us believe we are not victims. As Lesley Morgan Steiner explained to well, we can believe we are a strong woman, in love with a deeply troubled man, and that we can love him back into being the man we first met.

ChristmasFluff · 15/04/2020 16:46

www.ted.com/talks/leslie_morgan_steiner_why_domestic_violence_victims_don_t_leave?language=en

Lots of typos in my post above, but here's the video I was talking about.