You are 30 years old again......

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What are you doing with your life? Are you happy?? (Job, partner, hobbies, house, children, pets etc)

If you could go back in time what would you do differently? Do you feel happy to be 30 years old again?

Light thread... trying to distract myself from the awful news at the moment!

At 30 I’d been married a year and stuck in a miserable boring job. We’d bought a house and got a lovely kitten but we were arguing loads. Turned out to be a stressful year as I left that job on bad terms and took a few months to find something new. I did though and a year later had a new job I loved, pregnant with my first baby, finished my masters. It all fell into place so I wouldn’t change it. Very happy now and generally not one for regrets.

I'm pregnant with my second, my DD is 3.
I'm studying to do GCSE maths (because I failed it at school)
Working nights as a nurse as we have no relatives nearby to child mind and can't afford to pay for any.
Very happily married to a hardworking DH and my free time is spent running a youth club. Life is good!

Well at 30 I’m in lockdown so no, I wouldn’t go back to this!
I’ve got two lovely children at wonderful ages but would quite like another. I am quite unhealthy, although have been taking lots of vitamins recently and I need to stop drinking like it’s Christmas!

Married 3 years
Pregnant
In same job I’m in now

Feels forever ago

No I was struggling quite a bit but everything I was doing then means that at 43 life is great. I had 7 yo and a 2 yo, living apart from DH for work and studying as well. Everyone thought I was mad. Maybe I was 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I’m reaping the benefits now.

Miserable. In a new relationship with a controlling manipulative man but due to the fact that my mother never allowed me to have a feeling of my own, it felt familiar.............. And also miserable. I was having dreams that I was sinking in a submarine. But I just sank for 7 more years.

I wish I could go back, guide myself to psychotherapy, to a life coach, to check back in with myself, tune out my mother, tune out others' expectations of me.

Single, homeowner, enough money to get by with a holiday with family most years.
I would tell myself not to shag the salesman. He fucks it all up.

Collaborative I'm not sure of your age now but I really hope things worked out for you and you are now happy!

Oh😊...pregnant with dc2, just got our house done up, lived in child centric area with lovely friends - it was fab! What I’d do differently? Start training for the career I’m now training for then...couldn’t find a suitable course at the time but the one I’m now doing was in existance!

I was very unhappy at 30. I hadn't realised quite how controlling my partner can be. I was suffering with mental and physical health issues and felt like a useless waste of space. I would only go back if I could go with the benefit of knowing what I know now.

Just had my third baby. In a boring job that pays a lot of money so I decide to stay. Tossing up whether or not to start a uni degree to change careers- decide against it as, again, boring job pays lots of money.

Now nearly 36 and just started uni as I have finally realised that I would rather being doing something valuable with my life. Wish I could get those last 6 years back...

Just about to have DS1.

That business you start, could have really been something. You should have taken it further.

That was the year I shook off the shackles of my first serious relationship, broke up with him and bought myself my own, small one bedroom house.

Oh, the bliss of ones own front door.

Life has got better and better ever since.

At 30 I had been a parent for about a year, I had just had a small promotion and moved into my first flat that wasn’t a share. I then started what turned out to be a fairly unpleasant relationship, but weirdly I wouldn’t go back and stop it happening as I think I almost needed it to teach me a few things, as a result I no longer take any shit from anyway and no one rocks any of my boundaries.

It's 1995 and being 30 is fabulous. I have my health, my family has it's health , lovely house, lovely DH and I've just had an easy delivery of my second baby which after a gruesome first baby delivery has left me feeling like supermum. Returned to a job I love after just 6 weeks maternity leave and I'm buzzing with energy. I have friends and I am slim. Not a lot of money and things are tight hence having to work, but apart from that I've never felt so complete in my whole life.

Stuck in an abusive relationship. Very, very low. Vowed I would do whatever it takes to do the best by my children.

30th Birthday and DS is 5 months old.
I'm loving life and about to become pregnant with my 2nd.

pawpatrol I'm intrigued what happened with mr sales guy?!?! Are you still with him?

And I would have had more babies before it is too late

Decided to get married, just moved into our house and was doing it up.
Loved my job, life was really good.

A few years a go (mid 30s now). Married with four kids. 2 birth kids and 2 adopted kids both with complex medical needs. Two dogs-one lab and a beagle. Had just deregistered as a health care professional to be a SAHP after a very busy decade in my 20s. Haven't looked back since!

My youngest is five. We have just moved out of London to a house on the coast. Loved this time. Dh used to go to work Monday morn and come home Friday night. I saw I could not only manage on my own it was actually preferable.
Beginning of the end of my marriage. Although it limped on for another ten years.

I was delighted. Single, no kids, great job...

I was a year away from marrying my boyfriend of 10 years. It all felt like the logical next step. We got divorced after 4 years and I lost half of my grandparents inheritance. I don’t regret it, but if I could go back and reassess things then rather than after being married I might have met my lovely DP in time to have the family I did t know I wanted.

avalanche sorry to hear that, I hope life worked out for you in time and you are now happy!