I need a hotel or something. I can't take it anymore.

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I need a breather from everything. Right now I would just go and run off to a hotel. I've never done that before.

I'm have 3 kids one of which is a very very difficult toddler. Always crying, whining, really really clingy and constantly wants me to hold her / wanting to sit on my lap.

The older 2 are primary school aged and they keep fighting and bickering all day. All I hear I muuuum! in that nasal whiny tone.

I also work part time 3 days a week but have to do my work either 6am on the morning which gives me around an hour before kids wake up or after 10pm in the evening. Sitting down at my computer for even 20 mins without peace is impossible.

I have a DH who works FT from home. However in all honesty I feel like there's no difference to me if he's there or not. I'm juggling emails, kids, cooking, cleaning, setting activities for the kids. When he clocks off for the day, the kids are still with me. He doesn't do anything with them- I have to do stuff with them all the time.

I'm finding this constant kids with me 24/7 , whining all whilst working, cooking and doing everything else is getting too much.

I've just flipped my top just now as toddler has been screaming for the past ten minutes whilst I was getting the dinner ready. Dh was in the bathroom taking ages like he always does.

Honestly I just want to fucking run away. I can't bare to carry on another day like this. The lockdown has made things worse. I know I need to her rid of dh.

Clearly you don't do everything but he doesn't do the difficult stuff does he ? You shouldn't be taking the kids shopping and it is definitely time to stop doing his washing, putting his pots away, etc.

Why the hell are you taking your DC out shopping whilst your Husband is at home when all of this is going on

Fuck that off for a start is him having alone time and not pulling his weight really more important than the chance of your DC catching this horrible disease.

I know it can be really really fucking hard when your DH is fucking useless,I was in an abusive marriage for 9 years and he would have kicked off but there it still honestly no way I would have taken my 2 then small Dson's out food shopping with all of this going on.

I was going to suggest like a PP did,each day I'd pick a time and go out for your daily exercise alone,do it now whilst we still can!

Sounds a terrible situation. me and DH both currently at home. Dh on furlough and me just working 3 x days per week , on the days I'm not working and we are at home we split the childcare and leisure time., so for example today DH got up with DD , fed her breakfast and changed her , this afternoon I spent 2 hours reading , he then spent 2 hours playing computer , we alternate to allow the other leisure time whilst one of us is playing with and entertaining DD. tonight we all relaxed together , DD is a very active one year old. Just started crawling and getting into everything, it can be exhausting chasing after her so we both need a break , what your describing isnt a partnership / marriage , he sounds lazy and disengaged from your family life

This is the time when you need to work together. One of my staff does 6-12 and his wife 12-6. Why does he get to work uninterrupted?

@Feelingsolost1

Hope you've given up on doing anything for him.

I'm sorry you're stuck with this now. I hope you can get free when this is all over.

This is insane! DH and I both work (him FT, me PT) and we are splitting the home-schooling 50/50, one does 2 hours in the morning, one does 2 hours in the afternoon. The rest of the time there's a nominated parent on duty, working but keeping an ear open, but the (primary aged) DC can watch TV/play for a short while without killing each other or themselves.

Then we share the cooking. I spend hours sourcing the food (we are self-isolating). We take it in turns to go for a walk on our own or with the children.

Your DH should definitely step up. Why on earth does he think this is ok?

I think all the hotels are closed except for key workers but my goodness no wonder you feel like checking in. Rather than your husband starting work at 1pm, as one poster suggested, why don’t you take that slot? Then if he hasn’t finished what he has to do, then he can work again in the evening. It is really not acceptable for him to leave you with everything.

Gently suggesting their 10pm bedtime is too late?

It maybe hard now but if you can train them to go to bed by 8 - or at least in bed talking to each other - you'd have a good few hours to chill and have a glass of something nice before you sleep.

It would make the world of difference... but It aint easy !

Sorry OP. Another one in desperate need of some alone time here. I miss just being in the house by myself. I would hazard a guess if you could get some alone time, you'd get your head together and you'd be better able to cope with work.

Can you imagine you saying to your husband that you help him with childcare and vacuuming?

I don't want to preach though, mine is not really that different. But kids are older, so that helps. I get into strop every so often and insist on me time though. And I usually work during me time, but that's relaxing to me, work and concentration and no interruptions.

What a selfish bastard he is!

I checked that some Premier Inns are still open. There's one down the road from me that is closed right now but another one about three-four miles away is open, it seems to be the same all over the country.

Yes some Travelodge & Premier Inns are open

This is quite funny, Haven, but since looking up hotels that are still open and finding at least one not far from me, I keep fantasising about going and spending a night there :-). I live on my own in my house with a garden and am really quite cosy......but there's something attractive about the idea of staying in a hotel, stretched out on the bed, watching TV.

@Lynda07 Same here! Although I'm a single mum with no daddy to drop her with 😒
I am so so so fed up. I nearly called Social Services yesterday in floods of tears. She's really hard work, she has ASD and I have MS! Not a great combo.

I agree about hotels though, I do love them! I think it's that feeling of escaping into pure comfort and nobody knows where you are.

They do say a change is as good as a rest. No change for me though, any time soon!

Yeah - well we can dream. However, would my nearest Premier Inn still have its restaurant?

No! I just checked, it's closed so I'd have to go out to buy breakast, sandwiches or a takeaway....no point in that, I have plenty of food at home. Still - maybe for one night and it would be nice.