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Who isn't ok at the moment?

67 replies

Thorilicious · 31/03/2020 14:49

I'm doing mostly OK, apart from getting serious fear over the unknown.
I've also completely over reacted to a spilt drink that one of the dcs knocked over...

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Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 31/03/2020 15:38

Same here OP ..mostly ok but wobble abit. I dont usually suffer at all from nerves or anxiety but have found myself feeling shaky and awful on odd occassions these past 2 weeks. My sleepis disrupted and I cant settle to read or watch a film. I am better when occupied so trying to keep busy. I find i am better when my husband is around,he makes me calmer and offers a distraction.I am no good at home on my own and thats so not like me.Last week was awful and I had literally to jump in the car and just go for a drive. I was only out 20 mins didnt get out of the car and came home I just needed to do something normal.This week is going better! I hope you are ok and doing mostly fine...

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 31/03/2020 15:39

mostly fine seems all I can manage at the min..it will do!

hobbyhorsesrunfree · 31/03/2020 16:51

I'm kind of ok, then I go for my walk and become aware of a huge, bulgy ballish feeling inside, that is full of tears and grief, that walking somehow brings to my attention. I live and work alone from home, so indoors i guess I can pretend everything is normal.

Todayissunny · 31/03/2020 16:58

I was also thinking today about how people are coping. Some with a lot of people in small spaces and others very much alone. Others living in danger from the people they live with. The feeling of fear.
I'm on my 3rd week of this. lockdown here isn't quite as strict as the uk. The death rate is slowing down.
I feel much more settled and balanced now. The fear has gone because I feel safe at home. I am sleeping better and can concentrate better on work.
Just taking it one day at a time and trying not to think too far into the future.

TreeTopTim · 31/03/2020 17:18

I am not really coping. I am just going through the motions of the day.

I have started eating far too much unhealthy foods. Over the last year I have worked hard to become healthier and I fear that lockdown will be my undoing.

I feel worse because my DP is at work all day like nothing has changed. I am at home with a young baby who does not like to be put down and a teenager who just wants to spend their days in their room.

LiveFatsDieYoGnu · 31/03/2020 17:29

I'm so-so. I have a 6 week old and fear I'm teetering on the edge of PNA/PND Sad it's really difficult to access support at the moment, fortunately I have a wonderful DH who keeps me grounded.

maudspellbody · 31/03/2020 17:34

I'm really not ok.
I am sick.
My DD is sick.

She only has me. No one can help.

We are fucked.

hairymuffet · 31/03/2020 17:35

Maudspellbody Flowers

Howmanysleepsnow · 31/03/2020 17:37

@maudspellbody is it COVID19 or something else? What do you need?

Dowser · 31/03/2020 17:42

I spend a lot of time indoors so when it’s cold , grey and miserable I can cope with that
But it’ll be tough when the summer comes and we are still locked down as I love being outdoors then
I try to get out every day
I hate not having freedom of movement and that all nice things are cancelled
Yes, grief is a good way of expressing it.
Loss of our previous lives and fear of the unknown really mess with all our heads

Really123456 · 31/03/2020 17:47

Nope, unresolved issue at work before we were all sent home leaving me depressed and full of anxiety. Quite down. I'm guessing because my heads a mess so is my stomach. I've got IBS but I've had a stomach ache since last week, tried to limit what I eat today and just had yoghurt at breakfast, slim fast at lunch (cheeky chocolate bar, small to cheer me up) and probably soup this evening. I though if I stick to liquid it'll help but nope may as well have eaten a massive bowl of pasta bake Sad

@maudspellbody there is an app or website called nextdoor or something where neighbours when up to help those in need. Have you called 101 non urgent police or your local authority or even a local church to see if they can help get you supplies you need? Local churches have big volunteer groups.

ToTheWall · 31/03/2020 17:54

@Todayissunny where are you please?

Flummingbird · 31/03/2020 17:55

I'm a bit less than ok - alone with DD(3) for 10 days now and just can't do it any more so having to send her to her dads tomorrow for a break. I've got short tempered and snappy which isn't fair on her but I can't help it. Hoping a break will reset me back to usual chirpy self. Am terrified of getting it and so not left the house in days, it's a big jump sending her away...

maudspellbody · 31/03/2020 18:03

Thank you all.

Sorry if that was over dramatic. I was having a bad moment.

My DS came home from boarding school after his room mate was taken to hospital with suspected CV.

He fell ill 8 days ago. His Dad took him away today (as past 7 days isolated)

My DD (8) and I started with symptoms at the weekend. She is tried, tearful and sleeping a lot. She has no appetite.

I have been sort of ok until today. I was obviously not well, but not so much that I've stopped working or looking after the house.

And then today... I have just taken a dive.

I've been lying down trying to breathe (it's not that I'm short of breath like I need to call an ambulance - it feels more like a panic attack. Heart racing being the biggest problem)

For the first time, I have had to lie down. I've also vomited, which I think is because I have been feeling very dizzy and nauseous. My back is killing me - right in between my shoulder blades.

I think it has just struck me that if this gets any worse, who is going to look after DD? She has symptoms. She hasn't been ill for a week. No one can come in the house. I have friends around, but no one can actually help, can they? Because we are probably contagious.

So I had a big cry.

I'll be fine. I'm sorry. I'll get a grip.

Really123456 · 31/03/2020 18:11

@maudspellbody you don't need to get a grip!!! Your friends can help by going shopping for you, buying whatever you need whether it's milk and bread to an Easter egg for you and your daughter to cheer you both up. To get you cold and flu symptom relievers to.
It may well be panic and anxiety, try lying on the floor with legs up against the wall.
Friends can help by calling you and just chatting.
I'm sure if absolutely needed they'll volunteer to look after DD in the event of need. What about your DS dad he could look after her?
Xx

Needallthesleep · 31/03/2020 18:16

I’m not OK. Stuck inside with a full time job, a toddler, and morning sickness. I feel grim. Really really struggling.

YeOldeTrout · 31/03/2020 18:21

I don't care about getting ill. Am stoical about that.
I accept people die so I can accept (elderly) people I love may die or suffer (I know that sounds harsh, is just my perspective, but death is just one of those things to accept)

I am afraid of the economic damage. That worries me hugely.
I have money insecurity right now which worries me personally, just my personal neuroses since I do have savings.

Everyone is asking govt for help. Government is us taxpayers. Not good.

Todayissunny · 31/03/2020 18:57

@ToTheWall Switzerland

BlackberryViolet · 31/03/2020 19:15

Not too good at the moment. I was married to a controlling abusive arse for 10 years. He controlled where I went, who with and for how long, what I did, what I spent and on what. This is bringing it all back and I’ve had quite few flashbacks. Not being to take the dog to the park, leave the house when I want, to drive 10 minutes to the beach, I feel like I’ve lost my freedom again. I thought I was over it all but nope. The panic has started again. There’s been a lot of tears this week which I’m trying to hide from the dc. Dh is being great, he really understands but I don’t think anyone else does. One person told me I’m being ridiculous.

Really123456 · 31/03/2020 19:23

@BlackberryViolet you're not being ridiculous at all xxx

amazedmummy · 31/03/2020 19:37

I've been better. I was having CBT for PNA and PND which has now stopped all together. I started ADs just before lock down and I don't know if they're working properly. GP was supposed to call to discuss but they're so busy she didn't. I feel abandoned.

Drivemybluecar · 31/03/2020 19:40

I’m okay at the moment as I am still working as I can’t work from home. But if they clamp down more I can see myself with a lot of time on my hands to do nothing but sit and worry. I am eating my emotions at the moment though.

BlackberryViolet · 31/03/2020 20:03

@Really123456. Thank you. I was starting to doubt myself!

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Thorilicious · 31/03/2020 22:50

Hope everyone is OK. I'm struggling with my anxiety this evening. I'm wondering if I should ask my gp to perhaps increase my anti depressants dosage, but don't want to waste their time.

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EasyTarget · 31/03/2020 22:57

For me it seems to come in waves. But I am living with this constant feeling of dread? maybe. Like for 5 mins I forget and then I remember, and it's oh yeah that's what that crap feeling is. And a feeling sometimes of it just not being real.
I'm just trying to hang on until it's over.