DH put car on the drive with baby on the front seat!!!

[Stillmonday]

I'm shaking with anger.
DH took 15 month old out to the van, I assumed he was putting stuff away and keeping LO entertained while I make a drink.

2 mins later I look outside to find he's putting the van on the drive with LO on the front seat!!!

I'm furious, told him it's illegal but apart from that what if someone was coming round the corner at speed!!

Honestly don't know what goes through his head at times, or what doesn't ☹️

Hmm. I'm big on car seats and safety but was he literally just driving from the road onto the drive? Like a few metres at a couple of miles per hour?

In our street there's barely any traffic anyway so the risk seems very low. If I didn't like it I'd just ask him not to again, but no one was hurt so no need to shake with anger!

Your risk antennae are set wrong. You probably take a bigger risk every time you strap him into a car seat and go for a drive on an A-road than the utterly infinitesimal risk of having a serious accident in the 10 seconds it would take to get between street and drive.

We take 'mininal but not impossible' risks every single second of our lives. You can't bring up a child without doing that. Focus your worry on things that are high risk and do something to reduce them, don't get frantic about infinitesimally tiny probabilities or you'll drive yourself mad. You have many years ahead where you are going to have to get comfortable with the idea of your child being exposed to risks.

Yes definitely a previous first born although I hate that that's looked down on on MN. Shouldn't they be precious ALL born 🤷🏻‍♀️

Precious

Nothing happened your baby is happy and healthy and your hubby is being blamed for nothing really. We have more worries in the world than your 15 month old baby sitting on the front seat and moving in a car doing about 5mph max! I think you need to take a breath and be grateful your all healthy, instead of letting your anxiety blow things out of proportion.

Shouldn't they be precious ALL born

They are. But by the time you've had a few you know when to relax a bit more. Shaking with anger is an overreaction. And my son is an only.

I posted on here for views to see if I'm overreacting and most think I am so that's fair enough.

I'll never understand why some people are so rude though 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh honestly chill out. This drama is why us women get a bad rap for being neurotic and driving men to the pub

Wow you are massively overreacting

And by your own account ‘looked out 2 mins later’ so in that time he had left house, walked to van, started van, moved it into drive and you’ve went nuts at the ‘risk’.
I’m sorry but you sound irrational and ridiculous.

on on MN. Shouldn't they be precious ALL born 🤷🏻‍♀️

Of course all children are precious but your son is more at risk of injury at soft play than he was in this scenario. I bet you
wouldn't shout at your husband for taking him there? You need to evaluate the risks and realise whats worth worrying about otherwise you'll drive yourself mad.

Couldn't bring myself to get worked up over this tbh

I'll never understand why some people are so rude though

To be fair whilst rudeness shouldn't be tolerated, you have also been rude in the way you've spoken about your partner on this thread.

How many times in the past have people come round the corner and hit one of you while getting on/off the drive?

Both my children mean everything to me.

But I was much more cautious with "precious first born". By second child I was more aware of not being able to do everything perfectly, that the books and guidelines contradict each other/change so you have to find your own way and I was more comfortable, my standards were lower (realistic) and I would say we are all happier.

Doesnt mean I love them any differently.

you have also been rude in the way you've spoken about your partner on this thread

In what way?
All op posted was
I'm furious, told him it's illegal but apart from that what if someone was coming round the corner at speed!!
Honestly don't know what goes through his head at times, or what doesn't
How is that rude?

@Stillmonday YANBU. If an adult was in a front seat of a vehicle going really slowly and was hit by another vehicle they would suffer pain, kids need car seats for a reason. Having been hit when stationary, wearing a seatbelt, by a ‘slow’ moving car I suffered weeks of pain & physio. I know kids are more flexible but still, why would any responsible parent put them at risk?

My third born is by far my most confident chilled out child, most likely because I didn't hover over her anxiously like I did my first and to a lesser extent my second. I don't love her any less (obviously ) , but unless you have multiple children you really have no idea how differently you parent once a) you have greater self-confidence having been through it all once twice or three times before and b) force of numbers forces you to focus on the essentials!

Shock you got the PFB comments. All babies are precious fgs.
What he done is totally unacceptable and damn right stupid!
You're not being precious at all. I'd be furious. It doesn't matter if nothing happened it's the what IF something happened because of his carelessness.
People on here acting like they drove around with the baby on the roof and saw no problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t understand what the issue is or why the OP is so angry.

YABU and overreacting. I don’t see the issue here.

I couldn't get worked up about that.

When I was about 5 I would run to the bottom of our road and wait for my dad to come home from work. He would stop the car I would climb on his knee(no seatbelts) and I would drive the car up the road.

Imagine doing that now.

How far did he actually drive??

How is that rude?
It was the implication he had no brain and wasnt sensible. This is his child too, just because he did something the OP wouldn't do doesn't mean he is not a sensible parent with no brain. Presumably he cares about his child safety too and is capable enough to make calculated risks regarding his child.

Presumably he cares about his child safety too and is capable enough to make calculated risks regarding his child.
Not capable of calculating a risk of a child with no car seat. Wouldn't say he cares an awful lot tbh!

DD has always loved sitting in the front seat whilst we move the car from the road to the drive or vice versa. I agree that you’re overreacting but I did the same when PIL took my months old baby for a ‘10 minute walk’ that took them an hour. I sat and sobbed for the whole thing. We’ve all done it at some point.