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Parents kicking off over lockdown

31 replies

KittyLane1 · 26/03/2020 16:52

Please stop me going mad, ready to pull my hair out!

DD was supposed to spend the Easter holidays with her grandparents, everyone looking forward to it etc. But with the lockdown and risk of infection we have decided not to take the risk and I phoned them up to tell them that DD will be staying put over the holidays.
Honestly it couldnt have gone worse. Lots of sighing and passive aggressive remarks. No one is actually in lock down apparently, life is carrying on as normal. I replied saying well exactly why she isnt coming to you, you are still going around as normal and would let her play in the streets etc. This wasnt taken so well.

Please reassure me I did the right thing and please help me know what to say when (inevitably) my DM calls to have a go at me.

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NoMorePoliticsPlease · 26/03/2020 16:55

Just stick to your guns and refer them to the government guidelines. If the grandparents are 70 its even easier.Its for their protection

Justmuddlingalong · 26/03/2020 16:58

You're doing the right thing. They're ignoring the rules of not mixing households. If DM phones to have a go, you tell her that you've made your decision, are sticking to it and you'll speak to her when she can be more reasonable. Don't stress about it, you are keeping your family safe. If more people did that, we'd see light at the end of this very dark tunnel.

FountainGate · 26/03/2020 16:58

Good grief, when will people get it..

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tiredanddangerous · 26/03/2020 17:01

Of course you did the right thing. Your parents are idiots.

LolaSmiles · 26/03/2020 17:03

You did the right thing

There's too many people who think the rules don't apply to them at the moment.

fussychica · 26/03/2020 17:03

You are in the right. I'm an oldie and I can't believe the stupidity of some people whatever their age. It's only since Tuesday that some of my usually lovely and sensible neighbours have started to take it seriously, especially with regard to seeing family. Keep your DD safe.

NiteFlights · 26/03/2020 17:05

Of course you did the right thing. If your DM calls, say ‘I have made my decision, the guidelines apply to everyone, I won’t discuss this any further.’

It’s hard when your DM is a boundary pusher (mine is), but this is a completely black and white situation.

MagentaRocks · 26/03/2020 17:08

You did the right thing. I was due to have family to stay over Easter but have cancelled it. It is disappointing but necessary. Even my 12 year old niece who is devastated that she won't see me is trying to put a brave face on it and understands.

TreeTopTim · 26/03/2020 17:08

What is wrong with some people. The government have said that we are not allowed to mix with anyone outside of our household. Have your parents seen or read any of the news this week.

givemeacall · 26/03/2020 17:09

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Brakebackcyclebot · 26/03/2020 17:15

Seriously? Your parents are being ridiculous. By the easter holidays we will all be in army enforced lockdown BECAUSE of people like them who won't adhere to the guidelines.

Boils my blood.

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KittyLane1 · 26/03/2020 17:17

Thanks everyone

My parents have seen and read everything but they simply dont care. My mum is convinced that she has already had the virus as she had a cold in January Hmm and therefore nothing to worry about.
My parents are relatively young, fit and healthy and see no reason to stay inside.
If DD went up next week it was be BBQs for the whole family and visiting elderly relatives daily.
I'm just dreading the weeks if not months of constant passive aggressive comments and sniping. Confused

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mbosnz · 26/03/2020 17:19

You are absolutely doing the right thing, doing your best to protect your daughter's life. Because they couldn't be trusted to do so.

Lipz · 26/03/2020 17:24

You know you are doing the right thing.

I don't even live in your country and even I get the rules of your lock down.

If your parents are so dense to think that this isn't something to take seriously and want to continue on as normal then you just have to keep saying no to them.

Bluesheep8 · 26/03/2020 17:44

You're doing the right thing op. Of course she can't go, even if she was going to stay in with them the whole time. We all want to see our families, we all feel the same about not being able to. Why oh why do some people think "Oh it means everyone except us" Hmm

PennyArcade · 26/03/2020 17:50

I am missing my grandchildren like mad and it’s only been 2 weeks. I would prefer they stayed isolated with their parents and I stay isolated with their grandpa - we are lucky we can get out for fresh air and exercise each day. We catch up in the evenings via Skype. I’d prefer to not cuddle my grandchildren for however long it takes than to not cuddle them at all, ever. It’s a struggle but we are managing the best we can

sunglasses123 · 26/03/2020 18:03

Some people are as thick and stupid as anything. What bit of this do they not understand. I would keep minimal contact with them. If they start with the passive agressive remarks then keep the contact brief.

supersop60 · 26/03/2020 18:03

no - she can't go. The rules are very clear.

permana · 26/03/2020 18:13

I just would block their number (after explaining why) you don't need this shit from them!
They are being dickheads!

Soubriquet · 26/03/2020 18:15

Some people really don’t give a shit

And a lot of elderly seem to feel that way too.

When I told my Nan I was self isolating, she actually sighed and I just knew she thought I was being a drama queen.

This was because I wouldn’t come round and collect birthday presents for my dc.

iheartislesofwight · 26/03/2020 18:16

people like this would soon wake up if they or relatives developed symptons and had a full on episode of it.
stay strong op let them whinge and whine your dd is far more important than they are.

eeyore228 · 26/03/2020 18:18

We were due to visit parents over Easter. Everyone was sensible to know this would not go ahead as planned. They need to grow up and understand it’s the right decision!

Toomboom · 26/03/2020 18:21

Your parents are idiots [ sorry ]. What part of self isolating do they not understand?? They will have seen the same news and information as the rest of the UK, so which part do they think doesn't apply to them?

Perhaps suggest a virtual meal/ bbq together on the day?

mencken · 26/03/2020 18:30

there is a marvellous feature about the phone - you can hang up on fools.

remember the old 'don't die of ignorance'? This time it should be 'don't die of stupidity...and don't take others with you'.

user1493413286 · 26/03/2020 18:31

Stick to your guns; it’s not allowed. Also imagine how distressing it would be for your DD if they got ill when she was there and it became serious.