Anyone else's inconsiderate, arsehole neighbours gone to another level of arsehole since the lockdown? Come rant here

[LeaveTheBottle]

Hello,

Honestly, I feel like I'm going mad. I know we all do right now, but bloody hell, it really doesn't make the process any easier living next to selfish twats who think it's perfectly acceptable to have their TV on full until 2am, whilst laughing loudly, banging doors, shouting upstairs/downstairs to each other. They have teenage daughters who appear to be coming and going at will too 🙄 so clearly taking the whole lockdown/pandemic thing very seriously.

I can't tell you how close I came last night to banging on the walls to tell them to STFU! But had to keep reminding myself that we could very well be making the situation worse and I don't want to be getting the police involved with everything going on.

They've always been inconsiderate, but now we just don't get a break from them at all!

Anyone else feel my pain? How do you keep together?!

Thanks.

Thank you.

All quiet at the moment.

Always waiting for the next noise.

New neighbours, two weeks in and I've already had to ask them to turn down the music, been woken up by them arguing and tonight took to banging on the wall to get them to turn the music down. They are in the flat next door and I feel for the new neighbours that have just moved into the flat below them! The worst thing is I've not actually met them, I've had to ask the guy in the flat above them to pass the message on the first time - which he did (I heard the conversation). I'm attempting the nice note through the door in the morning and then failing that I'll be emailing the council.

So I suspect I've made it worse, but I just couldn't lie there listening to that, not when we know that for some reason he takes delight in upsetting us!

Yep, people who do this are pretty much bullies and loud music/tv/etc is nothing more than their weapon of choice. Their attitude is, 'nothing you can do about it.'

I'm speaking from experience too. I understand the psychological impact can have lasting effects. I'm hyper vigilant and on a hair trigger for neighbour's noise and have to tell my self to calm down and be rational when it's appropriate i.e not late at night, not a deliberate nuisance just other people's lives etc.

The Neighbour With The New Dogs is stretching my patience..

I went to take my rubbish out earlier tonight; when I got back to the front door, one of their ex girlfriends was on the doorstep drunk and they were ignoring her calls/the doorbell. It took ages to convince her to move away from the door so I could get back in. After five minutes, I had to unplug my doorbell because she wouldn't stop ringing it. It's a change, I suppose - we had one of their friends OD on the doorstep last year.

Same neighbour spent yesterday evening's rant time shouting on the phone about how any and everyone who is complaining about the dogs (and it's not just me) is obviously racist....

I've bought a telly to block him out with background noise, after not having had one for years.

Our flats have a no dogs rule.

Flats on other estates do allow dogs, on the condition that they're kept on leads on the estate, and only in flats that have a separate entrance.

One of the dogs has chewed up a delivery of garden stuff that got left outside for half an hour between it being dropped off and me going to fetch it (at least, I'm assuming none of my neighbours had a chomp at it).

I am not enjoying my living situation..

Our other neighbour said they've had a phone call asking if there have been any problems with them/the dogs; if I get one too, I don't think I'll hold back.

I'd loved living here for the last decade til they moved in; now I'm considering moving.

Lots of venting - apologies.

Basically I think the dogs are my final straw.

That, and they've just started hoovering again for the second time since 11pm. Agh.

In my last house, which was terraced, the house on one side was run down flats and there was a dealer on the first floor adjacent to our bedroom. He was quiet as a mouse most of the time, I’m not sure he always lived there and he definitely didn’t want trouble, but every so often would go on a bender. Deafening trance music through the walls occasionally accompanied by him on fucking bongo drums or something. It would go on until 3 or 4 in the morning. One day I was so incensed I set up my speaker against the party wall at 6.30 am and played the Maria Callas recording of Carmen at top volume until I left for work. He was going apeshit next door.
Another time, in summer, I marched round in my nightie at 7.30 am and hammered on his door like a nutter. Eventually he flung the upstairs window open and started swearing at me and we had an big slanging match in the street . Then my now DH emerged from the house fully dressed and asked WTF was going on, the bloke said “Sorry mate, I didn’t realise she was your Missus.”!? They didn’t know each other, it was just that he was a MAN you see.
A few days later I arrived home from work as a skinny, toothless woman emerged from next door and addressed me as “Oi, you! Fucking checky skirt!” I was wearing tartan skirt. Apparently she’d been there that morning ... Happy days!
So unlike the home life of our own dear Queen.

Inconsiderate people who think now is a good time to do hours of noisy DIY and gardening. I get they want to keep busy but can't they find something that doesn't involve a lot of noise. And the bonfire lighters especially those who are clearly not burning just garden rubbish - really good idea when some people are struggling to breathe.

And those who take their dogs for a walk on long leads in built up areas.

My unbelievably selfish neighbour & her 3 feral brats appear to have become nocturnal since lockdown.
Her 3 bellowing kids (all under 5) charge around the house, banging off the walls like a stampede of wildebeest past midnight, whilst she stands miserably on her doorstep with a face like a slapped a$$ chain smoking...oh dear, no nurseries, relatives or baby-daddies to look after her children that she chose to have??... unlucky.

I'm supposed to be working from home & dealing with staff in different time zones as well as studying for an MSc whilst she does NOTHING to calm her "little darlings" & they're still squealing and charging around the house at midnight.....WTF is that all about?....

Unbelievably selfish, entitled & self-centred behavior.....

I'd thought about offering to do her shopping but the last thing those howler monkey kids need is more sugar & e numbers 🤬😠😭

TF for noise cancelling headphones or I'd have totally lost the plot by now 🤔🤯😵

@LilyR2019 have you asked her if you can help her in any way? I imagine being in quarantine with three under fives must be absolutely knackering.

she stands miserably on her doorstep with a face like a slapped a$$ chain smoking...oh dear, no nurseries, relatives or baby-daddies to look after her children that she chose to have

Having such a sneery, judgmental neighbour probably doesn't help, either.

Yep, really easy for YOU to be so "zen" about it mate, because you don't have to live next door to it?.....or have dirty shitty nappies tossed into your garden on a regular basis.
Funnily enough after several years of sleep deprivation, which has got significantly worse since lockdown, I really don't see why I should pick up the slack for somebody else's life style choices....not my circus, not my monkeys....

Yep, really easy for YOU to be so "zen" about it mate, because you don't have to live next door to it?.....or have dirty shitty nappies tossed into your garden on a regular basis.
Funnily enough after several years of sleep deprivation, which has got significantly worse since lockdown, I really don't see why I should pick up the slack for somebody else's life style choices....not my circus, not my monkeys....

Well said.

@LilyR2019 I second the 'well said' comment. Both my neighbours are disgusting with feral brats. They take zero responsibility for their children nor any other aspect of their lives, ramming drugs down their throat at every opportunity whilst simultaneously showing zero respect for us living in between them. I've been a single parent with very little support....but I worked full time and showed respect for my neighbours and everyone else around us. I don't see why decent people like us should spoon-fed these wastes of space.

It's a difficult one because yes, most of these people will undoubtedly have had a crappy upbringing themselves and I do have sympathy for those people who have never known anything else, but it still doesn't mean we should have to tolerate our lives being turned upside down like this.

every so often my upstairs neighbour goes on a daytime binge and cranks the music up.

i’ve had to go up a couple of times - last week it was twice on the same day. the first time we had a very circular conversation about Johnny Cash for about 10 minutes, with me trying to pierce his cider haze with the information that yes, Johnny Cash is good, it’s just Too Loud.

at 5pm a sudden rise in volume and change of tempo had me back up there with earplugs in hand, trying to explain through the medium of pointing and Being Firm that yes, Bob Marley is also quite good but i’ve got earplugs in and could you please for the love of god turn it down?

pissed people are hard work.

not a peep out of him since. it’ll happen again, and we’ll have the conversation again, and round and round we go. he is generally lovely - he just gets day-drunk sometimes and wants to have a Party for One.

to whoever upthread said that their neighbour’s dealer shows up at 7 every night and then the 90s dance music goes on - you appear to be living next door to my ex. i’m sorry you’ve found yourself in this position. he’s normally straightest between about 9am and 9.20am when the first beer of the day kicks in. so maybe try and have a word in this small window of opportunity.

i do not miss him. not one little bit.

For what it's worth....I had a pretty crappy upbringing too. Mother was a complete narcissist bully who used me as a scapegoat and bullied me until she threw me out at 17. My boyfriend at the time took over her job and the relationship became more emotionally abusive until, after having our son, I plucked up the courage to leave him. There then followed two years of harassment and threats from him and his new girlfriend. Having a crappy upbringing is no excuse for these people to behave the way they do.

Can i have some advice please , anyone welcome
.my kitchen and bathroom both are installed against my neighbours party wall next to there dining room and upstairs bedroom. . Ive noticed over last few months that if im in my kitchen cooking around 6pm i can hear my neighbours TV , its loud enough to be able to know what they are watching and i have to listen to it whist i cook
If i take a bath or shower upstairs i can hear them playing music so i often have their music whilst i bath .I think my bath is next to a bedroom and im aware that my taps and plumbing are noisey as it goes up the party wall, so not to upset them i never use washing machine after 5pm and never bath / shower after 10pm
The local council designed and installed bathroom and kitchen and installed around 2014
since we have been in lock down my neibours are home constantly and i have constantly heard their TV all day for some 5 weeks now.
About 2 weeks ago i noticed that if i wash up , use my microwave , use my washing machine , run a kitchen tap or upstairs bathroom tap , have a bath , flush toilet, hoover , extra hand washing due to covid 19, wipe kitchen surfaces by sink next to the party wall -
my neighbours turn up their TV very loud and drown me out almost to let me know they can hear me and im pissing them off, spoiling their dinning room , all day watching TV.
Ive also had more banging around , slamming doors , they are generally now sounding , to be honest aggressive in there actions you kind of pick up they letting me know they are not happy with my actions !
Im now to worried to use my kitchen or bathroom because if i do-
i get loud TV treatment .
I might do a wash in the machine say lasting1 hour, short wash but i will get loud TV treatment ALL DAY! ,
the other day i washed at 11am , when the cycle stopped they blared their tv and were banging around from 1pm to 9 pm, they really punished me . They have wooden floor board through out the house and boy its noisy !!
My mum rang me and she could hear the Tv obove my talking !

It was not pleasant believe me . I wished id gone to launderette.
I now feel at a lose ,

Can any one please tell me if they have had this problem and advise as to best thing to do please ?
I just want to live my life in peace , thats all i want

Petroo

Our next door neighbour took the garden fence down during week two of lockdown. No warning, it wasn’t damaged either just took it down. 4 kids under 5 and two dogs, enjoying our garden which was no longer secure next to a busy road. He finally put it back last week, same fence panels too. He has form though.

You know what i find so very very sad is , everybody is on here like me with complete idiot neighbours who make life hell
We are the ones , the victims of total disrespect , writing our hearts out whilst the prick neighbours who are total shit heads just Carey on regardless -//////

#petroo

Order some noise cancelling headphones, I have been using these for a couple of years since neighbours on both sides love the sound of their own voices & clearly NEED to be heard!!!....

We're not ALL furloughed & watching box sets back to back!!! I still have a job to do with multiple VCs with colleagues and customers & am studying for MSc....if it weren't for my headphones I would have lost the plot long before now!!!

There a category of person (morons) who just don't realise personal noise is a thing.

My contribution is next door neighbour cutting the hedge underneath my window at 6:15 am. Normally he is helpful, cutting some of mine, but does it have to be this early?

@Petiolaris how awful are you? If you end up in hospital she could be looking after you.
She's probably sick as fuck and it's nice for her to see a friendly little face. Show some empathy and respect