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Anyone else's inconsiderate, arsehole neighbours gone to another level of arsehole since the lockdown? Come rant here

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LeaveTheBottle · 26/03/2020 16:15

Hello,

Honestly, I feel like I'm going mad. I know we all do right now, but bloody hell, it really doesn't make the process any easier living next to selfish twats who think it's perfectly acceptable to have their TV on full until 2am, whilst laughing loudly, banging doors, shouting upstairs/downstairs to each other. They have teenage daughters who appear to be coming and going at will too 🙄 so clearly taking the whole lockdown/pandemic thing very seriously.

I can't tell you how close I came last night to banging on the walls to tell them to STFU! But had to keep reminding myself that we could very well be making the situation worse and I don't want to be getting the police involved with everything going on.

They've always been inconsiderate, but now we just don't get a break from them at all!

Anyone else feel my pain? How do you keep together?!

Thanks.

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AlphaIndigo · 31/03/2020 10:43

@LeaveTheBottle I am not justifying their behaviour at all, just wondering why they might try to intentionally upset you. I think you mentioned that they do shift work. Do you perhaps make noise in the day when they are trying to sleep and not realise?

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 10:54

@AlphaIndigo, I have wondered this myself actually and whereas I can't promise we have never made any noise in the day, we are certainly careful. We wouldn't be shouting up and down the stairs for example and if I play music when I'm washing up or tidying, I deliberately have it on lower than I would normally have it. We're not completely silent, but yes, we're certainly aware that one or both of them might be sleeping in the day. We're just not a noisy family though.

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madcatladyforever · 31/03/2020 11:02

Next door in a really tiny house there are two 18 year old boys a middle aged woman and her husband.
I never hear them come in or go out, I never hear a door slam or one single peep out of the lot of them.
I'm wondering if she has them drugged up, laces their food with sleeping pills or something.
It's really weird.

AlphaIndigo · 31/03/2020 11:33

@LeaveTheBottle They sound awful. We have similarly terrible neighbours.
No solutions from me I'm afraid. I think people like that can't generally be reasoned with sadly.

Richwitch · 31/03/2020 11:35

This morning the son left the house for a couple of hours (searching for drugs I should imagine). Turned back up half an hour ago and there was then a massive fight....sounded like the house was being ripped apart and lots of aggressive shouting from him with 'f*ckin' every other word. Mum has now left the house with the daughter. Thankfully the autistic daughter is at school.

Really don't know what to do about them tbh. There's been a fight everyday for the last week. Maybe it happens everyday but we don't notice as we're usually at work. Reluctant to call the police as they have enough on right now, but I am considering contacting so via services as mum has previously been told to keep him away from the house due to the distress he causes to the children

tiredtrumpet · 31/03/2020 11:57

@Richwitch our neighbours are calmer over the winter as well. There's something about the sun that brings out peoples crazy selfish behaviour.

I hate summer for this reason, which is so sad because I should be making wonderful memories with my dc. Instead their windows are sealed shut in an evening to drown out the noise, they get too hot, we can't enjoy our garden etc.

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 12:12

@Richwitch, I'm really sorry. It's such a nightmare isn't it.

@tiredtrumpet, I can relate to that. Our previous neighbours used to have loads of parties in the summer and DDs room would be boiling, but there was no way she could go to sleep hearing that. They were nice people overall though and on the odd occasion we went round, they stopped straight away. It's more bearable when you think people are just oblivious and maybe a bit selfish, but when someone is being malicious and deliberately making your life difficult, it can send you insane.

I'm debating going over for a calm chat today. Obviously at a distance before anyone panics! I could ask to speak to his wife/gf instead, as she seems much more approachable....

Bad idea? If we weren't potentially going to get stuck here, then I'd leave it.

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tiredtrumpet · 31/03/2020 12:27

@LeaveTheBottle if you have sold your house and you are just waiting for the paperwork to trickle through I would leave it.
They sound like the kind of people that can't be reasoned with. I confronted next door and she kept saying the same sentence over and over, it was so bizarre. I thought for a brief moment maybe she has SEN but no, it was her way of being obtuse.
I'm not sure in your situation I would bother.

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 12:47

@tiredtrumpet, you're probably right. Just so worried everything will fall through, as we have quite a long chain, so we feel like someone is bound to change their minds due to a change in finances or not liking the look of the housing market and the inevitable drop in house prices.

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tiredtrumpet · 31/03/2020 13:01

@LeaveTheBottle I understand the fear, I have it too! My thoughts on this though is that yes, a dip in the housing market is likely whilst the economy recovers BUT after that will rise again, just like it did last time. If people are buying the houses to live in and not just flip, then they likely won't lose money if they stay there 3 or 4 years or so.

I've already seen 3 different people saying they are putting their house on the market when this over, they want to move on etc, the housing market isn't suddenly going to bring to a holt.

Also, our buyers have paid for their survey, it just got cancelled after the lockdown was announced. So I'm hoping that they will continue!

Fingers crossed for you!

Fluffybutter · 31/03/2020 13:08

I had to pop a note through my next door neighbours door as their kids were driving me up the wall .
I know it’s hard and all but it was really starting to affect me .
They jump and run about indoors constantly which means the mirror above our fireplace rattles , they’re always shouting and even though they’re both under 9 they don’t seem to go to bed until after 11pm and that’s not even anything new, This has been going on for months !
I was polite in my note and then I bumped into them and they were apologetic and it’s been much better thankfully as I couldn’t be stuck in with this for the foreseeable.
Now just the other side to tackle , they don’t seem to have any kind of volume control and just shout at each other rather than talk normally. We can hear everything

sqirrelfriends · 31/03/2020 13:10

My neighbours gym is in his garage on the shared drive. He blasts music with the garage door open and runs around the drive in-between using his machines. I almost knocked him out with the side door as he sprinted past (on our connected driveway).

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 14:27

@tiredtrumpet, yes, we had a survey up the chain cancelled (sellers onward I think) and then there's another survey at the top that can't be done because it's a new build which is a couple of weeks off being ready. Everything else is good to go, but I would have definitely been more relaxed if all surveys had been done and the new build was already finished.

Fingers crossed for you too!

@Fluffybutter, I was actually considering doing this, but I suspect we'll get it shoved back through our letter box, possibly in pieces.

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 14:29

@sqirrelfriends, damn! Better luck next time Wink Grin

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tiredtrumpet · 31/03/2020 14:45

@LeaveTheBottle I should add a few years ago (different neighbours, we have had awful luck) we lived in a block of flats and left a note on the communal door asking it to be kept shut, as it closed everyone's insurance if it was left unlocked, and we had that shoved through our door, ripped up and covered in something.

No more note leaving for us Confused

tiredtrumpet · 31/03/2020 14:46

Voided not closed

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 14:54

@tiredtrumpet, ah, well actually I was going to add that to my prediction for our note, but thought it might be a step too far Confused Clearly there are no limits to some people's vile behaviour.

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Richwitch · 31/03/2020 15:11

I dream of a lottery win and buying a remote house in the middle of nowhere....not a neighbour in sight 😂

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 15:19

@Richwitch, I used to think of myself as quite a sociable person, but tbh, your dream is starting to sound very appealing!

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Neacy · 31/03/2020 15:42

My neighbours next door have been a nightmare since moving in 3 years ago.

Constantly shouting, slamming/banging doors, stomping up and down stairs, tv so loud, every weekend since they moved in they have barbecues regardless of weather, there can be up to 20 of them, all shouting over each other with music blaring out, the smell of their cooking is nothing like I have smelt before.

Have knocked once to ask them to be considerate to us and neighbours on the other side, was met with this is how we live, so no, the door was them slammed shut.

We have spoke to their landlord, he has spoken to them, they do not take any notice.

Even on lockdown they are behaving the same.

They went out all day Sat/Sun, I know they went to their other family members to meet up and have a barbecue, because my friend lives 3 doors away, sent me a text to tell me.

They are an absolute disgrace, no consideration for anyone else.

I wish I had magic powers to put them into space just floating around forever.

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 16:10

@Neacy, bloody hell Angry That's absolutely disgusting. It's not ignorance either. You'd have to have 3 brain cells not to understand why it's so important to stay in right now. People like that just don't care.

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Neacy · 31/03/2020 16:28

I know, as much as I try, I cannot get my head around as to why they act like this and seem to think it is acceptable.

Some days I don’t know how I cope with it, but I do.

Dh and I are in our late 50’s and are quiet and respectful, sometimes I wish we wasn’t.

Dh not long had open heart surgery, so have that to cope with that as well.

Feel for others and yourself that have got noisy neighbours.

Timebean · 31/03/2020 16:44

And nearly all of these scumbags have children who are witnessing their behaviour..so the wretch cycle continues... I really hope good, respectful people are in the majority but I'm starting to fear not.

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LeaveTheBottle · 31/03/2020 16:51

@Neacy, wishing your DH a speedy recovery Flowers

@Timebean, yep. As annoying as our neighbours DCs can be, I feel sorry for them and I strongly suspect they are embarrassed by their....well his behaviour.

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Pandoraslastchance · 31/03/2020 17:32

On one side of us there is lawn man. He mows and strims his back lawn for hours every single bloody weekend. We dont have acres of grass, it's a small housing estate garden yet he starts at about 9am and is normally still bloody going at it noon.