Are you WFH with your partner, how's it going? My DP asks inane questions all the time and I might do a murder soon

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Me and DP have been working at home together full time since last Friday.

It's largely great but he has a habit of asking me inane questions and it's driving me bonkers.

Today he was heading to the shop and asked me if he should wear a coat. I think this was prompted by my comment that it looked like nice weather. But I'd just got up, I was in pyjamas, I hadn't been outside. He, on the other hand, had been out for an hour-long dog walk.

A while after he got back from the shop, he was deciding what to eat and asked me whether I knew where the digestives were. This was after he put the shopping away on Tuesday, not me.

Yesterday evening, he was about to call his parents and asked me whether it was his mom's birthday this month. His mom's. Not mine. His.

Since we started WFH together full time, I have really noticed this habit of his and its driving me absolutely insane. It's only been a week

I've now, depending on how pissed off I am, started either just walking away saying 'I don't know' or asking 'Why the fuck do you think I would know that? '

For context, I should say the domestic sphere is absolutely not my space, our domestic work is split 50/50 and I take zero responsibility for any greetings cards-related wife work. I don't think this is man-childing so much as just a really fucking irritating habit as though he's thinking these things out loud but directing them as questions to me. AAAARRRRGGGGHH

How's your WFH going?!

It's the sighing when he gets what he considers to be a stupid email. I need earplugs

I'm a nurse and he's a builder so no

So you don't do any wife work or domestic stuff, and you're getting shouty at DP for talking to you?

Perhaps you need to be the one taking the dog for a walk, you need to chill the fuck out.

@SpoonBlender

Read the OP. Domestic stuff is split 50/50. I don't do any wife work for him because he's a fully grown adult who's perfectly capable to remembering his family's birthdays and buying cards.
I do the afternoon dog walks, DP does the morning ones.

@isabellerossignol My DP started reading his emails out to me yesterday. I shut that shit down right away

So you don't do any wife work or domestic stuff, and you're getting shouty at DP for talking to you?

Sounds more like she's getting frustrated because he seems to be expecting her to do wifework. Which seems reasonable to me.

The getting frustrated seems reasonable I mean!

My dh is in another room so we're doing ok so far...

This will be us from next Monday I've had the house to myself this week and I've been really productive. Next week the dc and dh will be joining me and I can see productivity taking a nose dive

Haha my DH has been talking on and off about Mother’s Day and how will his mum cope without visits etc etc... eventually last night I asked him if he had any actual plan to send her a card and he said Oh! Yes! Good idea!

Well done DH

I work upstairs he works downstairs - 10 yrs experience. If I am there he talks the hind legs off a donkey, he faces into the kitchen so lunch times and cups of Tea are quick which are an added bones to be honest

We're in SI and I've discovered that he has to verbalise every thought in his head.

Also if a sentence starts with "this is interesting" or "this is funny" it generally isn't!

DH has been WFH when not travelling for a decade so we have had some adjustments to be made. One that has help me keep sane is to assume that those questions 'where did I put the biscuits, do I need a coat' are rhetorical ones, so that I just don't answer.

He never seems to notice whether I answer or not, so I put it down to 'narrating his life' Which is still annoying but not quite as smiting as actually expecting me to answer

I think they’ve been brought up on sports commentators - Ahhhhhh

I've been having to share the study since last week, whilst it's nice having some company, it's making it harder to mentally shift from being at home to being 'at work' and vice versa. Especially with not going out unless necessary.

I don't think he understands how a microphone works... I am a hallway and two closed doors away and he's too loud, goodness knows what it's like if you're actually on the conference call with him. Like speaking to Brian Blessed I presume.

These are brilliant. Thoughts and prayers to you all.

Today me and DP have been separated because he's got back-to-back Teams meetings. I'm in the dining room, he's in the home office which is in the garden. We had lunch together. He cooked some horrendous Chinese noodle thing. We washed up, we cleaned the kitchen, we opened a window but still the smell is clinging to everything.

Day 1 and my DH driving me crazy. I told him not to put the half eaten/ broken breadsticks in the bin and to wrap them up for later as we had no more. He said “oh just book a home delivery from Tesco”. FFS THERE ARE NO SLOTS!!!!

Marriage; For better, for worse, but not for lunch.

We decided to swap rooms today, him in the kitchen, me in the dining room. I did not think that through. He never eats. Me and DD eat frequently but he’s on permanent conference call. Ho hum. Change back tomorrow.

Divorce lawyers will be taking it in at the end of this!
Possibly adoption too 🤣🤣

@BruceAndNosh Exactly. The marriage vows talk nothing about being stuck at home full time together during a global pandemic with DP's weird food tastes.

Mine had an absolute brainwave this morning.
"If either of us get this CV thing, it might be a good idea to have some paracetamol in the house, just in case. I'll pop into the village and get some this morning"

Ha. I reply. Good luck with that. Haven't you watched the news?

I didn't mention that I ALWAYS have paracetamol in the house, and buy a new box when old one gets used.

I was expecting him to return hours later empty handed.
Instead he bought a box from Tesco without problem.
Bastard.

Well he’s had to eat his words about my Brexit stash. So that was nice.

Mine is unemployed due to coronavirus, has gone all needy, and keeps popping into where I am working for no bloody reason, it is really pissing me off. What he could be doing is listing lots of things we have put aside to ebay. Fucksake.