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Are you WFH with your partner, how's it going? My DP asks inane questions all the time and I might do a murder soon

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SickOFant · 19/03/2020 12:01

Me and DP have been working at home together full time since last Friday.

It's largely great but he has a habit of asking me inane questions and it's driving me bonkers.

Today he was heading to the shop and asked me if he should wear a coat. I think this was prompted by my comment that it looked like nice weather. But I'd just got up, I was in pyjamas, I hadn't been outside. He, on the other hand, had been out for an hour-long dog walk.

A while after he got back from the shop, he was deciding what to eat and asked me whether I knew where the digestives were. This was after he put the shopping away on Tuesday, not me.

Yesterday evening, he was about to call his parents and asked me whether it was his mom's birthday this month. His mom's. Not mine. His.

Since we started WFH together full time, I have really noticed this habit of his and its driving me absolutely insane. It's only been a week Grin

I've now, depending on how pissed off I am, started either just walking away saying 'I don't know' or asking 'Why the fuck do you think I would know that? '

For context, I should say the domestic sphere is absolutely not my space, our domestic work is split 50/50 and I take zero responsibility for any greetings cards-related wife work. I don't think this is man-childing so much as just a really fucking irritating habit as though he's thinking these things out loud but directing them as questions to me. AAAARRRRGGGGHH

How's your WFH going?!

OP posts:
OurChristmasMiracle · 19/03/2020 15:05

I’m concerned if we have to isolate that I’m going to murder my partner for either leaving crumbs in the butter or putting the toilet roll on the wrong way!!! 🤣I feel I should be at least permitted to lock him in the cupboard for said crimes.

JudgeRindersMinder · 19/03/2020 15:06

Mine is working from home, I’m not but I’m in my regular days off. Let’s just say that 2.5 days of him in MY kitchen is my limit-he’s being relocated to another room for tomorrow

Pluckedpencil · 19/03/2020 15:08

I am hiding in the bedroom because he is always on the phone and has no volume control. I am also hiding from the kids

Moongirl10 · 19/03/2020 15:09

I’ve noticed that my DH reads his emails out loud as he types them. I have to go upstairs to get away from it.

Lordfrontpaw · 19/03/2020 15:10

I am hunkered down on the bedroom. DH is on the phone having conference calls all day (he is very loud) and when he types it sounds as if he is beating the keyboard with mallets. Plus he likes the room too hot and doesn’t like then lights on (I am sitting in the cool bedroom with window open and all the lights on!)

I suspect divorce rates will increase...

RachelTension · 19/03/2020 16:02

He has such a loud VOICE! My goodness, it's very offputting, he has to use another rom for his calls.

Ohidontknow99 · 19/03/2020 16:03

We both wfh a lot anyway but we usually have a few days apart either him being at office or me we actually usually plan it so we wfh together not as often but now we are both home everyday. We literally sit in separate rooms until it’s time to eat ha

Lordfrontpaw · 19/03/2020 16:10

Is actually considering walking to my office. There’s no one there and at least it will be quiet and the WiFi won’t be crap.

Notgiungoutmuch · 19/03/2020 16:35

I’m a carer for a family member full time therefore I’m essentially in isolation 320 days of the year.

Today It’s somewhat been like any other day apart from my partner tidied and washed up in the kitchen. After filling my mop bucket he said that I don’t need to be cleaning 24/7 and should chill out just because of the virus. I always mop the floors (ave.) twice a week and do the laundry. He thinks we can just watch Netflix all day

tinselvestsparklepants · 19/03/2020 16:46

I read this on Twitter: you need to invent a new "work colleague" and blame everything annoying on them. We are blaming the silly questions and untidy cups on 'Trevor.' It's helping!

MinnieMountain · 19/03/2020 16:54

DH was already WFH 3 days a week, so he has the upstairs office. I've been trying to do 3 hours a day on the kitchen table whilst looking after DS who is at home with a cough.

He KEEPS talking to me when he comes down for coffee/crumpets. Despite being told that I have to concentrate in the few hours I have.

tiredanddangerous · 19/03/2020 17:02

It’s not going well op, to be honest. DH spends most of his time having meetings on the phone. Which he has on speaker phone. He also seems unable to take part in said calls unless he’s pacing around the house like a caged animal.

I think I’m going to have to knee cap him, shove him in the office, and lock the door.

sofiathe2nd · 19/03/2020 17:05

Going to kill him.

Constant Teams meetings at full volume for no reason apart from to check everyone is online, muttering to himself loudly, calls to god knows who and eating, just constantly... can’t wait to add the child into the mix next week too

divafever99 · 19/03/2020 17:08

People keep saying midwives are going to be busy later in the year, but I think divorce lawyers will be too! Both dh and I are healthcare professionals, but don't think we would do well working from home for a several months! A weekend full of similar questions is enough for me!

AnneOfCloves · 19/03/2020 17:10

tinsel we’re doing that too!

Eustace leaves the kitchen a mess and doesn’t put the shopping away. Eustace also ate all the biscuits. Eustace is a twat.

Wearywithteens · 19/03/2020 17:33

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TreacherousPissFlap · 19/03/2020 17:53

I saw a post on Facebook that recommends inventing a mythical CO alarm fitted-worker. I think this one was Cheryl and she is being blamed for leaving the cups in the sink and so on Grin

TreacherousPissFlap · 19/03/2020 17:54

co worker obviously damn DH's shortcuts Grin

Purpleartichoke · 19/03/2020 17:57

DH and I both worked from home for years. He only went back to an office recently. His coming home to work again is just back to our normal.

We have separate offices and rules about interruptions that were developed over several years.

TerrorWig · 19/03/2020 18:10

My DH loves to come and put the noisy coffee machine on the second I open up a conference call.

I’m set up in the bedroom now so should be better Grin

Shinyletsbebadguys · 19/03/2020 18:10

See I was a bit smug I admit (don't worry I am firmly earing my words) DP and I have worked together from home in a variety of different incarnations all our relationship. We have run a business together and still run a consultancy together as well as our normal jobs. Three desks (one in a study that can be shut off) and I thought we were made.

Until I realised what we have never done is work at home together at the same time with two DC when all four of us became unwell (but needed to keep going financially so continued to work from home ...we ar fortunately in roles that can do this) and the dog was under everyones feet.

Its day 5 now of isolation , nothing in or out. Work has had to continue through fevers and coughing etc , DC care has been the priority.

And if he doesn't fucking stop talking to me whilst on a conference call (me on the call) about essential topics such as did I know the shops were apparently running out of bread (yes dear everyone in the damn universe knows this) then I shall murder him and blame the dog (who is also being a twat and trying to see all the peoples on the computer screen - cute when it's my colleagues, not when it is my boss)

He also cannot have a phone call without pacing up and down then telling me every single moment of it (yes I know you twat you just insisted on having it in the study whilst I was trying to set up a video conference ).

Ergh....I was so so smug . ...I deserve every second

But not the dog

The dog is still being a twat

MuseumOfYou · 19/03/2020 19:17

Like speaking to Brian Blessed I presume

This made me laugh out loud. Why are they all so noisy? Even opening and closing cupboard doors.

Luckily, I work from home anyway so am all set up. He's a hospital manager so keeping very busy in a building a few miles away.

Ohffs66 · 19/03/2020 19:33

We are doing fairly well so far. DH WFH full time, and me part of the time anyway so we both have our own offices. He is quite noisy but I've learned to tune it out. We pretty much ignore each other all day other than offering cups of tea and calling each other in to look at cute puppies on Insta.

FredaFrogspawn · 19/03/2020 19:42

Day one working at home for us both

DH: (working in sitting room)
Me: I’m going to clear the laundry out of the dining room and set up my workspace
DH: Good idea. I’ll come and join you - room for both laptops
ME: (deadpan) I would kill you.
DH: (looking wary) Um really? Perhaps I’ll stay in here.

End of story

BursarsDriedFrogPills · 19/03/2020 19:43

In fairness mine has been a star as I'm ill and he's been wrangling the small DC while trying to work whilst they watch a film etc.

However. He does insist on wanting to make a proper lunch. I do not like to do this when I'm working. I like to eat when I'm hungry and then get back to it. I do not wish to chat. Obviously atm, being ill, I'm neither working nor eating much. But next week I can forsee tension developing if he insists on creating a 47 pan feast each lunchtime which then needs tidying up for dinner can be made. I do not think I am being unreasonable. So there.