Hmmmm bit rude.....

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So every morning at work we are emailed our fire safety and first aider on site, this includes which fire marshal is responsible for which floor when clearing the building. I am always the marshal my floor. We have a new receptionist(been here about a month) she always spells my name wrong. Twice I've told her without an E on the end, it even has the correct spelling on my email address.

So today's email comes and the E is back! I emailed back

Hi XXX

Can you please change my name to show without the E, I know it's only a small detail but as you can imagine I've had years of saying XXX without the E.

In her lengthy reply where she basically said she was busy atm but ...… I will change this insignificant detail later.....

I know it's a little thing and given the current crisis going on it is insignificant but I don't have an unusual name just one you can have with or without the E

So what is important to you but to others it's insignificant?

Yes it would annoy me too. And ifs big insignificant, it's your name.

Blimey.

I meant 'it's not insignificant'.

She's a dick. Pull her up. Every time.

Does she have a name you can similarly bastardise?

(In seriousness, I get it. It's just rude. Mistakes happen, but to then be little you for politely pointing out the error is bad form.)

I have a usual name with an unusual spelling. I don't mind it being spelt wrong most of the time, but I do grit my teeth slightly when the editors spell it wrong. NOTICING SMALL DIFFERENCES IS THEIR JOB!

And breathe

'Attention to detail is an attribute you will find it very difficult to progress in life without, perhaps you ought to work on this - and your manners'.

“Bastardise”. A bit dramatic isn’t it. .

I have a regular name that you can spell with or without an E. Mine is without, and I hate it when people add the E because my email address clearly shows it without. If they do it more than twice then I start adding an E to the end of their name so that they can appreciate how annoying it is .

Yes, it's rude - probably passive-aggressive dominance asserting. Don't let her see it annoys you, do call her out on it.

It's annoying and rude. Start spelling her name wrong.

Please tell me you're not referring to bloody Coronavirus as the "current crisis". It has nothing to do with her typing Anne instead of Ann.

How does this virus get dragged into even the most mundane conversations?

I have a name that is traditionally a man's name there is a male and female spelling and 99% of the time people spell it the male way even if I have filled in a form or they have it in front of them.
I've got used to it and I don't mind really so mostly ignore it.

You do mind though and have told her enough times so YANBU and she was pretty rude!

I love mbosnz response

I had to do this with my forename and maiden name!
It isn't insignificant if it means people can't email you because with an e wouldn't be deliverable!

“Bastardise”. A bit dramatic isn’t it.

Don't know what you mean!
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Surely it took her longer to type a lengthy reply than it would have taken to just change it?!

'Attention to detail is an attribute you will find it very difficult to progress in life without, perhaps you ought to work on this - and your manners'.

^^this. My neighbours absolutely refuse to say or spell my name correctly (for the purpose of this post, we'll say my name is Emily but they call me Emma). It's a completely different name! I've corrected them quite a few times, they're on my Facebook and other social media which all has my name correctly spelled, Christmas and birthday cards are written with my correct name but they put the wrong name in return. DH and my kids all use my name clearly (more so than needed) to them and still they refuse to use my real name. It's so fucking RUDE! You're lucky OP you can address this nice and early. If she insists on using your incorrect name, give her a new name too. It'll bug the hell out of her.

I don't just get misspellings, I get the entirely wrong name sometimes! Its irritating but unless its in a professional setting, like in the OPs case, I just ignore. Your colleague's an ignorant, lazy git, OP.

I get this all the time, my name is Nicola but I constantly get Nicole from one member of staff, it's a completely different name. When I pulled him up on it, he told me he preferred Nicole

My neighbours absolutely refuse to say or spell my name correctly

I have a perfectly normal surname.
I have been asked "are you sure?" in the past.

"oh now you come to mention it I HAVE got my own name wrong!"

Are you completely faultless op?

I don’t understand why this is such a big deal?

If someone spelt my name beginning with a T and ending with another T wirh A and W mixed in, I might be offended.

With or without the E, I’m not fussed. I have the same issue, it’s still my name either way.

I'd be tempted to respond querying why she doesn't have time to change one letter yet does have time to send you a long email.

Are you completely faultless op?

Irrelevant. She's made a perfectly reasonable request, she doesn't have to examine her personal history and her conscience for evidence of fault before doing so.

Having been a receptionist, a big part of the job is attention to details like getting people's names right. I'd have been mortified and apologising profusely, not doubling down on it, particularly having been previously alerted to having made the same error, and then doing it again.

It is rude OP, it's not that hard to listen to a person when they are telling you their preferences and to be polite about at least attempting to remember.

I would start adding an E to the end of her name and see how she likes it.