Hmmmm bit rude.....

[Whycantistaymotivated]

So every morning at work we are emailed our fire safety and first aider on site, this includes which fire marshal is responsible for which floor when clearing the building. I am always the marshal my floor. We have a new receptionist(been here about a month) she always spells my name wrong. Twice I've told her without an E on the end, it even has the correct spelling on my email address.

So today's email comes and the E is back! I emailed back

Hi XXX

Can you please change my name to show without the E, I know it's only a small detail but as you can imagine I've had years of saying XXX without the E.

In her lengthy reply where she basically said she was busy atm but ...… I will change this insignificant detail later.....

I know it's a little thing and given the current crisis going on it is insignificant but I don't have an unusual name just one you can have with or without the E

So what is important to you but to others it's insignificant?

As in Clair, and she writes Claire. That would annoy me as I see them as 2 different names, and if there is a Claire who works there is a way of differentiating. Pull her up every time

Set up a QuickPart in Outlook so that everytime she does it just press click and the same email goes to her. She’ll get the idea.

I get my name spelled in the body of an email without the e and with superfluous quantities of the letter e at the end.

Imagine my name is Anne (it isn't) but some emails arrive into my mailbox with "Hi Ann" on it.
Others arrive in with "Hi Anne" and then some chancers must have a sticky key and I'll get "Hi Anneeeeee" in the body of the message. All the while, the email address has the correct spelling of my name "[email protected]" in it

I don't get it! Read the email address and copy the first name part of it into the body of the message (if you're stuck/concerned you'll get it wrong)

Jelly Our receptionist actually has an unusual name herself, I always pronounce it correctly (I know a few who don't)

She is quite a strong character so maybe I'll have to just keep reply without an E every time until it sinks in.

I understand how you feel OP! My ex Mother in Law was called Carole. Her best friend was Carol. They both got very upset when anyone either added or removed the 'e' on their name.

It doesn't matter whether its one letter or a mis-spelling of the whole name, once you have pointed it out, its downright rude not to bother spelling it correctly in future.

Email her back and call her Dave.

@mbosnz

Perfection👍

I get the shortened version of my name a lot from people I don't know when no one calls me this. eg Elizabeth to Liz and when I say that no one calls me that, it's implied I'm being stuffy.
Also, if you're a fire marshall, surely there may be occasion when people need to e mail you so finding your name on the system is important

@Whycantistaymotivated repeating yourself isn't going to fix it. She's going out of her way to be obtuse. You need to out obtuse her. Start mispronouncing and misspelling her name every chance you get.

Well she sure as hell needs to get a sense of perspective if coronavirus means she is incapable of engaging her brain to spell your name correctly when she has been told about this before. Speak to her manager if she's continuing with this crap.

I have this all the time. I have worked 15 years in the same place and my boss is the same person. It makes me irrationally angry.

It's not a small detail, it's not insignificant, it's your name, a large part of your identity. Some people shorten my name, they're allowed once as an error, every time thereafter they're pulled up on it, not many do it more than once. Repeat offenders are ignored, walked away from, emails would be returned etc. Only by refusing communication will you stop this.
Good luck.

In an emergency situation there needs to be accurate identification of staff, especially in the likes of a fire. She may see it as minor but if it goes wrong it's her head on the block. I'm in the NHS and serious mistakes can be made through these "minor" issues .

Yanbu

I have a surname that people often misspell. I like it to be spelt that way it’s spelt. I also take pains to spell other people’s names right. If i get it wrong and they correct me, i spell it correctly.

It’s not difficult stuff!

*the way it’s spelt

She sounds a knob. What’s wrong with “ Sorry I got it wrong, I’ll correct it”

How ignorant of her. Print it off and ask you manager to deal with it .

I would add an E to her name. “Hi Bethe/Janee”. That will make it sink in quicker. People make mistakes but when corrected should learn from them.

Why do people always advise printing emails/threads off? Just forward it to the manager or reply and cc them 🤷🏻‍♀️ Save the trees

Sign off every reply to her with:

Kind regards
Ann(without-an-e)

I can empathise with you OP as I've had this for years. I think it is just a show of passive aggression,basically saying 'You are not important enough for me to get your name right'.
My surname is an uncommon one,but there is a version of it with an 's' on the end,which is pretty common. E.g. Imagine the surname 'Hill' being uncommon,and the name 'Hills' being common. I've frequently had people add by an 's' to the end of it,but most people get it right eventually. Except for a teacher at my Dd's secondary school. She was the head of year,so I had a few dealings with her when Dd was in year 8. Every single time she addressed me,she would add 's' to my name,no matter how many times I corrected her,and every single letter from her always added an 's'. Eventually,I decided to play her at her own game and added an 's' to her surname when I addressed her. The first time I did this,OMG her face was a picture. She corrected me immediately,so I did likewise. She didn't do it again.

I have a Welsh name where by changing one letter it makes it an English name (and changes the meaning of the name).
2 people (ex fuckwit husbands family) came to my fecking wedding and managed to spell it the English way on the cards.
Grin and bear, grin and bear....

I've been married to DH for 10 years and my brother STILL spells his 7 letter surname wrong - every time

I have a C/K name and it gets the wrong spelling a lot. Don't think it's ever annoyed me. And I wouldn't have the longest fuse. Someone rudely corrected me before with "my name is x" (spelled with one n instead of two) and being honest I even didn't reply.

So she's been there for twenty days and has got somebody's name wrong - a bit - she could have spent twenty years typing/writing it in the other way. Depending upon the size of your company, she might not even have a clue who you are or which one of five people who spells the same name slightly differently you are.

And if your name is Tracy, somebody calling you Tracey in the main body of an email is the least of your worries...