My husband is in hospital facing a liver cirrhosis diagnosis. Im alone and terrified.

[Loopylou6]

Has anyone been through this? So terrified of my phone ringing to say he's died

My late partner's kidneys failed a week before he passed away, he went in hospital & they expected him to only last 48 hours, he had a massive seizure 5 days later & spent 36 hours on a ventilator, he came round & they were talking about him coming home in a couple of weeks after a full detox & that he could get better, the next day his lungs started filling with blood & he died a frankly horrific death. If his story could save one life it would make the loss more bearable 5 years on.

My uncle died from it

If he comes through this, he won't ever touch alcohol again in his life

Was the kidney failure a sudden thing from being fine to failing nat?

My partner had so much to live for, he was a professional sportsman, we had 3 lovely children between us, I would have given him the world if I could, we were due to get married 10 weeks after he passed away, but it wasn't enough, the drink meant more to him. Look after yourself as well & don't feel guilty if you have to walk away, don't let his drinking ruin your life, as much as you love him he may love drink more, it is like having a third person in a relationship.

Thank you purple

The last weekend he was at home, he hardly drank, he kept on throwing up & hardly went to the toilet, he thought he was dehydrated, he wasn't, his kidneys had failed.

Yeah mine wad throwing up, this is his second night in and they say his kidneys are fine. Let's hope it stays that way

You can't stop him drinking, that is something he has to do himself, remember, none of this is your fault, alcoholics are very selfish people, they don't care who they hurt, they only care about drink.

Well done for reaching out OP, you've had some amazing support and advice, I can't add anything only to sympathise with your horribly worrying situation right now and to send hope and strength your way.

Some never make it to having real help like this, lets hope its a turning point, the turning point for you both, his choice now of course, nothing you can do. Lets hope he chooses life.

Thinking of you and reaching out

Hello, Lois here from the British Liver Trust. I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. I just thought I'd let you know that the British Liver Trust has a free helpline (via phone and email) for support and information about liver disease. It's open Mon-Fri 10am -3pm at 0800 652 7330 or email [email protected]. I hope that helps.

Thank you everyone

I am so sorry.
As well as looking after him make sure you look after yourself.
Plan one good thing a day for you - even if it is just a cup of coffee in a nice cafe or a hot bath and a candle. 💐

Thinking of you and hoping it all works out for the best OP.

I'm sorry op the only experience I have of this is my auntie. She died aged 38 from it. There was no sudden decline as such, she just passed away in her sleep from it

I hope all goes well for your dh and he gets the help he needs. Take care of yourself op

Sorry forgot to say my aunt was an alcoholic

I saw the British Liver Trust posted below and I just wanted to say that they are brilliant. I had a (never diagnosed) liver issue last year that landed me in hospital and they were very helpful. The forum is very supportive too in my experience, and has a lot of posters who are relatives of cirrhosis sufferers so you may find some good support there.

To counterpoint and be the voice of hope; my uncle was diagnosed with this as a result of quite extreme alcohol abuse. They said he had about two years left to him. That was ten years ago and he's going strong. He stopped drinking and seems pretty healthy to me now.

I hope your husband is doing better today OP.

Kids dad died from it aged 49 took two years though

Did he only go in yesterday? What prompted the hospital admission? Did they put him on librium immediately to stop seizures? I'm sorry you're going through this.

Try not to panic but focus on practical things like his treatment, is his phosphate improving etc.

Some horrible stories on here, @Nat6999 it's easy to see you're reliving it when you start to talk about it.

to all

How is he today?

Oh Loopy, I'm so sorry. I'm pretty sure I've replied to threads you've posted about your DH before, and this is awful to hear.

Please do visit the British Liver Trust forum, it's very busy and there's always someone on there to talk, offer advice or just support you.

Hey everyone, thanks for checking in.
Just back from the hospital, his scan showed fatty liver. No mention of cirrhosis :) his heart is beating too quick so he's had an ultrasound on that. His bloods are still everywhere, so they're looking to stabilize them, he's asking for food now, which is great, considering he's starved himself for ages. He's still extremely weak and quite dazed.

I think fatty liver can be reversed can't it? With no drink, that is! Don't trust me on that, I'll have to look it up.

Yes it's good news on his eating. Hope you have a relaxing evening :)