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At what age would you leave 2 children at home for a full day rather than use holiday childcare?

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Theromanempire · 19/02/2020 07:56

As the title says...2 siblings, what age would you feel happy leaving them together for a full working day?

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Spied · 19/02/2020 16:51

Im thinking youngest 15
But my two do fight and there is only a year between them so tbh while they are under 18 I'm not sure I'd leave them together at all

caperplips · 19/02/2020 16:52

8 is definitely FAR too young imo and there is absolutely no way I would consider that as an option. 11 is even too young for me

IpanemaGallina · 19/02/2020 16:54

12-13. I have a 12 year old I would leave because she’s very sensible. In yr8 at school.

Cora1942 · 19/02/2020 17:08

Youngest 11 at least. As long as not too long a time , they dont argue, can contact an adult in an emergency, neighbour etc.

Iwannatellyouastory · 19/02/2020 17:14

To get over the difficult first year of too old for holiday camp too young to be left all day every day in holidays. I was fortunate to be able to take some of my annual leave as half days rather than full days, as was my DH. So leave them in bed in the morning, they have lie in then leisurely breakfast then one of us was home 1/1.30 worked really well for us. Also we were lucky that my retired parents lived 10 mins walk away, so they didn’t “babysit them” but they were near by if needed.
So a week might look like
Monday I would be home at lunchtime
Tuesday I would pay for them to have a trip to cinema / MCDonalds or similar.
Wednesday they would spend the day at friends / grandparents
Thursday they had day by themselves
Friday DH would be home at lunchtime
It all helped to break up the time.

Glassmami · 19/02/2020 17:46

I can leave my eldest (13) home whilst I work and have been since she was about 11( in secondary school), I will probably do the same when my youngest turns 11

ghostmous3 · 19/02/2020 17:53

I've left mine from year 7 so from 11 or 12 regularly in the hols. My dd2 is 12 and has been on her own pretty much since Monday. Her 17 year old sister has been there for some of it but apart from that nothing else. My Dm dislikes my 12 year old but loves the 17 year old si prefers to have her company and I have no other childcare or help whatsoever. My 9 year old is in holiday club for the 4 days but the eldest is too old to go and i cant afford her fees barely. My annual leave will be used for the holidays and I intend to use 1 week parental leave for 1 week of Easter.

My kids dad is pretty useless and unreliable and my DP who doesn't live with us helps me out sometimes by taking the odd day off to keep the girls company even though they are not his..he will take them out etc.

I have early finish on a fri which helps a bit.

Its crap.

pinkrocker · 19/02/2020 17:58

I leave mine (14&12) to get themselves off to school one day a week when I leave for work early at 7.45, I ring them from the car on handsfree when it's time to brush teeth and go. They then let themselves back in at 3.30pm and demolish any snacks that are at hand!
I have left them twice this year and gone out with friends at 7.30 and they've put themselves to bed at 10pm, but I'm never much later back than that (we WhatsApp all the time while I'm out, just checking in with each other)
My two are pretty sensible I think.
I don't think I could leave them at home all day on their own though, they'd do nowt!!

SansaSnark · 19/02/2020 18:19

@RedskyAtnight The taking a few days off each week only works if you can get your employer to authorize it! If you work for a small business/in a small team which requires a certain amount of people in for coverage, you'd be blocking other people from having a full week off for a summer holiday- not very fair if there are other parents.

I think 12 and 14 is fine to leave them home alone, particularly if you do it for the first time in the February half term, as then it's just for one week, rather than the long summer holidays straight away.

pisspants · 19/02/2020 22:31

I have left my 13 and 10 year old for the odd day from about 9 till 4 with packed lunches out ready and me calling them every hour. They are both very sensible and get on pretty well and there are neighbiurs they could call on if needed.

WhoWants2Know · 19/02/2020 23:58

My 12 year old is fine, but I don't feel ready with my 10 year old yet. I don't feel like I can trust them not to bicker and to clean up after themselves

12 checks in with me frequently and I always know what she's up to. When 10 gets to that stage then I'll feel more secure,

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