Email embarrassment

[Rationalcat]

Last week, I was on my phone and had 3 conversations on the go.

One was work related.

I accidentally sent a cheery personal, 'Bye, ta and love you' to the work person.

I didn't notice. Nor did he as we carried on with our work related emails without anything being said.

Until now. He sent email reminding me of his official position and said it inappropriate for me to 'declare I love him'. And from now on we could no longer speak directly to each other. I will need to passed over to other members in his team.

I had no idea what he was talking about. Scrolled through my emails, found the offending little bugger of an email, and apologised, saying it was a mistake, very embarrassed, no discomfort meant etc....made a point of saying I hadn't noticed, and apologised again.

I can't do much else, can I ?

I think you’re both overreacting. It’s 100% obvious it wasn’t meant for him - especially in context of all the before and after e-mails. Bit like when someone gets into someone else’s Facebook and does an update that’s obviously not the owner of the page’s.

Honestly @Rationalcat, this man has made an utter fool of himself over this.

Don’t let him make you feel bad about it.

You don’t need to answer this obvs but I’m curious about whether you’ve ever met him in person?

I think he might have a few problems by the sounds.

One of my female colleagues once tripped in a weird unexplainable way and while falling was trying to grab whatever in a reflex to stop her from falling. It ended up being a full hand grab in our male colleagues crotch. They both went bright red at first and then all of us present had a good laugh together. It was fine.

Seriously, stuff like that just happens accidentally sometimes. He's just being a dick.

How do you think OP is overreact @PhoneTwattery?

JustAnouk No never met him in person, nor likely too.
Its all email and phone stuff.

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Thanks everyone for your supportive comments.

I have to email and phone next week, so have mentally stuffed all your comments away and will bring them out next week before I have to call.

I do wish that posters wouldn't immediately say ' oh his wife must have seen it!'

It's just so fucking irritating ... some hysterical, jealous woman simply MUST be behind his reaction! Has to be a woman, can't possibly just be ... him. Feminism is alive and kicking eh?

OP - most people would laugh this off and not give it a second thought. You should just try and forget it now

So you’ve never even met him but you’re getting told off for falling in love with him?? This guy is bonkers

I once had a client email me and sign off

Love xx

It was clearly an error if you took emails before, after, and the content into account.

He quickly realised and sent an apology - he had been texting his wife at the same time. However, even without an apology, it was clearly human error. Nothing to get worked up about.

Ta , everybody.

I'm trying to shrug it off, but it's hard.

I hate the fact I'm being seen as some one being inappropriate.

Yes , captainpantbeard
I've never met him , but I declared my love for him.
🙄

I agree with MoltonSilver - sounds like his over reaction has been coloured by a previous bad experience.

I once sent a freelancer a very affectionate email intended for my husband. Felt mortified when I realised what I’d done and immediately called him to apologise. He laughed, said not to worry of course he’d realised the email wasn’t meant for him and then added, a little wistfully, that it was so lovely that my emails to my husband weren’t just terse directives to go to Tesco.

That's funny and sad at same time, SingingBabooshkaBadly
I'm actually still upset by the whole thing, and I'm dreading next week's call/email.

He signed off his formal email with his full name and title.

I'm not sure how to respond?
Address him as I usually do? Or use his title and full name?

I think the latter looks petty, but I seriously don't know how serious this is.

I'm tempted to ignore any names etc and just give the details of what I need from them.

It's awkward because we were on first name terms, spoke about the weather (typical British!) and then it was just work related.

I almost wish client had fired me, because I find this excruciating.

DH says Im worrying for nothing. Id like to believe that.

😣