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Email embarrassment

114 replies

Rationalcat · 14/02/2020 00:41

Last week, I was on my phone and had 3 conversations on the go.

One was work related.

I accidentally sent a cheery personal, 'Bye, ta and love you' to the work person.

I didn't notice. Nor did he as we carried on with our work related emails without anything being said.

Until now. He sent email reminding me of his official position and said it inappropriate for me to 'declare I love him'. And from now on we could no longer speak directly to each other. I will need to passed over to other members in his team.

I had no idea what he was talking about. Scrolled through my emails, found the offending little bugger of an email, and apologised, saying it was a mistake, very embarrassed, no discomfort meant etc....made a point of saying I hadn't noticed, and apologised again.

I can't do much else, can I ?

OP posts:
SuperMeerkat · 14/02/2020 05:37

That person is a right prat. So rather than clarifying with you what you meant they went straight in with a complaint....attention seeker or what?!!

NineSwans · 14/02/2020 05:41

He sounds incredibly pompous. Most people would be surprised, mildly amused and grasp immediately what has happened, accept the apology and forget about it.

Tomselleckhaskindeyes · 14/02/2020 05:48

I think I would have sent an email back to you saying Is this for Me? Or even thank you with s smiley face!!

definitelynottwelvenow · 14/02/2020 05:48

Honestly? He sounds like a prat! It was a mistake and you've explained/apologised. Most people would have responded at the time "erm was that meant for me? 😆" type thing or ignored it. He's making a mountain out of a molehill here. Just deal with the newly designated person and forget him.

85notout · 14/02/2020 05:51

What a fool, I'd have just laughed it off with a 'I know we work well as part of a team but I'm sure that's how you feel about your Dp and not me !

BeardedMum · 14/02/2020 05:56

Lol what a twat

JustAnouk · 14/02/2020 06:00

My goodness. I’m with almost all PPs who have said, what a prat!

What else are you meant to say to him? “Rest assured I don’t love you?” Grin

Let him get on with it. It was a simple mix-up. It’s not like you made a lewd suggestion or accidentally sexted him FFS! It’s the kind of thing you’d write to your mum!

annabell22 · 14/02/2020 06:13

Did his wife see your email and demand he cut contact with you maybe?

Giroscoper · 14/02/2020 06:18

So weird and arrogant to assume that you are declaring your love for him in one throw away line of "bye, ta and love you."

What is he 12?

nettie434 · 14/02/2020 06:23

You said he is in a different time zone. Is he a native English speaker? I can’t imagine why anyone familiar with the way people sign off conversations and emails would think ‘bye, ta and love you’ was a declaration of love.

So you feel less upset, could you give him an imaginary back story as someone who learned English in prison reading Anthony Trollope novels? And then forget about his silliness.

PerkyPomPoms · 14/02/2020 06:32

How strange

LorenzoStDubois · 14/02/2020 06:36

What a twat.

Some people are always just looking for an argument or the chance to be offended.
And some are just downright humourless.
He does sound like a right tool bag.

LorenzoStDubois · 14/02/2020 06:37

Also to the people who said the OP was unprofessional - did you never, ever make a mistake at work? Ever?
Jog on.
You're all as bad as him.

CorianderLord · 14/02/2020 06:44

God he sounds like a jobsworth. I'd just have said "Ah, not sure that was meant for me, Cat?"

And all would've been solved

EnidBlyton · 14/02/2020 06:44

you apologised immediately?
how ridiculous of him.
You know you can recall emails?

rise above it op, he is a plonker

EarringsandLipstick · 14/02/2020 06:47

He's utterly ridiculous OP and I think you've done all you can & are handling it well.

YellWat · 14/02/2020 06:49

I had a professional person send me a memoji of them kissing... It was hilarious as quite clearly not meant for me. After some gentle ribbing we all (3 in the message) let it go.

I've also accidentally put kisses on the bottom of an email to one of my team when talking to my husband on the phone at the same time. I tried to recall it then immediately went to the person and apologised, explained and we both laughed.

His reaction is totally OTT. Don't sweat it, we all do it.

DartmoorDoughnut · 14/02/2020 07:05

I’m assuming by different time zone he’s American tbh

Try not to think about it any more OP

BaolFan · 14/02/2020 07:22

He needs to get a grip - you sent something not meant for him, you've explained and apologised and it's time to move on.

This is a non-issue. If he carries on being a pompous prick then I would go to his line manager and cc an HR rep, explain what has happened and that you've apologised but that he seems to have a big issue regardless.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 14/02/2020 07:27

Another in the prat camp.
As for the comment about being unprofessional..ffsHmm

OLP2019 · 14/02/2020 07:29

A normal person would laugh with you once the mistake was noticed and apologized for
He's a dick don't worry any more

StrongTea · 14/02/2020 07:30

What a plonker he is.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 14/02/2020 07:37

'He needs to take the stick out of his arse.'

This.

Surely to God he must know it was a bloody error.
Why on earth would you be telling him you 'loved him'.
He must certainly think a lot of himself.

kateandme · 14/02/2020 07:40

wow how big this guys ego.

SoupDragon · 14/02/2020 07:40

Seems like a lot of fuss over nothing on both sides.

You made a mistake. He said it was inappropriate/unprofessional (which is was). You apologised. Just let it go.

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