How old were your kids when you could stay in your own bed undisturbed all night?

[CapaldiL]

I'm not asking when your DC slept through as I know children aged five who still don't and it's just depressing. However- I try to console myself with the thought that if a five year old wakes they are self sufficient enough not to scream for their parents in the night? (Maybe.)

How old were your kids when you could go to bed, stay in your own bed and not need to get out until the morning?

Ds1 and ds2 were brilliant sleepers from an early age, and rarely came into my bed. Maybe once or twice a year, due to a bad dream or frightened by a storm or whatever. Then dd1 came along, who was a dreadful sleeper as a baby and into toddlerhood. When she was about 18 months, I tried co-sleeping in a bid to try and get more than an hour's stretch of sleep. It didn't work. She just played at pulling my eyelids open, sitting up, or just generally being restless for hours. I quickly moved on to sleep training instead and, within three or four days, she was sleeping through. I haven't had any kids in my bed since, which is fine as I don't particularly like it. Occasionally, dd (10) will still come through in the middle of the night if she's had a bad dream, but she wants me to tuck her back into her own bed rather than come into mine.

DD slept through from about 8 weeks old and never came into my bed, she preferred her own.

My youngest is 20 with a few health issues , she generally wakes me up most nights to ask something but she knows that I don’t need much sleep and am happy to be disturbed . With the older one ( moved out) the issue is waking him up .

DD stopped waking in the night when she was 9. She’s now nine and a half and I’ve looked five years younger for the past six months.

Mine are DS 4.5 and DD 2. Last few months it’s becoming more the norm to not be disturbed overnight. Probably only woken once or twice a week. Before that DD would usually wake up at least once a night. I’m enjoying feeling more human again!

DS has slept through from about 6 months. Barring illness and the occasional bad dream, we never hear from him before his grow clock comes on. He takes himself to the bathroom and plays in his room until it’s time to get up.

6 months - until aged 3 ish. Then they were like yo-yos. Got them all back on track by 5.
And now I miss them coming in all warm and soft!

DD2 from 10-12 weeks, slept through, never wanted to come in for a cuddle.

DD1 similar BUT she'd come into our bed until she was 8 if she woke. I wouldn't have to get up after she was 1.5yrs, she'd just climb in. She never screamed, I'd just her a little voice saying mama. Or she'd magically have appeared by morning.

Whatever gets everyone the most sleep i liked the cuddles tbh.

None of them ever have barring illness.

Well DS is 10. Slept soundly in his own bed for the last 5 years until his year 6 class mates started telling each other horror stories. He’s now in with us every night!

4 year old still comes into our bed once in the night, I stay in bed with her and my husband has to go and sleep in her bed

My twin boys are 18 months old
They were 4 months old when they slept through and we didn't have to wake up for them

DS is five and more often than not stays in his bed all night. He was a terrible sleeper, waking up 5+ times a night until he started school age 4.

When he was about 3.5 I got him a gro clock, it saved my sanity! He would still wake up but because he understood the concept he would settle back to sleep in his own bed within minutes.

Occasionally he'll get into my bed in the early hours of the morning but I don't mind that so much now as he'll go back to sleep, unlike before where we'd be up and down like yo yo's!

My oldest 2 were around 4 and 2 when I stopped being disturbed in the night at all by them.
Then when they were 5 and 3 I had another baby 😩.

They’re now 6, 4 and 1 and I’m back to being up multiple times a night with the 1 year old. 6 and 4 year olds rarely disturb me though.

I think you are getting a skewed view here with everyone keen to tell you their horror stories. Don't think these are 'typical' or perhaps that common.

Agree. I also think a lot of this is because posters are ok with it - when my 3 year old wakes up before his gro clock, I tell him to stay in his bed until the sun comes up, I definitely wouldn't encourage him to come in bed with us. I am also a bit surprised that there are 7 year olds who wake their parents up rather than occupy themselves. At that age, if I woke before my parents, I would read a book or otherwise occupy myself quietly.

If my 4yo wakes in the night he definitely still needs us- either cries for us or comes in to our room. Thankfully he's recently started sleeping through more often than not.

Still waiting..they are 14, 12 and 9. Hoping when the 9 year old goes to high school he'll sleep through.

Settlersofcatan I don’t let mine in my bed and always resettle them back in their own, but I still count that as being ‘disturbed’ in the night as per the OP. Up until 4 my oldest would come into my room when she had a bad dream etc. I took her back to her own bed every time, but it still meant it wasn’t an uninterrupted night.

Probably around age 3 with all 4 of mine unless there are sick.

My 10 year old DD now just sleeps in my bedroom. She was up every night saying I can't sleep. Hopefully the start of year 7 will lead to some independence there. I miss having my bed to myself.

About 2 and 4

My dc have ne ver come into my bed, I thought that was normal but the replies here are making me feel an oddity I can remember a handful of times past night feeding age when they might have felt a bit I'll or had trouble getting to sleep in hot weather but thats it.

Mine are 3 & 5 and recently I've been getting slept 85% of the time till 6am for the past 2/3 months. I'm hoping that's the start of the light at the end of the sleepless tunnel

My dc have never slept in my bed. They slept through from a few months old and have always been easy to get back to sleep if they've ever woken in the night apart from when they've been ill.

First child = 6 months Second child = 9 months

Your children never needed you in the night ever from 6 and 9 months old?

Ds1 slept through around his 3rd birthday and rarely wakes, is very easy to settle when he does.
DS2 is a different story. He is 3.5 and wakes about 5 nights a week, he used to call out for me but I have taught him to get up as quietly as possible, come into our bed and go to sleep without a murmur and without wriggling. I do wake up, but just for a couple of minutes and I always feel well rested during the day. I could spend a couple of nights trying to settle him in his bed but the situation is fine as it is, so I don't bother.

DD is 5 & she was sleeping through the night without waking from about 1? She'd only wake if ill, nightmares etc. Then potty training around 3 meant she was waking in the night for the toilet. That lasted a few months but settled. Then we had DS & she regressed, waking several times a night for the toilet, her covers were messed up.... That lasted about a year. She's now back to sleeping through but we had to implement low lighting on the landing & in the toilet so she could go to the toilet on her own in the night.
DS is nearly 2; he's been sleeping through since 1yr & rarely wakes atm. He has one more set of teeth due & we expect that to disturb him plus when we start potty training over the next year.
But atm most nights we get to all sleep through the night till about 6am when both DC decide to wake.