A thread for those who are sad we are leaving the EU today

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What will you miss about being an EU member state? Do you plan to join any campaign to re-join? What worries you about Brexit or do you think it will be okay?

I will miss being a part of something bigger than us and being in immediate cooperation with our friends and neighbours, I am worried about the direction our country will now take, and also about the negative economic impact of leaving.

I'm another who is sad and angry. I liked it being easy to travel to other EU countries. The EU isn't perfect but it has helped improve workers rights amongst many other things.
I wonder which people will be first to complain about things when leaving starts to impact upon them ay?
I feel disappointed for the kids who have potentially lost a lot of opportunities.
I was talking to a man in the gym earlier in the week (a leaver) who said all the European Parliament are unelected. I pointed out we had an election to vote for our MEPs last year but no they are all unelected.....

I'm just furious still.

I'll miss a philosophy of cohesion. And I'm worried that this represents a bigger divide than just economic.

I'd love to fuck off to Canada or Australia now that the option of moving to Europe has been taken away by my family who all voted leave.

Posted elsewhere on MN but joining in here too.

I'm angry, disgusted, ashamed and also very sad. I no longer want to call myself British and will avoid doing so unless it's absolutely necessary. I feel an incredible amount of anger towards the people who voted to leave and even more hatred towards the politicians who were responsible for this disaster in the first place. I'll be avoiding the news for a few days, not that I can stomach watching Boris on a good day. I have mental health issues and this whole fiasco is making them so much worse so I may have to bury my head in the sand for a while and find some means of escaping from reality. Probably watching lots of bad TV and reading.

Gutted to be losing freedom of movement - especially for my kids. I really made the most of it in my 20s ... shaped my whole life ... but my kiddies won’t have the same opportunities and I really can’t see anything compensating for that. Hope we rejoin before they reach adulthood.

I'm generally depressed and wondering what will happen to Scotland now, we might end up breaking away entirely which I was previously opposed to.

Also sad some of my family in Europe are no longer British citizens. And worried about environmental and employment legislation and the supply of chocolate.

I also feel very sad that we have voted against being part of something bigger than us. Can't believe that my children are growing up in a world of inane and patronizing slogans such as 'Get Brexit done' which are broadcasted to us as though I should be grateful that our Prime Minister is leading us in a direction that we wanted to go in. I did not. I don't know so much about the longer term economic or social consequences of this, but I do know that I disagree with the intention and the implication that we are stronger on our own. Utter bollocks. None of us are stronger on our own, we need each other.

Thanks for starting this thread OP. I feel sad today too, DH and jumping off dry January an evening early to enjoy a really good bottle of french red and a European charcuterie and cheese board for supper so that will cheer me up for ten minutes.

This weekend we've unfortunately got plans with Brexiteer family and friends so I hope to god they don't start gloating .

Desperately sad, angry, frustrated, disbelieving....just can't quite believe they're actually going through with it, somehow. We're going to play Ode to Joy very loudly at 11pm tonight to drown out any fireworks (but hopefully it'll rain anyway).

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Hugs and to all.

I have one foot on both sides of the channel - an English father, continental mother and grew up in a third European country before coming back to the UK in my 20s. My EU citizenship (which I won’t lose due to my Mum) and the fact that the UK was part of the EU made me feel at home here. I can’t relate to the little England mentality at all, and agree that idiotic slogans like Get Brexit Done by lying and ambitious politicians like Boris have been part of our undoing. Other culprits like Murdoch, Farage, the ERG, etc are equally hateful.

Brexit is a right wing coup - whatever reasons Leaver voters might have actually had.

Not sure how increased alignment with the US is going to help us, and I feel that our natural place is with our European friends, family and allies.

But a bunch of ex colonialist types like what’s his horrible double barrelled name think otherwise, and their views have somehow held sway.

What we need is proportional representation.

Jacob Rees-Mogg .

I'm fucking raging and very sad at the same time. Extremely worried about the economy and also the little Englander mentality which is leading to the renewed transparency of racist attitudes again. We are going backwards.

I also don't understand why so many Leavers are so angry still, unless it's because we dare to still say it's a bloody stupid idea.

Also very sad here.

Personally, because I will now apply for citizenship in my current country just to make life a little more secure for myself and my child. This is going to be a hugely stressful year because of this.

It's not what I wanted, but I am gearing myself up to no longer being British. Before I could've had it all, maintained my nationality, part of my identity, but also feel forward facing, European. It meant something to me.

I've also realised now that I will never return to live in the UK.

I just can't. It's too small now.

I'm not outwardly dismissive, negative and argumentative about it all any more. It's inward sadness I feel.

The irony is, I have two friends who voted leave, living in this country, and they are both now massively vocal about how negative and crap everything will be from now on. They didn't think for one minute about the effect on their lives here. They only started to change their minds in the last year.

I have passed the point of reiterating that they are to blame. I've just lost the will. I'm exhausted with it all, and now I have to change my whole life because of something I didn't want.

Gahhhhh....

I'm so sad and so furious and embarrassed about the antics of some of our MEPs this week.

A hideous day.

I think remainders should unite to focus on voting and something like proportional representation. The democratic deficit that exists in the UK led to this. It will lead to lots of ukip being voted in but it's important these people are tested in real life politics and be shown to be wanting.
This is the task at hand.

Well, there's one good thing: we're finally waking up from our Imperial delusions. We've become the nasty little country we always were, full of vicious ignoramuses.

Which means we now have a clear enemy in view. Dox them, ridicule them, vote them down on the council, get the Northeast Tories into hot water, etc etc etc. I'm going to give free rein to my inner arsehole where they're concerned.

I feel very sad and the prospect of facing gloating from farage, widdecome, johnson, rees-mogg etc. fills me with disgust. I just turned off the radio (get out of my house!) I hope there are no fireworks round here!

What upsets me more is that it was all a game by the powerful and we lost the opportunity to elect a socialist government because of it. It's created division and hate on both sides and fuelled bigotry (stupid leavers, bloody northerners, woke remoaners). The whole thing is a shitshow and makes me despair.

Amara123 I totally agree about proportional representation. Our system isn't fit for purpose. No wonder people feel disenfranchised.

I'm not as sad as I thought I would be.

I'm a Brit living in France, but we have the easiest situation to deal with - both working, paying taxes, bilingual kids in school, just making a normal life that happens to be in another country. TBH it's always been a bit complicated living between two countries. I do feel for families where the parents are from different countries though. I know that some people abuse it with sham marriages etc but to split a family, especially one with children, because the one of the adults doesn't have the right piece of paper / nationality? That's shameful. I have a friend here who has a French husband, father of her children. A few years ago they decided to move back to the UK to give their children some experience of growing up in the UK. Then more recently they moved back to France, as his parents were getting older and needed support. And they were able to do all this thanks to freedom of movement. And they can't do that any more. And I just can't see what the Brexiters have gained from preventing this perfectly normal kind of life from happening.

What I'm actually sad about is that the illusion that borders didn't matter is vanishing. For a little while, Europe has managed to maintain the fantasy that - with enough shared economic interests - we could erase the borders between nations that had been at war, on and off, for centuries. That fiction can no longer be maintained, and TBH Brexit is only one manifestation of it. I love living in Europe, but I think that there are very tough times ahead for the EU. Shared economic interests are not sufficient to overcome the huge cultural gaps and old enmities between the nation states of Europe.

I feel a lot sadder than I thought I would, tbh.

I have huge concerns about economic impact, and I feel quite scared for the future.

Bloody hell yoikes you needed a trigger warning on that. I'm sat in my work kitchen with big fat ugly tears rolling down my face.

So yes I'm very sad.

I wanted a to show it was meant kindly but I didn't want one on my post.

I didn't think I'd feel as sad as I do. I feel more European today than I do anything else, I've always appreciated being part of the EU but I hadn't realised just how much it has become a part of me to be European.

joikes that actually brought me to tears.
I am heartbroken.