Who should clean this up?

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Dd(14) got a bean bag for her room for Christmas after about a week her little brother jumped on it and it split spilling beans everywhere she cleaned it all up and moved the split bag to the bottom of her wardrobe out of harms way.
I've been meaning to get it fixed but haven't got round to it.
Today is martial arts for all four kids and dh. Dd is a black belt and also helps teach the little kids, they were running late and we were trying to get everyone ready and out of the door.
Dd loses her belt, dh tells her to look in the sports bag that they used last week while she is doing this dh goes upstairs and without saying anything goes in dds wardrobe throws the beanbag out of the bottom of her wardrobe to look for the belt. Beans go everywhere. He finds the belt.
His argument-I'm not cleaning them up I found the belt
Her argument-I never asked you to and you didn't say anything,if you did I would have said don't touch the bean bag. I spent an hour cleaning them up last time brother broke it. I could have just worn another belt (would have been the incorrect belt)

Who do you think should clean them up?

Husband.

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Husband!!! So, if he hadnt have found the belt, would he have cleaned the beans up, of had another excuse???

He is sounding like a child himself.

In our house, we’d have a giggle about it & do it together. It’s not worth an argument. Can’t you put a timer on and turn it into some sort of competition.....who can pick the most beads up within a certain time frame? Ultimately, you said you’d mend it but you didn’t, so maybe you should clean them up?

Congratulations on having a 14yr DD who sounds more adult than your DH.

He should clean it up. Does he often cause a mess and expect women to clean it up for him? He should set a better role model to his DS, I feel sorry for your DD having a Christmas present ruined, not replaced and then forced to tidy up the damage from it caused by someone else

Husband. Why should she clean up after he was careless? She shouldn’t really have had to clear up after her brother either.

Your poor dd

Sounds like she has to sort out everyone’s mess!

Anyway can't he hoover them up and then empty the bag/box thing? They won't block the hoover, I have done it with a Henry Hoover before.

Yes, and her pressie ruined too!

Dh, obviously. He’s being ridiculous.

Your DH of course. Is he always a dick?

He should. She also should not have had to clear up after her brother. Terrible gender roles here.

Husband.

Definitely your husband.

Dickhead husband.

I’m guessing this isn’t the first time you’ve experienced this from him.

Everyone, to model reasonableness and the fact accidents happen and no-one has to be to blame.

Husband made the mess, so he cleans up.

Was the belt actually under the damaged bean bag?

Husband! How is this even a question!
And he could sew the beanbag up too.

The little brother can sew the beanbag up, surely? My DC could sew at primary school age, if he is too young he should sit whilst it's done so he understands the concept of putting damage right (alright if he is 18 months feel free to ignore this )

Husband, dd was no where near it! Why would she clean it up?

Thanks for the responses and yes you are right I should have got it fixed sooner.
I'm with the majority of you dh should do it.
However I'm also not prepared to go to war over it so I may just do it.

Ds is 6 and doesn't know how to sew it's a thick faux fur one so it's a bit harder.