Dry January 2020 thread 2... keeping it dry!

[ParanoidGynodroid]

Thread two to help us continue to share the love (and dryness)

Keep going, everyone... good luck

I'm not going to drink tonight, easy decision to make as I'm having a day out with DD tomorrow, climbing and lots of walking around the city, so I do not want to be feeling even slightly hungover for that. Been getting brief cravings every night at bedtime but they soon pass. Need to buy more herbal teas though!

I'm not drinking tonight either. DH and I have got into a routine of sharing a pot of Earl Grey Rooibos in the evening, which I really enjoy. I need to focus on time with him, which is what alcohol used to signify for me. Hoping to go to the end of Feb.

I do need to get off the chocolate, though. I know I'm eating my feelings, but right now I can't control that and stay off wine and hold the DC up. I'm a human being, not an automaton.

Happy Valentine's Day you lovely lot. I toasted the day of romance with some fizzy water and didn't feel like I was missing out one bit.

Just checking in...

DP and I had our bottle of wine on Friday and are now not drinking again until at least the end of Feb, mostly because we both need to lose a few KGs and are thinking that 2 weeks of being really healthy will get us off to a good start.

Thinking perhaps the thread needs a new title, now that Dry January has been and gone. Perhaps moderate drinkers of 2020?

Sounds like a good title.

I had an unplanned drink tonight, bit disappointed but it was just one small one and was happy to stop after it.

Just thinking because of the dry January title and posters seem to be slipping away.

I wonder if we're slipping away as not drinking becomes the norm for us? I had a glass of Fake Red with dinner last night, and I'm cooking with the rest of it. Ugh.

Not drinking now til I don't know when. Quite happy to have evenings and weekends not fuzzy.

Morning my lovelies! I hadn't been trying to keep dry, but I had an AF night last night and I'd forgotten how good it feels the next day! I was at a pub quiz, and had offered to be the designated driver. It's much easier to get questions right with a non-fuzzy head. And I impressed myself by NOT reaching for a glass of something when I got in!

Hi ! I've been away for a bit because I'm slightly ashamed - I had a few drinks last Tuesday and again on Friday. And a couple more on Saturday, but that was social and felt much more controlled. BUT, and it's a good but, I then stopped, threw the remainder of the wine down the sink on Saturday night, got through Sunday evening without a drink and am now feeling much happier. I'm carrying on with the Try Dry app and hopefully the two blips will soon be counterbalanced by many yellow non-drinking day. I really hated feeling all headachey and dehydrated on Wednesday in particular - especially since I then ended up eating a large number of carbs in recompense - I must try and remember that feeling. Would like a Moderate Drinkers thread to keep us on the straight & narrow!!

Lent starts soon so I think I will have one of my leftover Christmas wines at the weekend and that will be it until Easter. Hopefully.

I’m still here and just updated my TryDry app to show a dismal effort last week....then clicked that it was the holidays, I was trying to work and ft parent and dh was away and my nerves were shot....excuses excuses, I clearly still have room for improvement

How is everyone getting on now? I’m very proud of the changes I’ve made and kept up. Yes I’ve had a few drinks on occasion but pub quiz last night and I decided I was driver as I have a (Pre-planned) boozy Day out today. In the past last night would have just been seen as a warm up to a big day out today. Small wins but they all add up.

Having said I was going to the end of the month, on Tuesday, on Wednesday DH was offered and excepted a super-shiny new job that called for champagne. Then I slept badly, dreamed appallingly and had an off sort of day yesterday.

Looking for a non-alcoholic fizz that is not insanely sweet, to fill the gap! Toasting him in tea was just not quite right.

Day 48 for me, I was never a crazy big drinker but did fall into a daily drinking trap. It's so strange how my mental shift in how I see alcohol has changed. I wasn't even planning on dry Jan! It's my 40th in a few weeks and people are saying "oh you have to have a drink for your birthday"... my response is, "but for who?"

I'm delighted to announce I'm on consecutive day 51. OH is drinking a glass of port next to me and it stinks!

I'm on day 25. Am feeling proud of myself! The best non alcoholic fizz I've had is the Fizzero from M and S. It does feel like a nice treat 😍

Ooh, I'll see if I can find some of that Awks, thank you. I've realised that consecutive days of dryness make it too all-or-nothing for me and I fall off the wagon because I have a tantrum over it . Not really the thing, at the age of 46, but there we are. So I approach it "for today" and only for today. It was lovely to have a dry Friday night last night, although I still stayed up too late. Obviously that's the next thing to work on!

This is so good. Woke up at 7:15, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed dh and I had a drink on Friday (planned) but our Saturday nights are now clear and this means Sundays are quite productive. Love it.

Drank on Saturday and yesterday. Nice at the time but shocking nights sleep last night. Back on the wagon for a while. I was wondering what the benefits of not drinking were as I was getting used to it. Now I know - a good nights sleep!

r/stopdrinking

Hi all,

Just wanted to pop back and say there is an ongoing sub on reddit for those who fancy a bit of on going support.

Hey anybody still going... I've nearly completed the two months so looking forward to a glass of wine on sunday 😂

I’m still going, @Happydays2019! I’m more on ‘Still stopped in 2020; a thread for anyone abstaining from alcohol‘, as I’m staying off it for now rather than moderating. Well done on two months! I’m at the same point and smug about it!

Hi, I am coming back as I went back on booze after the end of Jan, but have now gone off again for lent. It's nice to see some familiar names! I feel a bit daunted starting again, even though it has only been 4 weeks. I am finding it harder to moderate as the weeks go on. Not drinking that excessively, more just thinking 'should I drink tonight'. It is annoying me, as by mid Jan I was perfectly happy not drinking at all. So I am hoping I will find abstinence easier than moderation.

I just read this article on abstainers vs moderators, @ColouringPencils, and found it useful. I’m definitely an abstainer - all or nothing!
gretchenrubin.com/2012/10/back-by-popular-demand-are-you-an-abstainer-or-a-moderator/

I'm also coming back, having gone off, come back and not managed to stay. So I'm starting again today and really intend to stick with it as have slipped into bad habits again. Went out last night, drank a bit too much and now got the horrid post drinking anxiety feelings. I didn't actually do anything awful but have realised that everyone else was pretty sober so I must have stuck out like a sore thumb.

Going to cinema tonight with DC which means driving and doing something all evening. Then will come home, go to bed and hopefully wake up feeling a bit more positive tomorrow.