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Is it weird that I’m nearly 40 and never been to a wedding?

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MooKnee · 14/01/2020 21:32

I guess it’s just circumstantial, about half of my friends aren’t married, others were already married when I met them, a handful got married abroad and I couldn’t afford to go.
I never went to any weddings growing up as I come from a tiny family and similar aged relatives have never been married.
Is this unusual or any others out there never been to a wedding?
I should add, I’ve been with DP 10 years and no marriage on the cards but I might change that if it turns out I am weird and need to get to a wedding pronto!!

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TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 14/01/2020 22:19

I’m 36 and I’ve counted 20 including mine. Oh wait, 21 if you count going to the evening bit only. And I don’t think I’ve actually been to that many in comparison to some of my friends.

endoflevelbaddy · 14/01/2020 22:21

I've just totted up, and including evening do's, I've been to 32 that I remember, not including my own. I'm 37. Dread to think how much I've spent on other people's nuptials Shock

B0bbin · 14/01/2020 22:21

I'm 37 and been to about 20 weddings (including the evening party only for some).
It's just a case if timing and circumstances. X

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FenellaMaxwell · 14/01/2020 22:21

It is quite unusual. I’m in my mid-30s and have been to at least 20.

Hotcuppatea · 14/01/2020 22:27

I've been to loads. Let me tell you, you aren't missing much if you never go to a big traditional one. They cost a bomb to go to, there's lots of standing about and waiting and the food is usually iffy. My favourite was one where the reception was in the upstairs of a pub with a buffet and a disco. Great fun.

BadLad · 14/01/2020 22:29

I'm in my 40s and I've never been to one. Escaped most family ones by being abroad, and have managed to avoid the ones I've been invited to in this country being having something else on.

I'm not very keen to break my duck, although reading this forum makes me wonder if I'm missing out on some amusing drama. I've been on a few stag nights.

mnahmnah · 14/01/2020 22:32

I’m 40 and have been to 20 full weddings and a few evening dos. I don’t consider myself to have a large social circle at all.

BobLobLawLLB · 14/01/2020 22:33

Now i think about it, I'm 40 and I've never been to a wedding. Not even invited to one! I have been to lots of funerals though (care assistant)

FramingDevice · 14/01/2020 22:43

Unusual, yes, but not necessarily in a bad way, unless you have a particular yen for Captain Corelli’s Mandolin, hanging about drunkenly lunging at canapés while the wedding party are photographed at a local beauty spot, hog roast, speeches, “At Last’ for a first dance etc etc. Grin

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 14/01/2020 22:44

I’m 31 & have been to 14, including my own. I tend to avoid them if at all possible.

AhoyMrBeaver · 14/01/2020 22:54

I've been to a handful, fewer than 12 I think. None of my siblings ever married so I've never been involved with a direct family wedding. I've also never been a bridesmaid (was asked once, but I didn't want to).

rainbowlou · 14/01/2020 22:56

I’m your age and have been to 6 including mine.
I have 4 more invites this year.
In my opinion you’re not missing out 🙈

willothewispa · 14/01/2020 22:59

no. I'm in my 50s and have never been invited to a wedding let alone been to one.

Bedroomdilemma · 14/01/2020 22:59

That seems unusual to me. Never mind being a wedding guest (no idea how many), I’m about to be a bridesmaid for the 4th time!

Elouera · 14/01/2020 23:00

I'm 41 and think you are in the minority, sorry. I've likely been to 10+ weddings of friends and family, the 1st at age 12.

However I was never a bridesmaid, whereas a friend of mine was bridesmaid/ MOH for at least 8 weddings!

Dowser · 14/01/2020 23:15

Very unusual..my dd when she was six was bridesmaid three times in 6 months

MsMellivora · 14/01/2020 23:17

I have been to 37 weddings.

WoodliceInSunderland · 14/01/2020 23:18

You're not missing much, they are very tedious (I include my own in this) and usually end up costing you a fortune just to attend.
Count yourself lucky!

Elbeagle · 15/01/2020 08:47

I love a good wedding! I generally enjoy spending the day with friends and family and some booze! There is often boring ‘sitting around’ bits but as long as you’re with people you know/like it’s not that much of a hardship generally. Food is sometimes crap but we’re lucky that we have quite a lot of friends who enjoy good food so often spend a lot of money on it as a priority.
We’ve been to all different types of weddings... 20 of us in a pub, 100’s in a stately home and everything in between. Only been to one that I thought was really awful, and that was mainly because it was pretty obvious the bride and groom didn’t really want to be doing it (divorced a short time later).

Spied · 15/01/2020 08:51

Late 30s.
Bridesmaid once as a child.
Friend's wedding once 2 years ago.
One evening 'do' about 10 years ago.

Forestwitch · 15/01/2020 08:53

Been to more funerals than weddings Sad

Justkeeprollingalong · 15/01/2020 08:55

I'm mid 60s and I've only been to 6 church weddings and my own registry office wedding.

ShadowFall · 15/01/2020 09:06

I think it’s unusual, but it’s not something I’d worry about.

InvisibleToEveryone · 15/01/2020 09:18

41,
Been to 2 all day weddings, and 2 just evening reception. Ever.

Been to more funerals....not sure what that says really !

elQuintoConyo · 15/01/2020 09:20

In 44, I've been to 6 weddings including my own. More funerals. I like the wedding service, but loathe receptions, all that hanging around and chit chat.