Crush on gay porn star

[Keepnamechanging]

I need help. The last few weeks I have developed an obsession with gay men. I have absolutely no idea why, other than my hormones are all over the place (perimenopausal). I am spending a ridiculous amount of time watching gay porn and thinking about men having sex. I have never watched porn of any type before. I have now developed a massive crush on an ex gay porn star, to the extent I have spent all day looking at his Facebook and Instagram pages etc. I am contemplating messaging him. Ffs what is wrong with me?

@EmptyOrchestra I've met Jonathan Groff a few times and he's utterly adorable

He does seem absolutely adorable, which only makes it worse.

It’s not even a sex thing, I just think he’s wonderful - maybe he’d sing a duet with me, that would be about the best I could hope for 😂

Its really really common for women to fantasise about gay men. Have you read any nancy friday books about womens fantasies. Women on top etc.

Try dating a bi guy. I dated a few back in my single days. All really good lovers.

op there is no difference you fancying a gay man or a celebrity neither of them are you actually going to meet or have sex with.

My best friend and I fancy loads of gay men, and go clubbing with them. Actually my best friend tells them all how gorgeous they are and they bloody love it.

Don't be so hard on yourself.
You know the obsession part is partly MH and the rest is just the world we live in.

How many girls are sticking Botox in their faces to look like insta stars.
Don't self hate.

That beardy chap looks lovely.

@TheSandman I think Momoa is definitely better in a purely visual medium.

I haven't watched French Kiss for years so I knew Kevin Kline was lovely but had never really gone phoar before. I was quite flustered by the kiss at the end!

Totally agree with Gracie. Pp said they have a crush on hot priest from fleabag. So what? He may be gay but that is completely irrelevant. I once told a friend I fancied rufus wainwright and she said to me “ you know he’s gay don’t you?” Well come on, I wasn’t going to ask him out!! No difference in fancying him or brad Pitt. Their sexual preferences don’t make them more or less attractive.

yes exactly, I've always thought it odd when friends say they don't fancy gay men - my friends are all women of a certain age, the fact Robert Pattinson and Alex Skaarsgard et al are straight is hardly going to make it less fantasy. Chuckling to myself. The hot priest in fleabag is soooo hot.

I haven't watched French Kiss for years so I knew Kevin Kline was lovely but had never really gone phoar before. I was quite flustered by the kiss at the end!

synchronicityly I nearly watched French Kiss last night. I swithered but eventually chose Highlander 5: The Source which was a lot funnier than French Kiss and has nothing to recommend it but its sheer unrelenting bloody awfulness.

I've always thought it odd when friends say they don't fancy gay men

A: How do they know?
B: Do they check first?

"Fwa.... oh.... hang on. Excuse me? Are you gay? Bi? bugger. OK well, I'll just fancy you a bit. Tuesdays and Fridays probably."

(Story of my life, really.)

Oh dear. I set up an anonymous Instagram account and messaged him. He replied and started following me. Lord. However, my hormones have definitely since stabilized and my sensible self though "get a grip woman, he's gay ffs". I deleted the account and the thought of watching him "at it" now does nothing for me. Fucking hormones are turning me potty. Roll on menopause

Well that’s one way to end a crush! You’ve got to laugh really! I’m not looking forward to these hormines

I always used to get horny/more obsessive around ovulation, but it's been constant for the last few months, then suddenly a few days ago it went. I believe it is known as the pre-menopause Sex Surge. Today I would rather watch a nice Tony Robinson documentary than Mr Gay Porn sucking another man off. I am praying my hormones remain under control. Frankly it's been a nightmare.

I...ummm...I quite fancy Tony Robinson actually....

So that's no help.

@Zaphodsotherhead lol

The heart wants what the heart wants, what can I say?

I'm watching French Kiss again, wish me luck!

I'm much worse around ovulation time and for the first time in my life I have regular periods so dealing with the hormone surge every month is quite distracting.

Glad your obsession has passed @Keepchangingname, hopefully mine will calm down eventually although I will probably just move onto someone else.

I even bought Misha's cookbook with the excuse that it will help to get the DCs interested in cooking. DD has been mocking me mercilessly for it.

All author proceeds go to charity so at least my perving is for a good cause!

The horn is still in the house for me. I just found this thread about the hormone surge in the peri menopause.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/menopause/3129245-Perimenopause-and-Sex-Surge

@eminencegrise I realised today no one asked about your experience, you just slipped it in there unnoticed.

How did it come about? Did you join in? Promise I'm not perving, just interested!

My friend (female) has been in a serious LTR with a gay (male) porn star for years... live together, have a dog etc.
He labels himself as "straight" but doesn't mind doing the gay porn because he's v highly paid for it!
He's very popular, wonder if it's the same guy

What did your crush say in the message to you? @Keepnamechanging

@bakewreck99 I just had to say i am currently OBSESSED with Eric Northman! I just started binge watching true blood again and I just fancy the fuck out of him. Totally would let him do terrible things to me

Waaay to embarrassing to tell anyone IRL tho! I'm supposed to be a responsible professional

ahh @bobbypinseverywhere the hours I have wasted on him! You’ll want to check out Big little lies too plus order yourself the books his character is in for full imagination purposes! (Although the true blood books do go on and on, I lost interest after a bit).

Must re-watch although think the earlier books and tv seasons for trueblood were the best.