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I REALLY fancy my boss

103 replies

Soggymacaroon · 10/01/2020 21:50

Just that really, I’ve name changed so not outed (god I feel cliche). My first job interview was conducted by the MD (the boss) About 6 months ago and from there I just can’t get him out of my head. He’s about 20 years older then me. Attractive for his age, successful and he just gives off a real sexy vibe. I’m pretty sure I feel the sexual tension there but I’m not sure if he’s into me or if he just had a bit of a flirty nature or I’ve just convinced myself! I had to get let my confession out somewhere. I’d like to say I wouldn’t act on it but honestly I’m not sure. It’s pathetic. Excuse me whilst I melt away.

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Pippapotomus · 13/01/2020 13:17

Ffs OP, don't do anything.

James Bond and Moneypenny have a flirty banter because they don't act on it. If they did, James would be on to the next, and all the other secretary's would be gossiping around the coffee machine about her. All the good work she does from then on be ignored, as she's only there because she fucks the boss. She'll then sit there, behind her desk, watching James come and go, and he is probably fed up of her. She'll hear about his other girlfriends, and end up heartbroken. Moneypenny will probably end up looking for another job.

hellhavenofury · 13/01/2020 13:43

@Soggymacaroon - I could have written exactly that 10 years ago! ridiculously hot boss, would make excuses to chat with him and eye contact etc and I just wanted some no strings attached fun - Cut the long story short - I did get what I wanted and more and we have been together ever since and getting married. Relationships can work like this - (He had split with his then GF before I made any move can I add) - Message me if you like :D

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 13/01/2020 15:47

Op will you come back and let us know if we can buy hats for the wedding?

ihavedonethisbefore · 13/01/2020 15:57

Oh just shag him and have done with it

AgathaX · 13/01/2020 16:38

Don't be that predatory female that everyone despises. Have some self respect, and show some respect for the relationship he's already in.

So, pull your head out of your arse, get your work done, then go home and find yourself a boyfriend that doesn't come with baggage.

TheYearOfTheDog · 13/01/2020 16:48

Limerance is a bullshit word. All new relationships hsve a bit of limerance or neither party wiuld keep it going.

Such a stupid label for something nirmal.

That said, you do not have to act on it. One doesnt always show all one's cards. And other things can matter more. Ie, money. A job. Colleagues' respect. Self- respect.

YasssKween · 13/01/2020 17:36

Don't be that predatory female that everyone despises.

I know what you mean Agatha but she won't even look predatory, she'll just look like the silliest one who actually falls for the office smarmy guy bullshit. Talking about how she "melts" around him on here reveals she probably isn't as sexy to him as she likes to think. Just easy prey for what loads of bosses in authority do - test the water with staff until one of them goes for it. Despite knowing he has a girlfriend. Makes me cringe.

Bluntness100 · 13/01/2020 17:51

There is nothing to suggest he is the office smarmy Guy. In fact he's done nothing to deserve that label. Right now this is all in the ops head. He likely looks st her because he knows she fancies him, it certainly doesn't mean he would go there. He has a partner, and likely a reputation to maintain on his workplace and wouldn't like everyone to think he cheated on his partner and shagged the pay roll.

YasssKween · 13/01/2020 17:54

@bluntness100

Sorry I probably phrased that badly, I meant if he does sleep with one of his staff despite having a girlfriend then he would be a sleaze. In my opinion. But you're right, at the moment he might not be at all!

Bluntness100 · 13/01/2020 18:19

I'd agree with that, if he goes there he is a sleaze.

As said, this is all some wide fantasy of the ops right now. He's just as likely to terminate her employment if he thinks she's trouble and makes him uncomfortable as he is to have sex with her.

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Soggymacaroon · 13/01/2020 20:47

Brutal! But that’s why I’ve come to mumsnet! Who knows what will happen. Hopefully some top notch shagging! Ill be sure to update it it does Grin

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YasssKween · 13/01/2020 21:01

Brutal! But that’s why I’ve come to mumsnet! Who knows what will happen. Hopefully some top notch shagging!

Not brutal for people to say they don't agree with shagging someone in a relationship, in a position of authority, who makes you feel "pathetic." Pretty sound advice really... good luck!

christmasstress · 14/01/2020 12:07

God, I seriously hope you make a complete fool of yourself and he turns you down. What a bitchy way of thinking. His poor girlfriend.

Dozer · 14/01/2020 12:09

If your sex life is more important to you than your working life/working reputation, fair enough!

Dozer · 14/01/2020 12:10

Not great to seek to shag someone who is dating someone else, mind you.

KaleidoscopeEyes · 14/01/2020 13:52

This has just happened to me. Although imo the blame lies squarely at HIS door, she went after him knowing we were together. I'm disgusted with the pair of them. I don't know how you can justify shagging him knowing he has a gf. The more casual you're making it sound, the worse it is.

Ugh.

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Soggymacaroon · 14/01/2020 18:13

To be fair, i haven’t actually pursued it and I won’t actively chase it. If it happens then yeh I probably would. I don’t know his girlfriend so I don’t really owe her any loyalty. Its probably all in my head though and won’t actually go anywhere so I don’t think I’ll be going ahead to potentially make a fool of myself. Sorry to disappoint.

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Soggymacaroon · 14/01/2020 18:19

He is really fit though

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sparklefarts · 14/01/2020 18:45

I used to feel like this about my boss at my last job.

He's just cooked me and our son dinner 👍

sparklefarts · 14/01/2020 18:48

Oh just read the thread a bit more, my boss didn't have a girlfriend!

Ginger1982 · 14/01/2020 18:55

"I don’t know his girlfriend so I don’t really owe her any loyalty"

🙄

CassidyStone · 14/01/2020 19:15

Don't go after a man who is in a relationship, no matter how hot he is. If he was single, I'd still proceed with caution, but he's not. So enjoy the view but don't do anything! Grin

YasssKween · 14/01/2020 19:23

@Soggymacaroon

I don’t know his girlfriend so I don’t really owe her any loyalty.

You sound lovely Grin

I'm sure you'd feel the same if you had a boyfriend or husband and a woman shagged them knowing they were with you.

Sure.

MrsWhites · 14/01/2020 19:28

This was me 8 years ago. Really fancied a director at my the business I worked for at the time, not the same department but based in the same office. He’s 17 years older than me. Every time he walked in my heart would start going, same as you constant fantasy for months. I also found the powerful position, business suits and self confidence that comes with that kind of role extremely attractive.

Anyway, 8 years later he’s my husband and is sat next to me in his PJ’s....the excitement wears off!!!

Dozer · 14/01/2020 19:29

The money is probably still useful though!