What would you say is an ideal time for a 13 year old to go to bed?

[FlorenceKettle]

I'm talking about during the week, so on a school night. When would you remove devices?

In my house, it's devices out the room at 9pm and he then has an hour in his room to draw/ read or just chill out with his various non tech hobbies. Aiming to settle down and sleep at 10pm ish. He's up at 7.30 for school.

He of course thinks is outrageously mean but accepts it. Made me wonder ... what do you do?

Mine goes up to bed at around 10.30pm. Still has teeth to do at that point

Mine needs a lot of sleep, so its lights out by 9 latest. Up at 7am. Off devices at 8.15

Mine goes up about 10pm, usually reads or plays on Kindle for a bit. Up about 7.15am for school.

Usually not too bad (he has sport three evenings a week) but tired at the minute after Christmas.

My 13 year old goes to bed when she's tired. I don't attempt to dictate this.
My only stipulation is that she gets up for school sufficiently rested the next day.

He has to be in his room by 9pm? At 13yo?

That's really harsh imo.

Mine were always good at self regulating but in the early stages I would give them a gentle ouch in the right direction. No form rules though; so long as they were getting up in the morning.

Can't imagine sending a 13 year old to their room at 9pm though. My ten year old old goes at 9!

Xbox off at 9pm, he usually plays on his phone for a bit after that, I hope that he's asleep by 10pm but that rarely happens.... I don't have an issue with this tho as he's always up on time for school (6.30am) without being prompted.

Mine usually goes up at 9.30 (unless he was upstairs anyway). Lights and devices off at 10pm at the latest.

One evening this week he was asleep by 8.15

DS was in bed at 9 and then could read/draw or whatever but no devices. Weekends were more relaxed.

I'm in bed for 9.30 on school nights so the dc are in their room by then at the latest. They can read as long as they want. No devices in rooms apart from daytime on weekends.

My 13year old? Ideally half seven

He goes at 9.30 but will string it out for as long as possible with teeth brushing, feet dragging and general faffing about.

When she wants. During the week it’s almost always 9pm.

She loves to sleep

9.30 goes upstairs/ bathroom etc and then bedroom, reads until she falls asleep.

Xbox off at 9pm and brush teeth/get ready for bed. Usually awake till around 10pm though we get up at 6.30am, or sometimes 7am depending on my work

My 13 year old DS varies but usually by 10. I take his phone and Xbox controller from him and he usually chooses to go straight to sleep.

@zoobican where did you get that he was banished to his room at 9pm from? Are you hard of reading?

All devices out of his bedroom at 9pm is NOT the same as ' must be in his room at 9pm'

Always one on a thread though

I try to get my 12 year old into her room teeth/face done by 9 but I hear her fiddling around for about 1 hour. Am I being mean I mean? Do people think it is better to let them self regulate? Didn't give it much thought until this thread. If she is not tired maybe I should leave her she is up at 6:30 for school, I guess I worry about her getting enough sleep.

My dd 13 it's 930pm. Her dsis 14 is 10pm
They get up at 630 for school.

Always one on a thread though

Maybe because you said he has an hour in his room to read or draw?

Blimey, my ds goes early! He's usually in bed by 8.30 (by choice) - but he is completely incapable of sleeping in and is always up by 6am...

DS is 14 so it's devices off by 9:30 but he can wind down reading until about 10:30 with his music on quietly (Alexa on countdown). To be fair he's usually asleep before then. Gets up at 6:50.

where did you get that he was banished to his room at 9pm from?

Here..

In my house, it's devices out the room at 9pm and he then has an hour in his room to draw/ read or just chill out with his various non tech hobbies.

Devices out the room and he has an hour to draw etc very strongly suggests that he is in his room at 9pm

Are you hard of reading?

Nope, not at all. However I would suggest if you didn't mean he was in his room by 9pm that you are hard of writing.

Always one on a thread though

Isn't there just?

My late-summer born Y8 usually has devices removed between 8.30 and 9pm and is then encouraged to read (or draw) as well as brushing teeth etc. Usually make sure lights are out by 10.

He's still a pain to get out of bed before 7.30.

We don't have devices upstairs, but they turn them off downstairs at 9pm and then DS(13) goes up at 10pm. DS(11) usually goes up at 9.15.

My children always went to bed when they were tired...anytime between 9 and 11 and depending on the time of year !! They always went to school on time and thrived.

9.30pm but my ds has to be up at 6.45am tiger to school.

Gives him 9hours sleep. Any less than that and he’s bad tempered.