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Biting your tongue on social media

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Nextphonewontbesamsung · 09/01/2020 19:38

I mostly lurk on Mumsnet and other social media and probably only post on 1 in 10 threads I read. I think I'm fairly restrained in not firing off a scathing reply to stupid questions that irritate me Grin. But tonight I had to sit on my hands after reading this post on my local FB forum "Hi, looking for recommendations for a cleaner please. I've had twins so am looking for someone really thorough". Honestly it took everything I had not to post "So anyone who hasn't had twins can make do with a slapdash cleaner eh?". Luckily I was the bigger person and walked away.

Have you seen a social media post today that you've had to talk yourself out of posting on?

LIGHT HEARTED ffs.

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HunterAngel · 10/01/2020 22:14

Sarcasm is my second language. I bite my tongue so often I’m kinda surprised I haven’t bitten it right off. Managed to restrain myself, there’s just too much stupid on social media to deal with. Scroll on past!

unbaffled · 10/01/2020 22:15

I have one friend who continually posts pictures of twee crocheted shite, another who is fond of sharing Minions memes and another who posts a picture of the calorie-laden food that she and her lumpen dc are gobbling in a coffee shop somewhere. Oh yes, and another who is forever posting either 'Share if you miss your loved ones in heaven' love hearts or 'Found out who my real friends are today' at every opportunity.

Ffffnggggnnnhhhh....

Savannaha · 10/01/2020 22:24

Don't get me started - someone I have on Instagram feels the need to post whenever she's at the gym.

"Back at it!"
"Back again!"
"Can't believe I've managed to come today"
"Leg day"

NOBODY CARES

Photosofplanets · 11/01/2020 00:30

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theendoftheendoftheend · 11/01/2020 00:34

There's a terrible open letter to prince Harry doing the rounds on Facebook at the moment, did a little throw up in my mouth when I saw it (the first time) DD is a gem and encouraged me not to comment.

theendoftheendoftheend · 11/01/2020 00:35

What the hell is a 'crotchfruit'??

Photosofplanets · 11/01/2020 00:40

Crotchfruit = child/ren

Makes me feel very very very sick

june2007 · 11/01/2020 00:45

Aso done that thing when you write a load then think no and delete it all. Somtimes it,s best to back away.

VimFuego101 · 11/01/2020 00:52

What's the open letter to Prince Harry? Grin

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 11/01/2020 00:52

There's two I can think of off the top of my head that really annoy me:

A family friend who is very dramatic and posts things like photos of her kid on a drip (he was dehydrated not seriously ill) and about her dad being in remission from cancer and how evil it is - he had pre cancerous cells that were removed. He's not in remission. She posted this not long after my DH died from cancer and it really took all that I had not to say anything about how offensive I found her dramatic rubbish.

The second is a neighbour who lives with her mum and posts stuff about her "hot young male neighbours" ogling her as she sunbathes, and checks in at Oxford Uni. We don't have any hot young male neighbours. She lives next door to a single mum on one side and an elderly couple on the other. On days she is checking in to the uni, she is actually in her house, across from mine, 70 miles from Oxford. She's a complete fantasist.

managedmis · 11/01/2020 00:52

New Year's post :

As you can see from the picture of some of my lovely gifts, my family and friends (both old and new) are supporting me on my continued journey of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical development and growth.

^^

No-one gives a shit about your spiritual growth. Honestly. They really don't.

Sumsuch · 11/01/2020 00:54

Crotchfruit = children

I hate when people go live Angry

" please repost to support...whatever"

Theres too much actually

managedmis · 11/01/2020 01:01

I will get absolutely flamed for this but if I see another même of a frantic, end of term frazzled owl vs a fresh, start of term Swan to indicate how hard teachers work, I'll shoot myself.

No other profession does this. Nada

theendoftheendoftheend · 11/01/2020 01:03

Crotchfruit = child/ren

Makes me feel very very very sick

Envy Envy Envy not envy!!

1300cakes · 11/01/2020 01:05

People who post ancient myths, like over 20 years old. Like the one "if you are being mugged at an atm put your password in backwards". That was practically the first thing ever written on the internet it's that old.

If it was at least a new myth I would roll my eyes but at least it would be some thing new.

Has anyone seen the fake news detector on Facebook yet? That might save us some work respondeto these nit wits.

theendoftheendoftheend · 11/01/2020 01:05

@VimFuego101

*Dear Harry,

Darling Harry.

We have watched you grow from a smiley, cheeky little boy, who adored his mother, his brother and his little trio, to one who quickly had to grow up. Overnight.

We watched , along with the whole world, as your life, your grief and your pain....was blasted all over our television screens.

We watched you walk behind ...that...carriage.

We watched you, a little 12 year old boy, be expected to keep up with the men around you, and emotionally cope with what you were being faced with. You had no hand to hold. No arms to bury yourself in. No one wiping away the tears you no doubt desperately wanted to cry.

We watched, little one, as Princess Diana was paraded, slowly, in front of millions. But she wasn't a Princess to you. She was 'mummy'. And you suddenly lost the someone who made you smile, laugh, and gave you affection like no other person in your life.

We watched as the world kept turning. But yours stood still.

We watched you struggle as a teenager and young adult with this new reality.

We watched you rebel against the expectations of 'your lot'.

We watched you just want to be normal. Despite being reminded that you're not.

We watched you push the boundaries of what a member of the royal family could do. Where they could serve. Who they could be.

We watched as you tried to find fulfillment.

We watched you establish the Invictus Games, so many charities, and help so many gain purpose back in their lives, when you were still struggling to find your own .

We watched as you, finally, found someone warm, caring, happy....someone who, like your mother, wasn't afraid to show you love and affection in public. She loved you, and she didn't care who knew it or what people thought.

We watched the press pick her apart.

We watched you hate them for it.

We watched you become a husband infront of millions. A much happier man.

We watched you become a father, and saw how proud you were of your wife and son.

We watched you protect with everything you have - your own little family. We know why: we saw what happened to your mother. We saw. The media is a cruel, heartless beast.

We watched as you found your calling. You found who you are. You found more of Harry. And less of the Prince.

We watched you smile again. A beaming smile. Holding your baby. Holding your wife's hand.

We watched you be brave. So brave.
You've given us enough.
You owe us no explanation.

We watched as you got a taste of a more fulfilling, quieter, healthier life.

We watched you shock the world by admitting that, yes, you just wanted to live it.
As Harry. Meghan. And Archie.

We watched you say, Prince or not- I am also a father, a husband, and a man. Let me be one.

And so ...

We will be watching, proudly, as you go off to start your new chapter. You won't lose us.

We will be watching, relieved, as you finally get to live your days as YOU choose to. That little boy, with his head down, in his big suit, walking behind his mother's dead body - that little boy who has had to rebuild his world, do his 'royal' duties, and have his mental health dragged through the mud ever since.

We will be watching - as much as YOU decide we can - intrigued as to what you will get up to. Where you'll be. What. Who.

Go .... be strong.

Go .... be happy.

Go.... Be....You.

We will be watching.

And so will she ♥️ xxxx

©Mummy Mumbles 2020*

Careful you don't heave on your keyboard as you read it...

1300cakes · 11/01/2020 01:08

If you share a known fake news post it is automatically detected and greyed out.

Biting your tongue on social media
alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 · 11/01/2020 01:46

Some of you seem to be facebook friends with some right wankers! I just block anyone who posts shite, so I don't see any of this kind of nonsense on my feed.

ThePinkiestPonk · 11/01/2020 01:54

Christ that open letter to Harry just made me sick in my mouth
Who writes that shit ?

ODFOkaren · 11/01/2020 04:02

Fuck me what a load of drivel.

I’ve seen a load of simpering Price Harry/Diana bullshit posted on face book too.

Prince harry wouldn’t spit on you if you were on fire, peasant, he doesn’t give a shit about your waffle that you’d like to do viral ( that tripe written by a bloody blogger).

Graphista · 11/01/2020 04:15

Omg all the time!

I have one relative who falls for all the “This is the new way carjackers are working” crap hoax posts - and another who constantly gets into arguments correcting them! Lots of snopes links.

The ones sharing pics of “missing” kids or spouses/partners that aren’t official police ones. I always think you don’t know if it’s people trying to escape abuse that have “gone missing” or if it’s parents/ex partners/spouses that have been denied access that are posting trying to track down their victims.

We have a very good, very generous “free cycle” type local page on Facebook where I live, they’ve truly done some amazing things (the page runners) as well as the usual good of people being able to pass on perfectly good items they’re getting rid of to folk who need the items but are not doing so well financially. I’ve used it myself for both. But recently there was a post shared, massive sob story but there were a good few elements to the story that didn’t add up. I was tempted to contact page runners then saw some very carefully worded posts in the comments suggesting other ways this person could access help that to anyone with sense I hope were disguised/more diplomatic ways of saying “are you sure this is on the up and up?”

A good few of my friends of many years (we’re late 40’s) have recently gone vegan and are being very self righteous and virtue signalling about it. I’ve been veggie 31 years - which they know - and it’s setting my teeth on edge a bit, especially any comments about veggies aren’t doing enough!

The “show you’re there for those suffering mental illness” ones get my goat too - they’re generally posted by the least sympathetic people.

The aforementioned paedo posts what really annoys me about them is such posts do the paedos a favour as they can prevent obtaining a conviction.

BUT

I see far more on Facebook that I do like. I was an army brat and ex was army too so lots of my friends and some of my family (military on one side too) are spread wide and far across the world.

I love seeing their joys and triumphs. Love seeing pics of their dc, family and pets, scenic pics of places I used to live, or hope to one day visit, holiday snaps, achievements and awards celebrated.

It helps me feel still connected to them and gives me hope as I plan to when I’m well enough make visits and meet the dc I haven’t yet (it’s starting to be grandchildren too! And no I don’t think we’re old enough but I’m afraid we are) and visit old haunts or new favourites.

It’s not all bad

Spudlet · 11/01/2020 08:36

All that ‘we watched you do this Harry, we watched you do that’.... mate, I think everyone watching him is basically the problem here 🙄

trappedsincesundaymorn · 11/01/2020 09:07

I'm usually pretty good at holding back, but after reading "I am FUMING, that's the 3rd time my wing mirror has been hit by the brewery van since I moved here 4 months ago. Why do they always come this way when the road is so narrow?"...my reply was....."well Doris, if you'd done you research you would have known that the road was not wide enough for a car to be parked on it, hence the reason all your neighbours don't have front gardens but use it for off street parking. As for why the lorry goes that way, it might be something to do with it being the only access to the pub, as stopping at the top of the hill and rolling the kegs down it is not the done thing apparently"

I'm now banned from the group Grin

Gwilt160981 · 11/01/2020 09:15

I came away from social media. Only use YouTube and this forum. I'm more interested in doing me family tree than read about people taking direct swipes at folks,and seeing those inspirational life quotes 🙄 did my head in. It's like people needed to keep posting them when their life goes to 💩 and they don't do nowt about it. They use Facebook to keep dwelling on stuff.

NemophilistRebel · 11/01/2020 09:18

I had to bite my tongue at a man posting how women are now snowflakes because a woman wasn’t happy about being told to cheer up by a builder on a site she was walking past

He had no idea