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Is this rude? Turning off light leaving me standing in the dark

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weemouse · 06/01/2020 14:44

Let me explain; We have a big ceiling light and then a tall floor lamp behind the couch, due to position of the floor standard lamp, when entering the livingroom, you would need to put the big light on first, then walk over to put the standard light on (which is a better light as its a dimmer and just the angle into the Room), then pop the big light off - and then vice versa for leaving the room. (sounds a hassle it takes seconds to do it)

Last night after finishing watching TV, I get up and turn the TV off, start walking over to the wall switch for the big light, and before I can get there, my husband, who is on the couch, leans back and turns off the standard lamp completely, leaving me flailing in the complete dark to find my way to the wall switch, I mean its only a couple of feet, but really dis-orientating.

My husband has done this a couple of times historically, I've told him it's rude, we've had words, and he's just done it again last night!

It pisses me off no end that he does this.

Would this annoy you to be left standing in the dark like this trying to find the wall light? Or do I need to get a grip?

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reefedsail · 06/01/2020 19:43

Lord, MN can be humourless.

Pumpkintopf · 06/01/2020 22:49

Yes it's rude and more to the point your updates suggest this isn't the only issue. I presume he's your child's step dad? In which case are you defending your child adequately from this mean sounding man?

Equanimitas · 06/01/2020 22:57

If he's doing this just to be nasty, it would be great to foil him by putting a remote control in place without telling hm so that, as soon as he switches off, you put the light back on.

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NearlyOutedMyself · 06/01/2020 23:19

I'd buy a head torch and start wearing that around the house.

OvenGlovesWillTearUsApart · 06/01/2020 23:54

Set fire to him next time he does it.

MyKingdomForBrie · 07/01/2020 00:00

Sounds like an overall pattern of nasty behaviour. As you can see from the responses in a normal related this wouldn't really be a thing but in the circumstances you describe and the man you describe it's nasty.

LemonPrism · 07/01/2020 00:03

Is this really something you actually think about? Are you sure you don't have other marriage problems you're attaching this to?

Icanflyhigh · 07/01/2020 00:12

It's not rude, it's mildly inconvenient and you are overreacting massively.

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